Living Happily Ever After with Your Significant Other
- Realisation: Living Happily Ever After with Your Significant Other
True love not only sets others free, it sets you free too. - stonepeace
Buddhism is often mistakenly dismissed as a "cold" philosophy, which encourages monasticism, while renouncing any romantic notions, even for householders. This is however not so, for the Buddha clearly knew that it is not easy for most to be ready for a spiritual life that fully relinquishes worldly love. Advising on couplehood, he taught, "If both husband and wife want to see one another not only in the present life, but also in the life to come, they should be in tune [with each other] in conviction [to the Dharma], in tune in virtue [moral discipline], in tune in generosity, and in tune in discernment [wisdom]. Then, they will see one another not only in the present life, but also in the life to come." (AN 4:55, Samajivina Sutta, tr. Thanissaro Bhikkhu)
"When both are faithful and generous, self-restrained, of righteous living, they come together as husband and wife, full of love for each other. Many blessings come their way, they dwell together in happiness. Their enemies are left dejected, when both are equal in virtue. Having lived by Dhamma in this world, the same in virtue and observance, they rejoice after death in the deva-world [or other desired realms], enjoying abundant happiness." (AN 4:55, In the Buddha's Words, p.121-122, ed. Bhikkhu Bodhi)
Living together with the Dharma, a couple creates similar positive karmic affinity, thus deserving continual fulfilment of their happy spiritual friendship, eventually leading to Enlightenment. If, say, the wife is virtuous, while the husband is not, they might not reunite in future lives within the same realm - the extreme being a heavenly rebirth for the first and a hellish one for the latter. While the Buddha praised ideal matrimonial bliss, he also skilfully urged spiritual cultivation - which would gradually lessen worldliness of the relationship. Mutually supportive of each other's spiritual life, Prince Siddhartha himself partnered Princess Yashodhara for some 500 past lives, before becoming the Buddha, thereafter guiding her to be an Arahant! Now, that's romantic! Shen Shi'an
Does your love in Samsara embrace Samsara tighter, or does it loosens its grip? - stonepeace
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