The Simple Life - Family Organization Tips
- The Simple Life
God is looking for those with whom He can do the impossible--what a
pity that we
plan only the things that we can do by ourselves." --A.W.Tozer
Every experience God gives us, every person He puts in our path, is
the perfect preparation only He can see.
FAMILY ORGANIZING TIPS
Family organizing tips started out to be Organizing Tips for
Large Families, but then I began to think that many of these ideas,
or variations of them will work for all families, large or small.
This article came from a plea from a cousin who is adopting 3 young
girls from Russia. Since they already have 3 children, she wants to
be organized and have some ideas that will give her time to nurture
the whole family so that she won't be overwhelmed. Here are some
ideas sent by readers, and things I have picked up from others.
In one foster family, with 8 adopted children I met, both
parents work full time. How do they do this? Mom works 3 -12 hour
night shifts per week. Her mother lives with them and watches the
younger children on the days when she sleeps until noon. Dad does
all the shopping. WOW! Mom never even has to stop for a gallon of
milk. Menus are a must to keep from running to the store all the
time. Buying in bulk is also a must. The teenagers are responsible
for laundry. This takes some instruction in the beginning, but
after that, they are on their own.
A family calendar is a must. EVERYONE'S appointments are on
ONE calendar. The kids know that if they don't get the Band Concert
on the calendar, they might be going alone. Mom or Dad check for
notes after school, to jot down dates well in advance.
One family who adopted 3 children from overseas, realized that
these children would be overwhelmed by all the "stuff" we have here
in America. They put all but one toy for each child in the basement
and did not tell the children there WAS a basement. Gradually more
toys were introduced. After a year the children found out there was
a basement. I'm not sure how they did this (was the door to the
basement in a secret place?) But regardless, variations of this
might just well be a good idea for all families.
~put clothes together as outfits.
~ be sensitive to emotional needs. Children, adopted or not, are
often scared of new places or things. Let them get to know a
babysitter by visiting several times ahead of time, or having
babysitters visit often, well in advance of the child being left
alone with them. Plan ahead there will be emergencies!
~ storage really is key. Everything has a place and everything in
its place. Children learn to pick up one toy before getting out
~ Keep a quite schedule. Even church can be overwhelming at times
and that is not what it is meant to be. Pioneers went to church
only several times a year or worshiped at home. Outside functions
can shred families to pieces if we are not careful.
~Get the kids to help as much as possible.
~Don't be a perfectionist.
~Make lists - menus ahead will help.
~Try to go to the store as little as possible.
~limit your extracurricular activities to family outings.
~ Any language barrier with adopted children will be a big strain,
I'm sure at first, but it will also be fun and funny! If you can
find an interpreter, all the better!
~ Large families attract! Set an extra place setting or two Just
Because! What a Blessing!
~ Teach kids to conserve! Turn off lights, etc, when not in use.
~ Don't assume kids know how to treat electrical equipment. Keep
expensive items out of reach of small children to avoid expensive
replacement or repair bills. Or have a rule, that only teens and
up, turn on TV's, computers, etc.
~ Teach children the proper use of computers, and their procedures.
Take the time to explain HOW they will be used, and operated. Or, if
you don't know, you might elect a child to be the family instructor
if they are knowledgeable.
~ Take lots of pictures, cherish every moment (even the bad won't be
when it's a few years in the past).
~ Keep journals to let off steam and emotions.
~ On a tight budget, allowances might not be an option. Don't
worry, love is enough!
~ Curfews don't work for everyone. The kids will learn limits and
~When you fill their lives with caring, it's amazing how easy it
really, really is.
~Tell yourself each day you are a SUPERB PARENT you already are!
~ Don't let other people define LARGE for you. Think of your family
~ If money permits, going to an outing or special show can be so
much fun. If you can't afford many outings, there are TONS of free
things your family can do!
~ Moms, especially, need to have some "off time". Don't let
yourself become frazzled. Find a way to have alone time and couple
And, finally, thanks to the mom who sent this in:
#1---don't listen to others, use your God given mother's instinct.
#2---don't listen to others, instead, pray, pray, pray
#3---don't listen to others, react in love to all situations
#4---don't listen to others, the ones with the most advice don't
have kids or don't have many and therefore don't have a clue as to
what's up in YOUR life.
If you just promise yourself to take it one minute at a time,
everyone will adjust and you'll be a fabulously firm foundation of
friendship and love. Mountains are just pebbles stacked high. One
pebble at a time you can at least change its shape.
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Here is a quick easy recipe for the whole family!
Peanut Butter No Bakes
1/2 c milk
2 c sugar
Boil 1 minute. Remove from heat & add:
1 tbsp vanilla
1 stick margarine or butter (1/2 c)
1/2 c peanut butter
Let cool 15 minutes & then add: 3 c oatmeal
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In the Garden:
Try This: Try starting a few seeds indoors for the first time, for
your garden. You can put them under ultraviolet light (a shop light)
and you don't need the special lights, regular florescent lights
work great. Most seeds do need extra heat though 70's 80's.
Moisture is key for them to pop out of the soil, so keep well
misted, or cover with a clear plastic bag with a couple vent holes.
Make sure they don't get too hot! You can start the seeds in some
soil in egg cartons but, when they are about 2 inches high, you will
need to transplant to a larger container. Feed with a plant food
once or twice a week.
If it works for you on a small scale for the first year, you may
want to try more next year. Start with something easy like lettuce,
tomatoes, or cabbage family plants. Good luck!
Take care and many many blessings. (You already are!)
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