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    Over 50s Indulge in Final Flings NZ Herald 8 Feb 07 Age no barrier to infidelity as midlifers seek love outside marriage Comfortably established at work and at
    Message 1 of 1 , Feb 7, 2007
      Over 50s Indulge in Final Flings
      NZ Herald 8 Feb 07

      Age no barrier to infidelity as midlifers seek love outside marriage

      Comfortably established at work and at home, the over 50s should be
      enjoying their most contented years. But nearly a third claim to be
      having affairs instead. Older people are much more likely to be
      tempted into infidelity than the young, a study has found.

      The reason, according to an examination of more than 13,000 sex
      lives, is that those in their 20s and 30s are not likely to have
      settled into marriage or a long-term relationship. And if they have,
      they are more likely to be in 'the frst flush of romance'. But the
      middle-aged find the lure of an affair "overwhelming", according to
      the survey results. After the hard work of maintaining a marriage and
      often a family for so long, perhaps they can't resist what they
      regard as a last chance for a little se]f-fulfilment.

      And it seems the general lessening of sex drive after 50 is no
      barrier to adultery. In some cases, it is in fact the final straw
      that caw a husband or wife to seek solace with a more accommodating
      lover.

      Psychotherapist Brett Kahr, who led the British Sexpal Fantasy
      Research Project, said most couples having marital psychotherapy
      lacked a healthy sex life.

      "When the gremlins of infidelity or inattentiveness or other forms of
      cruelty enter the relationship, then the sexual life will suffer as a
      consequence," he said.

      The survey, which asked for detailed information on sex lives, was
      sent to more than 34,000 people. Just over 13,000 replied. The
      findings showed that 14 per cent of those under 30 had had sex with
      someone outside their marriage or long-term relationship, as had 23
      per cent of those between 30 and 40.

      Appetite for sex tailed off after 50, the survey found. The number of
      over 50s who claim to have sex once a day or more was too small to
      record. Ninebeen per cent had sex three times a week, 44 per cent
      between twice a week and once a month, and 32 per cent less than once
      a month. In a population of 60 million, just over eight million were
      not having sex at all, the researchers said. Fewer than a million had
      always been celibate, the others had given up sex. More women than
      men, 21 per cent against 15 per cent, have had sex in the past but
      have now stopped.

      Despite the fling-prone over-50s, the majority of those in
      relationships were faithful most of the time: men had on average 1.18
      sexual partners in a year, while women had 0.7 partners.

      The survey also undermined a regular claim of the gay lobby that 5-10
      per cent of the population are homosexual. Just three in 100 said
      they were gay.
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