Writers of the Past (4)
This is a cross post from the group, Escape From the Fellowship.
Here is a post by curious_monkey7, who posted here 21 times back in 2006, mostly at the beginning of the year. She stopped by to do one more post in July of 2006, and then vanished from Escape from the Fellowship. I hope she has done well in the years following her divorce.
Along these lines....I have been lurking, but not made a comment on
this board in a while. I was one of the unfortunate to have married
in the church-to someone I never would have, had I been in my right
mind. After nearly 2 decades of a hellish marriage, the divorce is
soon to be final.
I report to ex-CFC members I run into that I wanted a divorce the
first week I was married, when I realized I'd made a horrible
mistake.(i.e. when I was still in the CFC circus) I didn't,
obviously, follow through on my instincts at the time. Better late
than never. But I do let them know that leaving that place had
nothing to do with my divorce (except for the fact that I can now
think for myself and follow through on my instincts!)
Funny thing, my family members and all the friends that I've had for
a very long time have all known of my struggles in the marriage and
my integral character. They all support me 100%-Except for one
brainwashed CFC member I ran into recently who scolded me and told
me that divorce is never an option and sent me an anonymous form
letter she'd written to apparently send to anyone she knows that is
considering divorce, trying to convince me not to divorce. She did
not even take the time to find out about the abuse I had been
subjected to in the marriage or anything else; she had the typical
pious attitude of the drones that are produced by that place.
I can tell you that this board, and those like it have helped
empower me to take back my life-I appreciate everyone who's taken
the time to share and support those like myself who have had to
reconstruct their damaged lives after having spent time being
negatively impacted by the teaching and the pressures laid on them
It's like any relationship-some help us in life and some hurt us.
The impact of a a relationship-gone-bad is far-reaching and takes
time to heal from. I am happy to report that I am optimistic, and
free from any guilt about leaving CFC or my abusive marriage. I hope
and pray the best for all those who have made steps to take back
their lives, too.
July 2, 2006