God helps them who help themselves
- Question: I have a question for our Gurudev and would like to ask you to
see if Gurudev has time to answer it.
Some of my old friends still drink and eat meat. I did preach to them and
they did like it but it seems that they
have difficulties to stop drinking. I do pray to Lord Krishna for His
mercy for them. But do I have right
to ask the Lord Himself to help them stop doing this nonsense? I myself
am fallen and have no good
qualities. I have so many defects. How is then is Lord Krishna going to
listen to my prayers? How is it
possible for a fallen person to satisfy the Lord and ask Him for
protection of others? How can I help my friends?
I feel compassion for them and would like to see them stop eating meet and
drinking alcohol. What is the best
way of helping them?
The following is the affectionate and enlithtening reply of Srila
Gurumaharaj to the letter:
My dear Sree ......,
I have gone through your letter dated 14 June, 2005 addressed
to Tamalkrishna Brahmachari sent by email and noted the
I think it will be better to get clear understanding for the
solution of your problem, by going through the conversation of
Kapil Bhagavan and Devahuti in third canto, twenty-fifth
chapter of Srimad Bhagavat. Kapil Bhagavan has mentioned
qualities of bona fide sadhu. First He has narrated the
concomitant qualities and after that original qualities of a
sadhu. In mentioning about the accompanying qualities, He has
said that sadhus are compassionate to the conditioned souls.
They themselves are trying to remove the root cause of the
miseries of conditioned souls aversion to Sree Krishna, by
persuading them to worship Supreme Lord and practically
practising in their lives. But inspite of that, the
conditioned souls, due to their bad impressions of previous
lives imbibed by evil propensities, have got the aptitude to
commit sins. The aspirant who has got the desire to remove
evil propensities, should try himself to change his evil
propensity. Outside sympathetic persons may help him by
spiritual instructions, but he has to try for this from his
own initiative. God helps them who help themselves, Help
thyself and God will help thee Herbert. Sree Prahlad Maharaj
tried his utmost to rectify his son Virochan by his own ideal
life and teachings, but failed. By that he did not become
unbalanced, because he had the knowledge that inspite of his
endeavour and teachings, his son may or may not accept his
advice due to influence of previous bad impressions. Supreme
Lord and His Absolute Counterpart Gurudeva do not interfere
into the relative independence of the conditioned souls.
Supreme Lord is Omnipotent, He can do whatever He likes. But
if He forcibly interferes, the person will be bereft of
consciousness. If consciousness is destroyed, neither the
person nor Supreme Lord will be benefited. So Supreme Lord by
His personal appearance in the world and His personal
associates, try to persuade the aspirant to submit to and
accept the teachings of Supreme Lord willingly.
Your effort to help your friends is laudable. You should not
stop your endeavour and affection for your friends but you
should not be disheartened if your friends are unable to
accept your teachings.
I was glad to see your son in the last videoconference. May
All-Merciful Sree Sree Guru Gauranga Radha-Krishna bless you
all. My love to you all.
Bhakti Ballabh Tirtha