TheDailyEnlightenment #420 ~Share your Enlightenment Here! ______________________________________________ Realization: Thank You, Young Aspiring Tenzin Chodon
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, Oct 5, 2000
your Enlightenment Here!
______________________________________________ Realization: Thank
You, Young Aspiring Tenzin Chodon
Tenzin Chodon is from Nepal and is fifteen years old this
year. She has seeked permission from her parents to take up the robes and to
train to become a nun one day. She is now residing and studying at Koppan
Monastery’s nunnery. She is also a friend of mine who writes to me
whenever she finds time. Her days are filled with lessons and blessings that she
writes and shares with me. And she always remembers me in her prayers. However
little I can offer her, for one reason or another, she is always thanking me for
being a friend. In true, I have every reason to be grateful to her than her,
Fiona was one of the youngest of all my girlhood friends and she had
gotten married before she reached thirty years old. I make a point to treat
myself well and celebrate my independence after her wedding. At thirty-two years
old, I have not even started trying to find a life partner. My excuse being,
people like things will come. I am in no hurry to give up the space and time
that singlehood has ensures.
Some Buddhists have pointed out that husband
and wife are people who fell in love with their own quarrelsome enemy. Children
are like debt collectors, trying your patience and pushing your limits before
you break down in frustrations any time. To this group of people, they are
always congratulating me for not having found a ‘quarrelsome enemy’
and that ‘debt collectors’ are yet to be on my back.
great Victorian writer Jane Austen wrote six great literary classics that carry
only one simple theme; “A woman shall never marry for the sake of
marrying.” On reading that, it makes perfect common sense. Marriage is a
partnership to ‘give’ and share a common future. To go in with a
selfish agenda that it is my needs not to be alone and that somebody has to be
there for me sow seeds for future discords when two self-obsessing individuals
put self before the other.
His Holiness the Dalai Lama pointed out that
it is good to bring forth human lives to Samsara. By offering mother sentient
beings the opportunity to take a human form would mean giving them a chance to
learn the Dharma, and seek liberation from suffering. Children being the hopes
of our future will hence be in a position to help other mother sentient beings
So thanks to Tenzin Chodon, I found a ‘daughter’ in her.
Asian parents are notorious for putting sons before daughters. Girls are usually
entitled to the remains of what their brothers need. The boys will have the best
of food and medicine and the right to an education hardly extends to their
sisters. When Tenzin Chodon chose to take up the robes, she has unknowingly too
earns herself a chance to be fed, clothed, educated and be given medicine when
she falls ill. Her parents must have foreseen what a life of training in a
nunnery can offer to their daughter. By giving their blessings to Tenzin Chodon
to fulfill her virtuous aspiration, they are helping her as well as all mother
sentient beings who shall benefit from Tenzin Chodon’s future spiritual
And thanks to Dave Teo (Please contact him if you wish
to help: dave_rona@...
/ Pg: (65)9318-0261), one of the hardest working spiritual brothers from
Amitabha Buddhist Centre (http://www.fpmtabc.org.sg), Tenzin Chodon
and I were brought together with a simple sponsorship programme (Ladakh Nuns
A salaried worker like me in First World Singapore shall remit a small amount of
money every month to Third World Nepal for the upkeep and well being of a child
like Tenzin Chodon. And it is not any other child, a child that is as good as a
‘daughter’ in far flung Nepal who cares and prays for me and all
mother sentient beings to be in good health and be happy always.
the tireless effort of part time Dharma workers like Dave Teo and the rest, a
single woman with no strong aspiration to marry for the sake of marrying is in a
position to contribute to a child’s need. And the option to compromise and
make do with any one who comes along need not even be entertained. I do
seriously doubt if as a couple both will be happy if that is how they come
together. The children shall suffer if a harmonious and reassuring environment
is not available for their growth and development.
I shall enjoy the full
option of being honest with my personal aspirations despite social pressures.
And singlehood needs not be a selfish or totally individualistic ‘me
only’ options for which to Tenzin Chodon, I am truly grateful.
but not least, to be in chorus with The Straits Times journalist Clarissa Oon:
if there is more good men who reads good books there will be less good women
left on the shelf. For me, quiet evening involves a cup of tea with classical
music and a good book on my lap. Casual dates are still inviting and forthcoming
but I must admit I have always find good books more interesting than most men.
(Just my personal point of view.) [Ed: Interestingly, many good books are
written by men!]
The wonderful world of Dharma is just so reassuring
and a great blessing itself! The option of an intelligent spiritual life has
been an empowering experience, I am grateful for this Precious Human Rebirth.
And for all my shortcomings as a person, may my faults and failings set not a
bad example to others and should I be of no help, I pray may I not be hindering
others. Om Mani Padme Hum.
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