The Simple Life
By Sheryl Simons
Science has never drummed up quite
as effective a tranquilizing agent as a
sunny spring day. ~~W. Earl Hall
Robins and red-winged blackbirds are back! If that isn't
spring, I don't know what is. Even the sand hill cranes are back,
waiting for just the right temps to get started on a nest. Soon
their fluffy little yellow offspring will be following along behind
them. Sand hill cranes are fun to watch. We always have a pair
nearby, with either one or two babies. They are very protective,
usually staying in pairs. Almost as soon as the babies hatch, they
follow along. They cannot fly for at least a month, so the parents
must be vigilant to watch over them with all the predators that would
like to have them for dinner and they are. We have watched the
older hatchlings play tag with fawns when the families get together
in the cool evenings, and it is a sight to see. It is so interesting
to watch all the parents keeping an eye on the babies, as they play.
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Have you had someone in your life that you are so frustrated
with you hardly even know how to talk to that person? We all have.
We stand by helplessly as they hurt themselves or the ones they
love. We see the consequences that they don't choose to see, coming
their way. We can do nothing to stop that freight train that
threatens their lives, and some of their innocent victims. They
continue over and over to make bad choices. Sometimes there are ways
to help their victims sometimes there are not.
We get stomach aches, and head aches just thinking about what
we wish that person would do, if they would only see the light our
light! Sometimes we are wrong. Sometimes we have no idea what would
really be good for that other person. Whatever the case, this person
is taking up our waking, and sometimes our sleeping hours even though
there is nothing we can do! We don't trust God to work in their
lives that is pretty obvious.
But what if we could just let go of the situation? Sounds
way too simplistic, doesn't it? What if instead of thinking of all
the problems when we think of that person, we do what we can, by not
thinking of the problems we define them by, but just by simply who
they are? She is my girlfriend. He is my brother. He is my father,
friend, co-worker, neighbor, uncle, etc. This is someone I love.
That's it. When we think further about that person, we focus on the
good things, maybe things that have happened in the past that were
good. That's it. When bad thoughts threaten to invade our minds, we
substitute the good thoughts.
We still need to protect ourselves; we don't have to allow
ourselves to be treated poorly in any way, but we may be able to be
around that person without letting all that anxiety conquer our
This past week, I reread an old standby, "Co-dependants No
More" by Melody Beatie. There are other books out there, too that
encourage us to "detach" from all those thoughts that try to control
us. Not too many pages into the book, I was able to shift my
thinking from anxiety about a situation, to nearly peace. But we are
in charge. We just push those thoughts out. I say nearly peace,
because there are still small negative thoughts that try to invade.
The subtitle of Melody's book is "How to stop controlling others and
start caring for yourself". In some families, the reverse is the
norm. We feel compelled to "manage" all the little pawns in our
lives so we can all be happy. Ha! It only works to backfire on
us. We give ourselves more stress than we can handle.
But what if the victim is an innocent child? If they are not in
physical danger, there is probably nothing you can do, except be a
positive force in their lives. Get involved by spending as much time
as possible. Pray. Have fun with that person. Dwell on the
positive. Since we cannot really control others, we are only
paddling in sand when we try to "manage" things. Only when they ask
for help can we offer a suggestion, and that won't be often. Quit
butting in and let life teach them the hard way. That's how they
want it! That is how you can get through the day in a happy way.
For more ideas read Melody's book! Beware you might see yourself
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This is a really great recipe! I made it for my hubby's birthday and
it is our new favorite cake! I used old fashioned oats, so I know
they work. The cake takes about 35 minutes then I tested it with a
toothpick. It is a moist cake and the topping only takes about 3
minutes in the broiler. I cut down on the sugar, and I think you can
cut down by ¾ cup at least. In fact, I used brown sugar Splenda, and
it was really good.
Simple Oatmeal Cake
Stir together: 1 c quick oats, 1-1/2 c boiling water
Set aside. Cream together: 1/2 c butter or oleo, 1 c light brown
sugar, 1 c sugar, 2 eggs.
Sift together: 1-1/3 c flour, 1/2 t baking soda, 1 t cinnamon
Add to cream mixture and oats. Bake in 350` degree oven in greased 9
X 13 cake pan.
Topping: On stove top mix: 1/2 c butter or margarine,1 c brown
sugar, 1 c nuts, 1 c coconut, 5 T evaporated milk. Bring to boil till
sugars melt. Pour over cake, put under broiler till coconut is
toasty, about 3 or 4 minutes. Really good served warm.
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