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    [NOTE: The lack of manners of Arab (and other Muslim) men towards Arab (and other Muslim) women is caused by RACISM: Arab women do not normally marry out of
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      [NOTE: The lack of manners of Arab (and other Muslim) men towards
      Arab (and other Muslim) women is caused by RACISM: Arab women do not
      normally marry out of their culture so there is no need for Arab men
      to compete with foreign men for their hand. The result? A growing
      percentage of Arab women cannot find suitable husbands. In every
      country including America, Muslim women outnumber Muslim men, many of
      whom have either been killed, imprisoned, or married western women.
      Western women are considered "cheap" by Arab standards because they
      do not demand large dowries or maintainence from their husbands. The
      success rate of these inter-cultural marriages is even less
      impressive. Furthermore, for every 5 western converts to Islam, 4 of
      them are women. SO... all you lonely non-Muslim guys out there dying
      for a frustrated Muslim lady. All you have to say is "I bear witness
      that there is no god but God and I bear witness that Mohammad is the
      messenger of God" and get a good job, and these amazing and exotic
      women are potentially available to you for marriage. In this day and
      age when a faithful, child-bearing woman is so hard to find, you'll
      never regret joining the world-wide multi-cultural community of
      Islam. And my sisterly advice to Muslim converts: don't limit your
      attention to immigrant men who will never fully accept or understand
      you. A lot of American boys adore women, and would be willing
      to "wait until marriage" and convert to Islam if you gave them half a
      chance, so don't be so orthodox that you rule out this option.]

      Single life beats marriage to an emasculated man

      By Zvi Bar'el

      Fired Saudi journalist pulls no punches in her Internet attacks on
      Arab men.

      "The marriage trains don't pass at stations where Saudi women are
      standing and waiting in shame. For many of them, sighs have replaced
      the vitality they used to have, but few know that the men in the East
      are incapable of fulfilling their dreams."

      Thus wrote Saudi publicist Wajiha al Huwayder on the British Arabic
      Web Site Ilaf, which deals with current events. The title of the
      provocative article was no less biting than its content: "A call to
      Arab women: A single life is a thousand times better than marriage to
      a man in this miserable East."

      Up to about half a year ago, Al Huwayder had no reason to write on
      the Internet. She was an important journalist for the Saudi newspaper
      Al Watan, where with great daring she expressed her views about the
      status of women in Arab countries in general and in Saudi Arabia in

      Last August, Saudi Arabia's Crown Prince Abdullah ordered that her
      work at the newspaper be terminated because she "damaged the
      foundations of the nation and wrote about issues not permitted by
      Shari'a" (Islamic religious law)." Al Huwayder is not the only
      journalist to have been dismissed in Saudi Arabia. Three months
      earlier, for example, the editor of Al Watan, Jamal Khashoggi, was
      fired in the wake of a cartoon he published. The cartoon depicted a
      suicide bomber with an explosives belt tied around his waist and
      religious rulings shaped like sticks of dynamite rolled up inside.

      Saudi Arabia, which is conducting a far-reaching public relations
      campaign regarding its intentions to carry out reforms, at the same
      time imposes very strict limits to the framework in which these
      reforms will take place. Unrestricted writing in the Saudi press is
      still not included in the anticipated reforms. And thus, as long as
      Saudi Arabia prevents its journalists from writing about social
      problems inside the kingdom, even many of the important Arabic
      newspapers in the world aren't willing to publish such stories, since
      the papers themselves are owned by Saudi Arabians or by Arab
      governments that are not interested in getting involved in conflict
      with the kingdom.

      Al Huwayder therefore found a refuge in writing on the Internet, and
      from there she embarked on a major attack against those whom she
      defines as "the pathetic and emasculated men of the East." And this
      is what she writes:

      "Most Arab men have been emasculated since they were young. They have
      no power to give, and therefore they are incapable of granting a
      respectable life to anyone. There are no exceptions here, according
      to the rule that says: A person who lacks something, is unable to
      give it."

      From here Al Huwayder embarks, together with her female readers, on a
      journey around the Arab countries.

      "Let's begin with the original land of the Arabs, Saudi Arabia. The
      most important characteristic borne by the men of this country is the
      impotence complex. That's the reason why the most common medication
      among them is a drug against impotence. These men spend more money on
      its purchase than all the men in the world, in order to achieve the
      missing sense of masculinity. If we examine them under a microscope,
      we will see that they are pathetic ... whereas the men of the oil-
      producing countries were educated on the principle that states that
      they are the best, the only ones. Their foremost wish is the kaffiyeh
      and the akal [the traditional Arab headcloth and cords], after they
      have sat themselves down on a chair to which the title "Director" is
      affixed. They are afflicted by a chronic germ that has determined
      that guardianship (of a woman) is a sign of masculinity, and that
      without it their limbs will not be in balance, and their wives will
      not do well."

      From here Al Huwayder goes on to Iraq, where "blood flows as quickly
      as the flowing of the waters of the Tigris and Euphrates rivers. And
      what remains of its men? The remains of a Nazi regime." And so on to
      Syria, Jordan, and even Palestine and Egypt - countries in which the
      men, says Al Huwayder, are pathetic and humiliated. They live in poor
      countries "but material poverty is no disgrace, the disgrace is their
      poverty of thought, which prevents them from realizing their
      ignorance when they link the honor of the nation to the blood of a

      Al Huwayder ends her geographic survey of men without finding even
      one country in which there are men who are worthy of Saudi women or
      of Arab women in general. She says that in Saudi Arabia "there is
      nothing that should arouse in you the feeling of shame at being
      single, or regret about the years of solitude. The land of the Arabs
      is full of men who are losers, men who are not worthy of you or of
      your status. Is it logical that after a long fast you should break
      your fast with a meal lacking taste or smell, and accompany defective
      men all your lives?"

      The dead half of society

      Al Huwayder has strong words for Saudi women as well. In another
      article she published on the site, she accuses the women of having
      become accustomed "to laziness, to relying on someone else, and to
      waiting for the men to bring loot and gifts from "the hunting
      fields." Most of the women in the Gulf states are opposed to an
      improvement in their conditions. The women complain about the fact
      that society denies them the right to decide, whether it's a decision
      about whom to marry or agreement to have lifesaving surgery done
      [women need the approval of their guardian for operations - Z.B.].
      They naively believe that society will grant them these rights
      without a specific demand on their part. Women will continue to be
      the dead half of society as long as they run after the newest
      products of cosmetics companies or the latest fashion in clothing."

      Al Huwayder is not the only Arab woman, or even the only Saudi
      Arabian woman, who has come out and loudly demanded women's rights in
      Arab society, and maybe this is where the important innovation lies.
      Until recently, it was the Egyptian Dr. Nawal al Saadawi who held
      aloft the banner of Arab feminism. Saadawi is a 73-year-old
      psychiatrist, who has already written 27 books devoted mainly to the
      psychological problems of women in masculine Arab society, and
      particularly in Egyptian society.

      About 30 years ago she stood trial for her statements about clerics
      in general, and about the way in which they exploit women in
      particular. She was not sentenced because of a technical hitch in the
      prosecution's case. The wives of presidents and kings are also
      usually among those competing for the title "bearer of the feminist
      banner." Suzanne Mubarak, the wife of the Egyptian president, for
      example, heads the organization for the status of women, and
      organizes many conferences relating to the status of women but they
      are of ceremonial importance only. The same is true of Queen Rania of
      Jordan, and the wife of the ruler of Qatar, Sheik Hamad bin Khalifa
      al Thani. These high-ranking women have not succeeded thus far in
      effecting any change in the legal status of women in Arab countries,
      not to mention the way in which women are treated by religious
      institutions and religious laws.

      "One has to differentiate between those "official" women and
      feminists in Arab countries," says a Jordanian woman journalist. "All
      Suzanne Mubarak or Queen Rania want is to maximize women's rights in
      the framework of the law and religion - they don't see that that is
      in effect the root of the evil. Genuine feminists, like Saadawi or Al
      Huwayder, want to change the law and the interpretation of religious
      law. That is the work that must be done if we really want to change
      the status of the Arab woman. There is very little chance of that,
      since those who determine the laws in Arab countries, and those who
      interpret the religious law, are all men."

      It's hard to believe that even the writing of Al Huwayder will bring
      about any change in the legal status of women in Saudi Arabia, where
      they are even forbidden to drive a car or to go abroad without
      permission from their husbands. But the use she is making of the
      Internet is very important for increasing the awareness of Saudi and
      Arab women of their status and their situation in society. Because
      while the Saudi woman is prevented from talking to a strange man or
      going to meetings without supervision, the Internet is becoming their
      actual meeting place. No less important is the reaction of the men to
      things written by Al Huwayder and other women on the Internet.

      Dictator at home

      Al Huwayder and other outspoken women have been accused of sacrilege
      and received threats, and Samir Abid, an Iraqi journalist who lives
      in France, has come to their defense, writing on the same Web site.
      Abid believes that there are religious excuses for the limitations on
      the status of women, but the real reasons for it are "masculine" and
      relate to the fact that Arab men fear the entry of women into
      politics and economics, and the increase in women's power to the
      point where they will compete with men.

      "Is their any difference between a Saudi man and a Saudi woman?" asks
      Abid. "Of course not. If that is the case, why is it that when a
      woman writes in a newspaper or on the Internet, the men and those
      with religious power define her as ruining society, and as wanting to
      establish secularism, and accuse her of being a wanton woman and a
      heretic? What will you men do if Saudi women request asylum in Sweden
      or in the United States in order to attain their freedom there? What
      answer will you give them then?

      "The Saudi man behaves like a dictator in his home, in the street and
      in the work place, but when he goes abroad, he suddenly becomes a
      gentleman, he knows how to behave modestly, how to dress and move his
      shoulders, he conducts light conversations with young women and
      escorts them courteously." Let that same man behave at home the way
      he behaves abroad, is Abid's request in the name of Saudi women and
      Arab women in general.

      "Women will continue to be an ornament in Arab homes," writes Abid,
      but there is one thing that he and other Arab men cannot make light
      of - the status of women has become a subject of discussion in Arab
      countries, and the activities of non-governmental women's
      organizations have become a new trend, which is likely, together with
      the "spirit of reforms" that is now in the air, to achieve something,
      in spite of everything.

      The Saudi Fashion Board idea of what a woman should wear.
      (Reuters )




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