- The Simple Life
By Sheryl Simons
"The happier you are with the simple things, the easier it is to be
"Did you hear what I said?" came the loud, sarcastic voice of
the man loading his truck next to us as he spoke to his wife. Why
didn't he say, "Honey we need to leave room for the spare tire" in a
nice voice or a hundred other things that wouldn't have been mean.
She probably hadn't understood what he meant in the first place. She
said nothing, likely to keep the peace. Kindness doesn't take any
more time just patience.
Over the weekend while we were in a restaurant, a table close
to us was discussing an open house. "My nephew's open house is June
9th. I think it's a Saturday."
"No, June 9th is a Friday. I'm positive of that because
I have such a busy week I know exactly which day is which. The 9th
is a Friday," said woman #2.
"Oh, hmmm I just assumed it was a Saturday," said the first
woman. Then the conversation went on to other things. It just so
happened that I also had an open house on the 9th, and was almost
positive it was on Saturday, but let it slip from my mind until the
next day. I remembered what I had overheard and went to check the
calendar. Sure enough, the 9th was you guessed it Saturday!
Why didn't lady #2 say "I'm pretty sure the 9th is a
Friday," or "I think the 9th is a Friday," but the way she said it
left no room for error, even though she truly was wrong. She made
herself look bad just because of the way she said it!
Kindness. It only takes moments. And we save ourselves the
embarrassment of being wrong. But why do people jump to say things
in a nasty way first, rather than just being kind in the first
place. Sure, we are all guilty of this, at times, but hopefully not
on a regular basis.
Once while having dinner out of doors I mentioned that it was
so nice `dining alfresco'.
"'Dining alfresco!' That means `dining naked'!" A fellow
"No, I think it means dining in the fresh air." I replied.
"No, no, no, it means dining naked!" the man adamantly
exclaimed. I later found an article that referred to dining alfresco
and it meant exactly "dining outdoors, outside, external"
or `uncovered' which I suppose could be `naked'. But I had been
right. Unfortunately the man who so rudely told me I was wrong left
more of an impression than the wonderful outdoor meal.
Let's take mean sarcasm and put-downs right out of our
speech. We may never know when we may be wrong and will look the
fool. We don't have to put the other person down and make them feel
like a fool to be right.
Sometimes it is easier to let it go, but it wouldn't hurt to
say, "Let's check the calendar", or "I didn't understand what you
meant.", or let's check the Thesaurus. If you have a chance to show
the other person you are right, do it then. That's not bossy or
arrogant it's assertive. If there are people in your life you are
afraid to make a point of something find an assertiveness class in
your area and take it. It's good for all of us to not let the bully
get away with it.
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"We don't see things as they are. We see them as we are." --Anais Nin
"Other people's opinion of you does not have to become your
reality." -- Les Brown
* * *Simple Recipe* * *
Our simple recipe comes to us this week from Juanita, who
lives south of Nashville Tenn. Thanks for sharing Juanita! Juanita
says she struggles with the fast food enticements as well, but is
trying to cook healthier at home.
4 boneless skinless chicken breast halves, pounded to tenderize
8 oz can tomato sauce
4 oz can mushroom pieces and stems
1 cup low fat mozzarella cheese, shredded
Put the chicken on a foil covered baking pan. Top each piece with
about 2 T. tomato sauce, season with oregano, salt and pepper,
followed by mushrooms, and top w/ cheese. Bake in 350 oven for about
20 minutes, or until juices run clear. (I usually serve this w/
buttered noodles and steamed broccoli or a green salad.)
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~ In the Garden~
It only takes a couple bags of potting soil and a few lumber
scraps to make a nice little garden. You can grow some lettuce,
onions, a pepper and cherry tomato plant, a few radishes to have a
small salad garden. Put one of these where they only get morning sun
for broccoli, and cabbage, plant who like it cool. Water daily and
fertilize as needed. Organic right at home! Put it together with
your kids, or borrow the neighbor kids and get them interested in
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