Simply Fun Marriage
- The Simple Life
By Sheryl Simons
"The happier you are with the simple things, the easier it is to be
"There is just not enough fun in marriage!" a woman
commented to me recently. I couldn't agree more. It seems every
week that I hear of someone I know who is divorcing. Once upon a
time they loved each other. Many of them had children together.
They had dreams together, plans. But what happened?
Life, that's what. Responsibility, bank accounts, sickness,
mortgages, grocery bills and kids who start out so cute, but can
also pull parents in all directions. Most can be good things, but
somehow they can also crowd out the just plain fun. When was the
last time you really had fun with your sweetie? Do you even think
of them as your sweetie, or were you just thinking to remind them to
take out the trash? Griping and complaining are not fun. So why do
we married folk spend so much time doing that instead of the fun?
Life is way too short.
A girl at work who is engaged got roses at work for Sweetest
Day. None of the married woman. Oh, I know, just another date
someone made up to remember. So what! Make up your own day!
Surprise your lovey. Don't wait for a holiday. And you don't have
to spend a lot of money, but sometimes spending a little money
doesn't hurt. Once in a while you have to think big. Or little.
Either way. One woman asked her hubby what he did with his teapot
he used to throw his change in. He told her he switched jars. When
she asked why he told her with a twinkle in his eye, that he was
saving for something special. I sure hope so! Just the thought of
a surprise is exciting! A good time together is nearly always much
less expensive than an attorney!
One day this summer, my sweetie and I headed out for a
drive. We just wandered where the road took us. We took turns
driving, exploring. We stopped and ate, went to yard sales where we
both found some bargains, visited a light house, antique shops, and
talked to some interesting people. We just ambled. And it was
quite late when we arrived home. We saw places we'd never been
before. It was my favorite day of summer (well, almost!) We do
this every couple weeks. It's not expensive, but it is a day of
simple adventure. Last week we were given some huge old antique
windows. Now we are building a greenhouse. We enjoy working on
projects together and it inspires teamwork. Whether it's a project
or a fun day, it is fun!
Whatever is fun for you do it! Find something you love to
do together. There is something you must enjoy doing together. If
not, remember back to the romance days. Sports events? The beach?
Table games. Do something new and don't be afraid to try. Maybe
you can take turns picking something new. You will be glad you did,
and it may help you move just a bit closer to my parents (Neil and
Carolyn Sergent) who are almost to the 50 year mark in `07! Still
having fun camping and traveling after all these years.
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"We can only be said to be alive in those moments when our hearts
are conscious of our treasures." ~~Thornton Wilder
"Believe it is possible to solve your problem. Tremendous things
happen to the believer. So believe the answer will come. It will."
~~Norman Vincent Peale
~Simple Whole Wheat~
We've changed from enriched white flour (ha! enriched that
means they took the good stuff out, and tried to put something
back!) to whole wheat for mostly everything. Ever made a whole
wheat buttermilk pancake? You better try one! They are delicious.
And there is whole wheat bread dough mixing in the bread maker right
now. It's so much better for you. Just try replacing the same
amount whole wheat flour for white. Also, I found 50# of whole
wheat at Gordon's Food Service (a restaurant supply) for less than
$14. I put the extra in the freezer or a tin. You might have to
request it. In most grocery stores whole wheat is more expensive
than regular flour, even though it requires less processing. My
husband Ricky told me that when he was a kid and his mother made
home-made bread, that whole wheat was what people used because it
was cheaper! Even whole wheat chocolate chip cookies are yummy! If
you family is not ready for a big change, try using half for a
while. It's so much better for you!
~Super Simple Baked Potatoes!~
Did you know you can bake potatoes in a crock-pot? Wash potatoes,
wrap in foil and put in the crock-pot. If you have time and want
the skins extra moist, coat in butter, oil, or margarine before
Cooking times may vary depending on how many you are cooking.
Cooking 6-8 potatoes, low for eight hours works great. If there are
up to 12 potatoes in a crockpot, you may need to put them on high
for the first two hours, or the last two hours, depending on what
works for you.
Cooking potatoes in the crock-pot won't dry out them out or burn. An
extra hour, is no problem. Even most people who don't usually prefer
baked potatoes, admit they are moist and good this way. Try using
leftover potatoes to make and freeze or make into twice-baked
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