13535Re: [SCA Newcomers] Re: Question about joining
- Aug 3, 2008See why we love our Wiktor here in Calontir?
Well said Dear Friend!
BRYAN" Frank Douglas wrote:
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> I have been in the SCA for about 26 years, and have moved in and out
> of a number of kingdoms.
> First you should do what keeps you coming back. You can play with
> any group you want were ever you live. I know a knight that for about
> 5 years lived in New York, but only played in Texas.
> As time goes on if you want to hold an office some kingdoms have
> rules about how far a way you can live. Some time if an issue comes
> up that you need to be a locale payed member to vote on , you may
> lose your vote. This happens so rarely, I would not worry about it.
> And rules may be different in your area.
> Point being the more you play and learn about the workings of your
> Area in the SCA, the more your locale group may open up.
> I think that new people are the energy and magic that keeps the SCA
> alive. It is easy for a person who has played in one area for years
> to get a " this is my sand box" air about them. And because the like
> there sand box they protect it from all invaders, with out thinking
> that they were the new invaders once.
> I think it is important to work towards supporting your locale
> shire. Do not tear down or spread bad rumors. In most cases a lot of
> bad politics is so old no one can remember what caused the problem.
> And if a group is active at all there are and will be people that
> feel the same as you in your area. it is your challenge to be there
> to welcome them and spread the joy, not add to the negative.
> Going to events is the best why to get people to open up, and know
> that you are going to be there playing in there sand box so they
> should make friends. Volunteering for anything is the best why to
> show you are not going to kick sand in there face in there own sand
> box. you are dealing with there fears about themselves, not if the
> like or dislike you. having a loving nature is the best way to stop
> --- In email@example.com
> <mailto:scanewcomers%40yahoogroups.com>, "tpeterson1937"
> <tpeterson1937@...> wrote:
> > Hello to all! I will be forthright with you all and let you know
> > I am writing under an assumed name. Please read on and you will
> > understand why.
> > I have recently joined the SCA. I have attended meetings for a few
> > months (we meet every week) and attended my first event last
> > The reason I am writing under an assumed name, is because I do not
> > wish to discrace or embarass or anger anyone in my group. So I will
> > not disclose either the shire or the kingdom to which I will
> > but rather post my question anonmously and hope for the best.
> > Most of the members in my group have been in the SCA for years and
> > seem pretty lackadasial (sp?) We do not have workshops at meetings
> > (only fighter practices) so should I join another neighboring shire
> > who DO have workshops and have interests closer to mine? Also, I
> > realize these people have a history with each other, and though
> > are on the surface friendly, I have had a hard time sharing and
> > comfortable with them. For someone who is not a social butterfly,
> > what are some ways for me to break the ice? I have so many
> > and just don't feel like they want to help me.
> > On the positive side, they loaned me garb for my event and since I
> > don't want to overstay my welcome and will be returning the garb
> > week. I don't want to be seen as a leech or anything, but I have
> > not felt like they were glad for me to be in the group.
> > Some of the things I have tried was to ask individuals about their
> > personas, how long they have been involved, what their interests
> > etc. I feel like I have really tried to make conversation but it
> > isnt happening. I really enjoy studying the time period and hate to
> > think I would not enjoy myself and would not be able to be in the
> > because of the above.
> > So please if you all have any ideas, I would love to hear them.
> > Please be kind as I am just two steps away from abandoning my
> > to join the SCA.
> > Teresa from nowhere land
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