holding names (was: names you can't register)
- Ian wrote:
> You can of course go ahead and register your amory (device or badges)Aryanhwy answered:
> under a "holding name" as well, so you don't HAVE to register a name
> to register a device.
> If Laurel creates a holding name, that *is* your registered name,Someone should probably mention, too, that in some kingdoms your
> until such time as you choose to change it.
official, registered name will go on any awards you receive regardless
of whether you've ever used it for anything else. (It may even be a
Society policy that some branches in some kingdoms are just more
conscientious about following; I'm not sure.) Since it's just a
place-holder, Laurel doesn't sweat too much about what to use for a
holding name. You could end up with the S.C.A. equivalent of "Jane
Doe" on your scroll(s).
Barony of Bryn Gwlad
Kingdom of Ansteorra
- Ian wrote:
> Just don't register you name in the first year of your SCA lifeYou know, I hear that noised about a lot. But my observation has been
> because "the Society never forgets" and people will continue to call
> you by that name for a very long time.
that (1) most people are willing to make an effort to switch over to a
new name if they know you want them to and that (2) the better-known
someone is by Name A, the longer it takes for them to switch to Name B.
Someone brand-new to the S.C.A. who hasn't even had time to research a
name yet can probably change her name in about a week. It took our
Minister of A&S, who'd been using the same name for over 15 years and
is one of the best-known artisans in our area, about six months to get
everybody to start calling her by the new one. It took our Hospitaler,
who'd been around for a couple of years and a very visible part of our
barony, maybe two. I don't know how long it took the inimitable
but I've never heard anyone call her anything else, or seen her older
name anywhere other than in her article on the subject.
In any event, it's what people CALL you that lingers, not what you
register. Changing what you've registered always and only takes
exactly as long as the paperwork does. So even if the "it's so hard to
change it" argument were valid, it would be an argument against
choosing a name at all, not registering one. And since it takes just
as long to get it into everybody's head that the name they've been
using is your real-life name and now you want them to call you
something else as it does to get it into their heads that the name
they've been using was your "'til I decide" name and now you want them
to call you something else, you don't gain anything by not choosing a
good medieval name to use. (They're not going to call you "Hey, you!"
> There are people who make "don't lock yourself into anything" a mantraIan answered:
> for newcomers. Well, let me add another. Don't close any doors in
> your own face.
> And the whole registering/not registering your name can do both at theI don't recommend you register a name you're not sure you want to keep,
> same time. If you register you name you close all sorts of doors,
> which can be a very good thing, or a bad thing, so wait a while, try
> it on and RESEARCH names for something you might like.
either, but only because it takes about a year for the paperwork to
process and if you decide you want a different one half way through
you've wasted everybody's time and effort. Registering a name doesn't
make anything happen that you can't make un-happen just by releasing
it. It doesn't lock you into anything.
Barony of Bryn Gwlad
Kingdom of Ansteorra
- This "don't lock yourself in" mentality drives me NUTS! I have been
researching my name since BEFORE I was in the SCA. I had not done serious
research then, but asked questions to people who might know, and now have
dug much deeper. I still need to register my name, but, I have all the
research done now, and got only a small amount of help with it (I needed the
Drachenwald herald for a bit!) I actually probably could have used what I
had but I wanted to see primary documentation...I'm picky sometimes!
Now, I have been in the SCA for ... 5 months. I think it's time.
Begging to differ,
(not telling my name; you can't have it)
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- On Thu, May 8, 2008 at 4:40 PM, Coblaith Mhuimhneach
> Ian wrote:I've changed my name 2 times (well, actually just a bit more.)
>> Just don't register you name in the first year of your SCA life
>> because "the Society never forgets" and people will continue to call
>> you by that name for a very long time.
> You know, I hear that noised about a lot. But my observation has been
> that (1) most people are willing to make an effort to switch over to a
> new name if they know you want them to and that (2) the better-known
> someone is by Name A, the longer it takes for them to switch to Name B.
Roughly, I went from Triste (completely undocumentable) to Cateline to
Scolastica. The first big change was from something unregisterable to
something registerable. The second change was from something I knew I
was mispronouncing and had grown to dislike to something documentable
to my time and place AND that I had loved when I ran across it 25
years before. (Then it didn't fit my persona.)
I find the important thing with a name change is to announce it
publicly, explain why and ask people to help by using your new name.
Those that respect your wishes will. Those that refuse to even try –
are they really worth retaining as friends? That's my attitude. I
figure that calling someone by the name they want to be called is a
real basic level of respect that is reasonable to give to any human
If you can't get rid of them ugly old skeletons in the closet, at least teach
'em how to dance funny. Billy C. Wirtz