Re: needing help
- i think thats true. but how does someone forgive themselves from a
relationship that they didnt want to end at all? while it is hard
to forgive those who have damaged us emotionally and possibly scared
us, like i said, how do you forgive yourself? was it because one
person was more emotionally attached than the other or was it
because it was an illusion that we have to seek to forgive
ourselves? what kind of quilt are we speaking of? quilt over
what? as you can see by my writing, i still hold anger towards the
person who i believe has done me wrong. but quilt, i guess i have
to dig way to deep to find quilt. is it to say that maybe i was
totally right in everything? no. i see my own mistakes, i see how i
might have perhaps put up "walls" what i came to realize is that we
should probably never give ourelves wholly to another person. love.
simply love them. and by loving them in any way that they are. your
life becomes yours not theirs to do away with. investing yourself
in a long term relationship only to see it end, i think no one in
their right mind would want to go down that path. we desire, we
want and we try to work relationships through our hope that in the
end we will have won. its not your fault. things die and all we can
do is give it time and move on. learn from it and separate. you cant
take a magic pill to make it go away. i know its tough girl.
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> <crzbln1@> wrote:
> > I have been trying for a long time to get my life together. I
> > womderful man whi loves me, now he has told me he dosent want me
> > more. I have alot of guilt, which has been causing trouble in my
> > with him. He want a divorce and i guess i deserve that. How do i
> > head out of my ....
> Sometimes we have to lay down our selves to see where we are. It
> never easy to admit that some of your problems have effected ahard
> relationship that you cherish. And God knows it is never easy to
> loose of someone you love. Guilt is a very powerful emotion. We
> to confront our guilt and release its hold on our minds soul and
> heart. Until you rid yourself of this you are going to have a
> time finding happiness. Sometimes we really have to forgiveit
> ourselves. We need to tell someone of the burden we carry. Then
> maybe we can lay it down. Love is a wonderful thing. Sometimes
> will spring forward again. Forgive yourself so others can also
> forgive you.