Q: Often, I find that I don't express myself
as clearly and precisely when I speak as when I write.
S: Do you write as fast as you speak? Or do you
take about the same time? Both writing and speaking originate from the mind via
thinking. The answers to these questions will shed some light as to
whether your mind works at the same speed in the form of the spoken word
versus the written word. Some of us write better than speak. I'm one
example too. It is quite common that there is some
Q: Especially when someone asks me a question
or when I'm in a debate, my speech can be considered slow in reaction and
sometimes chaotic, i.e. not answering to the point. My mind can go "blank"
sometimes. Later, I would regret and say "I should have said that!" or "I
should not have said that!"
S: Maybe you can email the person to
Q: I really
wished that I could speak as well as I write!
S: I think everyone wishes they can write and
Q: There's a
stumbling block somewhere in my mind. Does this mean that my mind is always
wandering somewhere and I'm not focused on the moment that I'm
S: To answer this, we
need to go back to the first questions above. Maybe your mind is less focused
when speaking and/or listening? Do you practise meditation and/or chanting?
(You can check out relevant courses in TDE-Weekly: www.TheDailyEnlightenment.com) Practice
can help increase mindfulness.
Q: Also, I realised that most of the time, when
someone is speaking, my mind will be busy thinking of how to answer that
question instead of listening intently before
S: Aha, this
is a sign that there is lack of mindfulness in listening. The mind can only
handle one object at a time. Even though it can rapidly change subjects.
When the subjects are changed too haphazardly, eg. going to and fro between
listening and thinking how to reply, it can ironically result in not
listening well and not thinking well, which results in not answering well.
The non-intuitive truth is, if we listen attentively, the answer to the
question of how to reply appropriately can arise accurately by natural
rapid thinking right after, almost instantly.
- A Fellow TDE Reader + Shen Shi'an
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