Simple Home Building
- The Simple Life
By Sheryl Simons
"The happier you are with the simple things, the easier it is to be
"Spring is when life's alive in everything." ~~ Christina Rossetti
"Our greatest glory is not in never failing, but in rising up every
time we fail." ~ ~Ralph Waldo Emerson
If you were to build a new home, would you use the cheapest
materials and buy good insurance, or would you use quality materials
to start with? We laugh, but it's not really funny. When it comes
to families, too often we give little thought to how to start a
family. We date the first person that comes along and think that
building a family with that person will all work out. We give no
thought as to what their values are, what kind of nurturer or
provider they will be. And probably our biggest mistake is not even
knowing who WE are! Who do you want to be? What kind of career do
you want to have? Having a family is fulfilling, but so is a career,
and the career is often a greater part of your life! When that last
child walks out the door to make a life of her own, you are on your
own again, as well. Sure there will be visits and grandkids, most
likely, but you or you and your spouse, are almost back to square
one. It's like starting over again, and there are a lot of years to
So the most important question you can ask starting out
is "Who do I want to be?" You must know this before you can ask the
question "Who do I want to spend my life with?" "How many kids will
we have?" "Where will we live?"
And before the kids start coming, its good to ask, "What kind
of parents will we be?" Borrow nieces, nephews, or neighbor's kids,
if possible. Get some practice.
What are your family core values going to be? Talk about
this way before the two little words "I Do" come into the picture.
If she smokes a little pot or he drinks a little too much, or has job
issues, or a temper, or any other obvious defect, walk away while you
are still intact. It's not worth it. Partying might be cute in high
school, but it's not cute when it comes to having a family-
Here are some simple core family values to think about
· Faith. Does this person share my religious values?
· Doing the right thing. Is this a person I can trust? Is she
a person who I can count on to do the right thing when the rough
times come along?
· Giving Back. Is this a person who will give or take when it
comes to your family? Can you imagine this person cleaning up after
a child with the flu?
· Is this person interested in building strong family
· Is this person really a person I can count on to give 110 %?
· Will this person respect me as a person to fulfill my dreams?
· Is this person strong enough to be a parent to our children,
or a friend, because kids need parents, not just another "buddy"!
· Is this person flexible enough to take change in stride?
· Is this person financially responsible? Does she have a
savings account? Does he depend on his family to bail him out in
tight times? Is she a person who would be willing to work on her own
flaws when necessary?
Don't use the excuse "Well, nobody's perfect." Don't compromise.
A young man in the armed services was sent to Kuwait. He wrote to
his grandmother, "This is really boring. All I do day after day is
guard the sand!"
Grandmother wrote back, "Guarding the sand is good." Often
family can be as boring as guarding the sand. There are diapers, and
fixing dinner, and mowing the grass and doing an oil change. There
are also lots of good times. Doing the right thing is not always
fun, but it feels good in the end.
* * *
"How different our lives are when we really know what is deeply
important to us, and keeping that picture in mind, we manage
ourselves each day to be and to do what really matters most." ~~
Simple Oatmeal Cake
1 c quick oats, 1-1/2 c boiling water
Set aside. Cream together: 1/2 c butter or oleo, 1 c light brown
sugar, 1 c sugar, 2 eggs
Sift together: 1-1/3 c flour, 1/2 t baking soda, 1 t cinnamon
Add to cream mixture and oats. Bake in 350` degree oven in greased 9
X 13 cake pan.
On stove top mix: 1/2 c butter or margarine,1 c brown sugar,
1 c nuts, 1 c coconut, 5 T evaporated milk. Bring to boil till sugars
melt. Pour over cake, put under broiler till coconut is toasty.
Keeping it Simple,
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