Re: [ujeni] AIDS in Africa
- Deepa, hi, and I deleted Liz's message from this....I wouldn't have thought
it if not for your note and it's good to know what you're doing. Did I do
better than Don?
These next 2 messages are here because when I went on egroups "ujeni"
"members" I got only partial individual email addresses and couldn't get
them to copy all the way out. For those of you who have computer smarts,
what's the trick?
Jesse Johnson..Are you on here. I have some pictures to send to you and
Julie. What is your address? Alan sent us the ones you took via email;
some were GREAT!
Mike Sobel...I'm sending pictures to Colorado. So, if you're wandering,
that's where they'll be.
For "ujeni" members all....Well, I've been quiet now for just as long as I
Has anybody wondered what it would be like to be a young person in Africa
right now? All the talk about safe sex or abstinence ignores one critical
factor. How do you allow yourself to fall in love and consider marriage?
Say you're an HIV free young man or woman. Before you let yourself date or
become interested in someone do you ask him/her to have a test because you
don't want to fall in love and contemplate marriage with someone who you
will never be able to have unprotected sex with? Because, if you should
fall in love with someone who's positive you'd have to ask yourself is
he/she is worth never having children. With that statistic of up to 60% of
kids between l5 and l9 in some areas being positive, I guess if you are
positive you had better limit your consideration of someone to love to that
60%. (and conversely if you're negative you only have 40% to chose from)
Both of you being positive, you can practice unprotected sex but had
better not because of the fact you'll likely have an HIV positive child and
will have to watch it die if you live so long. Then there is this to think
..once you are married ( an HIV negative couple) you better be able to
trust your spouse never to wander. Either that or have protected sex
your whole lives together also giving up the chance to have children.
I'm not sure how many Americans could be educated to make those
kinds of decisions wisely. Not happy choices for life! I'm glad my
children and my grandchildren are not African. Too bad that the real
hope is to educate those who are too young and immature to really
grasp what these choices mean to life....(maybe 5 to l2 years old before
sexual activity starts except in the cases of the rape of young girls)
I can't quite divorce myself from the personal nature of the problem because
I got to know so many wife guardians who were sitting by their husbands'
hospital beds helping them through the time it took them to die. They were
sad at the sickness and impending loss but also angry at their husbands,
knowing that they would be dying, themselves, because of the b-----d's
infidelity. Some actually wanted to talk about it. It was very hard for
to have such mixed feelings because they felt guilty.