" Really Simple" for Singles, part 2.
- The Simple Life
By Sheryl Simons
"The happier you are with the simple things, the easier it is to be
"Really Simple" for Singles part 2
5. Find great friends. From high school, college, and on, you
have a great
chance to find truly great friends who will be around for your
lifetime. Cherish that.
However, friends can be toxic, too. There's a big difference in
a friend who thinks that new top looks great, and a "friend" who
leads you into trouble. If you are feeling manipulated and
controlled by anyone in your life, step back and evaluate if this is
a healthy relationship. Be a leader, not a follower. Never be afraid
to get counseling at anytime in your life it's not just for
married people. Or have some in-depth conversations with close
friends. Saves money on therapists, but can really be beneficial.
Really think and listen. We talk about fashion, sports, the
weather, why not set aside some time to talk about what really
matters? Brave people ask good friends `what really bugs you about
me?' and are willing to think about the answer. You decide if it's
a simple pet-peeve, or something important. We can all benefit from
feedback. The healthiest people I know are willing to ask for help,
even if it means making a few inner changes. We are all better off
to have an impartial person to talk to once in a while to talk
things over with. Family members also may not be the best sources
of information and advice.
6. The idea that we are in a "progressive society" and that
casual sex can be safe is a myth from Hell. Men and women are only
fooling themselves when they fall into this trap. Multiple partners
take away from the chance that you ever will find `true love'. You
will be dragging around baggage for the rest of your life that you
could have done without. I've seen this happen to men as well as
women. They think being alone is so terrible, so they fall
into "love" again as soon as one relationship ends. They also end
up with diseases someone "forgot" to mention. (A friend told me
through tears one day that she'd gotten a life-long STD from her new
husband! How's that for "true love" (Opps, I forgot to
Take 2 pieces of tape. Stick them together. Now pull them apart.
Keep doing that. Does the tape lose its stickiness after a while?
Of course. Same with casual sex. Pretty soon you wouldn't know
true love if it ran over you. You will always be seeking "the
perfect person" who doesn't exist. Take time off from
relationships. Become your best friend. Enjoy hobbies. Find out
who you want to be. Chances are you will find someone, but better
to be single and happy than stuck in a relationship that drains
instead of fills you with joy. Also, remember being in a
relationship is just as much about being the right person, than
meeting the right person. Don't be hasty! The longer you date
someone, the better chance you get to know the "real them". It's
also an important idea to get to know their family, and watch how
they get along.
7. While you are finding out who you are, find out what you believe
about the world. Nail down your belief system. When you are firm
in your beliefs, you won't be swayed by every idea that comes
along. Someone told me recently that man just needs religion for a
crutch. Is it so hard to believe that we as humans have a creator
who loves us and has a plan for each of out lives if we only ask
Him. Just imagine God wants to talk personally to each of us!
Looking at the intricacies of nature I can only conclude that it is
the case. Visit churches and congregations to find where you want
to fit in, and don't just go where your family has always gone.
It's our job, as humans to find God. He's already found us.
Next week: Simple Life for Families
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"In everyone's life, at some time, our inner fire goes out. It is
then burst into flame by an encounter with another human being. We
should all be thankful for those people who rekindle the inner
spirit." ~~Albert Schweitzer
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My friend is a stay-at-home mother of two boys. She stretches the
clothes softener to the maximum. Into a large plastic tub with a
good tight seal, she places one capful of softener and fills the
rest of the tub with approximately two cups of tap water. Then she
dips a cheap sponge into the solution and throws it in the dryer
with the wet clothes. By doing it this way, it takes her about 18
months to use a standard bottle of softener.
Simple and Easy Turkey Leftovers
How many turkey sandwiches can you eat when there are pounds of
leftover turkey? Here's an easy leftover recipe. Layer stuffing,
potatoes, sweet potatoes, turkey, mashed potatoes, even green beans,
or anything that is leftover. Top with gravy. You could even top
with shredded cheese, if desired. Heat in the oven or microwave.
(Cover in the oven, so it won't dry out.) We love this. All you
have to do is add a salad or coleslaw!
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