It's Simple - Put up or Shut up!
- The Simple Life
By Sheryl Simons
"The happier you are with the simple things, the easier it is to
"Put Up or Shut Up!"
A coworker told me her husband is always complaining about
his job. "I almost hate to go home", she said. "I hear it all night
long, `I don't like this, and I don't like that'. I get so tired of
listening to it all." My friend is usually upbeat and happy, but her
hubby is a real downer.
"Put up or shut up!" I commented.
"What was that?" she asked. "I never heard that before!"
"Put up or shut up," I repeated.
"I'm going to use that!" she exclaimed! "I love it!"
Can you imagine wanting to go to work to get away from the stress at
home? Many of us do. Or many of us are the complainers in the
family, oblivious to what we do to our families. We all know these
people whine, whine, whine.
However, whining can be a good thing! Yes, whining is good
for us but only to a point.
Every once in a while my husband and I think of moving. We
live in a house in the country, surrounded by farmland and woods.
But the woods are not on our property. But they are beautiful. We
don't have any close neighbors, so except for the "flatlanders" who
like to come up from the cities and bring their noise with them,
tearing around the countryside in snowmobiles, and four-wheelers, we
live in relative peace and quiet. We garden, go camping, take lots
of day trips, and enjoy having friends over for a campfire that
type of thing.
Our taxes are low, there is a big garden, a nice cozy old
farmhome. We don't live close to town, so running out of milk is not
a good thing. We enjoy sunsets and sunrises, and presently huge
drifts of white frosting covering nearly everything in sight. Come
spring a few weeks hence we will have mud for a week or so,
depending on the rainfall. My little car will look like I've been
mudbogging. But move? Could we find anything we really loved more?
So if you get my drift, the nasty things about where we live,
sometimes seem to outweigh the great things. Humans who want to go
fishing are pleased to find a nice fat earthworm under a rock, but at
other times that same worm is just yuck. Can you think of anything
you can't find something to complain about? If you drive an SUV, you
probably like the size and nice ride. You probably complain about
the mileage. If you drive a compact car, you like the mileage, but
dislike the "sardine can" feeling. If you live in a mansion, you
probably have to hire people to help take care of it. If you live in
a small house, there may be much less maintenance, and time involved
in the care of things.
So dissatisfaction can be a good thing! What is the
big `bug' under your skin? Go ahead, complain! But then mentally,
or with paper and pen, figure out the pros and cons. Ask yourself,
what is it that I like or dislike about whatever it is you are
complaining about. Complaining can be our vehicle for change, or it
can be our `whining ground'.
Hate your job or your house, or your car? Change it! If you
find yourself whining about it, you just need to decide if you want
to do the work to change it. If not, quit complaining! Go back to
school, get a new job, buy a different car but we don't want to
hear about it. And teach your kids how to change things, not
complain about them. Brainstorm for something better. Do something
or nothing - but just quit complaining! Please! And if you have a
husband or friend who won't quit complaining give them a copy of
this~ It's on me!
* * *
Ones first step in wisdom is to question everything - and one´s last
is to come to terms with everything. ~~ Georg Christoph Lichtenberg
We don´t receive wisdom; we must discover it for ourselves after a
journey that no one can take for us or spare us.~~ Marcel Proust
I cannot say whether things will get better if we change; what I can
say is they must change if they are to get better.~~ Georg Christoph
Simple Eight Layer Nacho Dip
1 (16-ounce) can refried beans
1 T taco seasoning mix
1 c sour cream
1 c chunky salsa
1 c shredded lettuce
1 c Mexican-style shredded cheese
1/2 cup sliced green onions
2 t sliced pitted ripe olives
1/2 c chopped tomatoes
Layer in order preferred and serve with baked chips or snack
crackers, or tortilla chips. Makes 6 cups
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