Dear Representatives -
I have contacted you in the past regarding a child support issue. I
have taken the liberty to enclose at the bottom of this message my
original letter to you. I am thankful for the 2-responses I have
received from the mass mailing I sent out with my original letter.
I am writing you today because I have one more vital concern
regarding this child support issue.
In the 7 (now 8) notices I have received from child support, every
one of these notices disclosed my full name, social security number,
and date of birth. All mailed in seperate notices. It appears from
the last notice I received (last week), that I am missing a notice.
I am alarmed in that the missing piece of mail could have been
misplaced, and hence someone is now privy to my personal information
and I may be the next identity theft victim. How many times have you
received your neighbor's mail in your box? I have had this happen
As you are well aware of identity theft issues, and I do see changes
happening in that credit unions that once used your social security
number as the account number are no longer practicing this.
I am perplexed that non-custodial parents are held in such a
disregard as to have our personal information displayed on notices
that are put through the US mail.
I am willing to come to your office and discuss this issue in further
detail at your request, and I will submit proof of this when asked.
Thank you for your time,
Lynda J. Allen
Milton, WA 98354-0345
E-Mail = lallenwa@...
15 August 2005
To Whom It May Concern:,
RE: Possibility for new law RE: children, child support, and custody.
My name is Lynda Allen. I am a non-custodial mother of a 13-year-old
daughter. I will keep this letter brief and to the point, but would
like to point you to my website in the event you would like to seek
further information on my case;
or for a
faster reference look up "the truth Lynda Allen" on Google and it's
the top link.
In 1995, the court granted custody of my daughter (then aged 3 years
9 mos) to my former boyfriend. I left him after a domestic violent
incident took place in the presence of my daughter. When I witnessed
the response of my daughter from seeing her mother getting beaten, I
knew I could not put her through that again.
At that time, I had faith in the judicial system and believed that my
daughter and I could seek protection from him, and we would be spared
any more violence. I was wrong. After 5+ years of fighting a system
that does not work, I came to the conclusion that our system not only
fails to follow it's own rules, but further that it does not work for
the victims of violence, but rather enables the abuser to continue
his abuse in other ways.
Following the death of my father (May 2000), and the illness of my
mother (Oct 2000), I gave up my battle in the courtroom arena and
vowed to never return. Since that time, in my spare time I built a
website to educate other mothers about a system that does not work to
the detriment of our children, and to expose the truth. The
remainder of the time I cared for my ailing mother. During that time
I collected a small income through a COPES program. 5-years came and
went and I paid my child support through this program while caring
for my mother. I saw my daughter one time in all those years, and it
was through a supervised visit that lasted less then 1-hour.
In May of 2005 my mother passed away. I decided to take a break from
work, as my "care-giving" job demanded my time 7 days a week, and at
times 24-7. I'm glad I could be there for my mother, but I am tired
and needed this break. I opted that I would return to seeking work
in the fall, this would give me time to take care of my mother's
affairs, and have a sufficient break.
On the 12th of August 2005 I checked my mailboxes. I have a mailbox
in a different county then my personal residence because my violent x
that has custody of my daughter still hunts my whereabouts. Before I
left him he told me several times that he would take my life and
stick my body in a storage facility so that he could have access to
my daughter. I went into hiding in 1998 because he continued to
stalk me, driving by my home which at that time was located in a
separate city then he resides. I have registered my driver's license
to an old childhood address, knowing he could get information about
me. I've taken grave measures to keep my location secluded and
confidential so I could stay safe. He continues to stalk me through
my estranged Aunt, whose husband had molested my sisters and me when
we were children. My sisters and I filed suit against this Uncle
This aunt continues to press family members for information about
me. I don't understand why my x is so obsessed with me, he got my
daughter, but apparently he is not satisfied with that.
In my mailbox on 12-August, I was greeted with 7-envalopes from
Department of Social and Health Services. They are demanding child
support from me, and further notifying me that they are trying to
garnish a bank account that no longer exists.
Please don't misunderstand my message here, I do believe that there
are some children that do need the child support and I am not opposed
to the idea at all of them having it.
However, what I am writing you about and I hope you will hear me out,
is that in my case, (and many others I'm certain) child support is
used as a tool to continue to keep me destitute. I am upset at
having to pay, and struggle financially and at times can not eat
because I have no funds. I drive a run down dilapidated vehicle, and
I rent a place to live. I have no savings, and nothing of value. I
have no "career" I've fallen into the minimum wage jobs because I
lack skills required for good jobs. Anything I make, he takes.
Lets talk about my x. His name is Mark Richard Inderbitzin and he
resides in Pierce County. He owns his home and property outright.
He drives a brand new truck. He has an airplane, boat, and a vintage
car collection. This is just naming a few items of his "estate". He
had enough "cash" sitting around that he was able to loan a woman
some cash in the sum of - $30,458.34 he now has a judgment against
her for unpaid funds
Mark Inderbitzin Vs Gisele Edith Gist Judgement Cause No 99-9-10724-2
He just built a new large garage on his property.
Anyone can get information on him via the internet by
going to the Washington Court Web linx at
and do a search on him.
To view his property go to
and look up
his home address of 8012 Waller Road East Tacoma WA 98443. I just
want you to be able to validate what I say.
In my current position, I am fighting an overwhelming
amount of depression. It doesn't matter what I do, I can never get
ahead of the game. A system that was set in place to protect my
daughter and I, failed us and I lost my only child. I am not allowed
to share a life with my daughter, and even if they changed their mind
and allowed me to visit her at this stage of the game, I'm afraid to
because it would only be an information gathering for him to further
his harassment on me.
I wish that there was a law set in place that mandates child
support "ONLY" when BOTH PARENTS ARE ALLOWED TO PARTICIPATE IN THE
CHILD'S LIFE. If the court excludes one parent from the child's
life, then they should not be held financially responsible. That's
like paying for a car that was stolen. You don't reap the reward and
at least with a car you have the option of theft insurance.
Not only do I have to deal with loosing my child to an abuser, I have
to remain a destitute woman because my abuser continues to demand
that I pay 300 a month in child support, for a child that I cannot
see. I see that his wealth continues to grow, and I remain destitute
and depressed. This is not the life I had imagined for myself.
Please don't write back to me with another form letter
stating: "get a lawyer" FOR WHAT? The only thing that would
do at this point is make me rack up another bill or loose a bunch of
money I don't have to go play in a system that does not work. It is
not even fair.
I'm at a place in my life that I am beginning to explore the option
of suicide what do I have to live for? Where is the light at the
end of my tunnel? I've lost my parents prematurely. I lost my only
child to an abuser and I am not able to see her. I have fought a
long and hard battle to have all of my efforts lost, and I have
written many letters to change my situation only to receive the
standard form letter stating; "get a lawyer". What do I have to
live for? What happened to my "American dream"? For me, death is
the only way out. PLEASE GIVE ME A OPTION.
I have never been a weak minded individual. I have never before
explored this option. I am begging for someone to change this
situation for me and give me a reason to remain. I need a reason.