Dealing with people
- View SourceDoes there exist a positive side to any negative language, the use of
force (psychological or physical)?
This is important, because those of us who spend a lot of time
working towards convincing others of what we believe, often find that
resistance appears to be almost conspiratorial. We ask, how can they
not understand? What weak arguments they use? They appear to be
stupid, misguided ..., lead astray by a Judas Goat.
When we treat people without respect, even if they appear to be
enemies we are lowering ourselves to their level. The right use of
language includes the ability to have the patience of Job, while we
persist in a dialogue that includes everyone and where, even as we
bite our lip, we respect everyone.
The question is one of consciousness, we may feel betrayed by someone
else's apparently sleezy tactics and that may fuel our desire for
revenge or license to rebut with vigour and insult, but that is not
the way to succeed.
There is no glory in achieving justice, the reward can only be
justice. Service to others is not something to capitalize on, it is
to be done with a spirit of generosity, compassion and love. If we
do not achieve this we will find ourselves open to abuse in ways that
we may not envision at the present.
I have no doubt that the abolition of interest on money is a
requirement for peace and stability in the world. I have no doubt
that those that are in a position of power to manage usury as a tool
are of a lesser consciousness than those who see a world without
usury. But that does not condone any stance that is abusive towards
anyone, those of us that are working towards peace via the
eradication of interest on money, must be ambassadors of peace in
everyway, every action and every argument must not only hold the key
for peace but must be an act of peace itself.
The problem with peace, is that the moment you have to defend it
you've lost it. Life is a game where you either surrender to God
(Buddha, the truth or whatever label you wish) or get murdered by the
devil. Surrendering to God is loving your enemy, because you
understand that he is ultimately a victim of ignorance, fear,
weakness and perturbing emotions (hate, jealousy, envy, anger, lust,
desire or want). Any of us who have transcended these emotions to
some degree experience a greater level of peace within ourselves and
thus emanate that peace in our actions and words.
No one is dispensable, the anguish of becoming more enlightened is
painful for everyone, realising that one has not been all one could
have been or discovering that one has been abusive of others is
sometimes devastating. For this, we must be the shoulder that anyone
can lean on. If our enemies find console in us we will not have to
fight for peace.
Finally, you may ask, what do the powerful need from anyone anyhow?
The point is that all sentient beings have two fundamental things in
1) They suffered birth a traumatic and apparently violent change
where no knowledge is available to comfort or guarantee well being.
2) They will inevitably suffer death as we all will, once again
thrown into oblivion with no reference and no handles to hold on.
Thus, for the powerful, the only solution to this puzzle is to find
peace within themselves, that is something they certainly do not
have. If we become a source of that peace for them, we will have the
one and single commodity that means everything to them, of course we
have to be willing to help through the painful process of
realization. For that, we need genuine forgiveness for all.
Does anyone have a formula or knowledge of how abusive and forceful
action and/or language is good? Does anybody who wants to end
suffering really believe that they have something to gain from it
personally or materially? There is no Glory in life, there is only
learning and isn't it prophetic to find that all levels of learning
occur together from the thief to the prophet. Perhaps, the message
is that the environment for peace is one that holds tolerance for all
levels of ignorance, because it understands the pain of realising
each or our particular levels of that ignorance.
Best wishes to all,