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How Can You Quarrel?

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      Realisation: How Can You Quarrel?

      https://ec.yimg.com/ec?url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.thedailyenlightenment.com%2Fpics%2F28.gif&t=1498709935&sig=qDQp8PK8Z3EVW0eUCuYNMQ--~C  Hatred can never be ceased by hatred; hatred can only be ceased by love
      . - The Buddha

      The Buddha once gave a succinct teaching on the sensibility of resolving differences - "You too shall pass away. Knowing this, how can you quarrel?" What has death got to do with conflicts? Much! When one nurses resentment for another, it causes instant discomfort - for oneself and the other - if he or she feels your resentment. The wise who realise the truth that life passes away day by day would not spend a single moment seething in hatred, which causes unneeded suffering for oneself and others. It is an utter waste of time and energy. Also, it would be terrible to die in deep resentment, which leads to a negative rebirth.

      Another problem with not resolving conflicts is that oneself or the other usually passes away first. This means that if one indefinitely delays resolution of conflicts, there will eventually be inadequate time to do so. The worst-case scenario would be to die in regret of not having resolved what one should had a long time ago. Death can strike suddenly. Not resolving conflicts with others in a timely manner, especially with otherwise close family and friends, can lead to a lifetime of "survivor's guilt". Unresolved resentment and regret might also perpetuate in future lives. One might as well attempt to patch up now.

      All conflicts are due to either misunderstandings or differences in views. The first can easily be resolved by patient and mature open discussion, while the latter can be resolved by agreeing to disagree if no mutual agreeable consensus is arrived at. But what if the other party is disgreeable to the extent of not wishing to resolve a conflict amiably? With the dissolving of resentment and regret on your part at least, what matters is that you have tried your best to bring peace of mind to one and all. "You too shall pass away. Knowing this, how can you quarrel?" If there is someone extremely difficult in your life, maybe you can forward this quote with him or her? -Shen Shi'an

      Any conflict with another is also a conflict with ourselves. - stonepeace
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