The Power of Love - Dating Smart
You dont need to depend on fate to bring The
One to your doorstep. You might have to wait a
very long time.
You dont have to be the prettiest girl or the
most handsome guy to be a successful dater. You
dont need a huge bank account. You dont have to
drive a new sports car, live in a large home, have
the best sense of humor, or the most confidence.
These things are all desirable; but chances are,
they wont keep the target of your affection
So what is it that you need to get and keep your
love around? The answer is simple.
Many people looking for relationships are
searching for someone to complete them, to fill in
what is lacking in their own lives. A smart dater
pays attention to detail, determines what it is
that the other person is lacking, and ultimately
provides it. A smart dater knows that when you are
a source of something another person needs to be
happy, you have power over them.
The first step to achieving power and becoming a
smart dater is assessing the personality of the
person you want to be with. You must zone in on
the characteristic that defines the person most.
Then, use your observations about their
personality to determine what the person needs in
his or her life to be happy. Finally, provide it.
Take, for example, the aggressive personality. If
youre in love with The Aggressor, you know that
he or she isnt a bit shy. The Aggressor knows
what he or she is after, and thrives on the
challenge of attaining it. Love with The Aggressor
can be compared to a sport, and The Aggressor is
looking to win. Like in any sport, an easy victory
can be quite boring and quick. Your task is to
give the Aggressor a challenge. Do not let your
heart be an easy win. If you do, the Aggressor
will simply move on to the next person. When the
Aggressor leaves you a voice mail to call them
back, forget to call. When the Aggressor asks you
out for a date, once in a while tell them that you
are too busy. Be moody, selfish, and difficult
from time to time. Now, dont be completely mean
remember, you must give kindness and affection to
The Aggressor as much as you take it away. This
will drive The Aggressor insane, and cause him or
her to lose focus of the game. In no time, youll
be holding the trophy.
Perhaps your love interest is not The Aggressor.
Perhaps he or she is reserved and shy. This
personality type tends to be innocent, and maybe
lacking in solid relationship experience. You job,
then, is to initiate The Quiet One into the realm
of relationships and dating. Give The Quiet One
something to get excited about. Shower The Quiet
One with frivolous gifts and attention. Approach
The Quiet One with zest, energy, and an
ultra-positive attitude about life. Essentially,
bring The Quiet One out of his or her shell,
making them feel comfortable with you. In return,
The Quiet One will become almost dependant on you
for fun, activity, and love.
There are a myriad of personality types you will
find out in the world. Another is The Snob. This
person needs an average Joe or Jane to bring them
down to earth. They wont want to stoop to the
level of giving you a second look but be
persistent. The Snobs affection is earned. The
more affection you give, the more flattered The
Snob will become. This is because The Snob, by
trait, likes to be given things. Instead of
spoiling the Snob with things he or she already
has, provide something unique. Cook The Snob
romantic dinners at home, and skip the fancy
restaurants. Pick the female Snob wildflowers
instead of buying traditional roses. The Snob can
then brag to other Snobs that he or she has
someone different than everyone else. And as you
know, Snobs always like to have what everyone else
There is also The Soap Opera Star. If you have the
saintly qualities needed to love The Soap Opera
Star, more power to you. This person eats, sleeps,
and breathes drama. Take the normal ups and downs
in life, and multiply them by 1000. Such is the
life of The Soap Opera Star. The Soap Opera Star
misplaces his golf club, and everything that
happens from that point on in the day is
absolutely ruined. Dont be surprised if The Soap
Opera Star takes his or her troubles out on you.
If you desire to love this gem, patience,
understanding (even if you must pretend) and the
ability to console are qualities you have to put
forth. The Soap Opera Star will end up completely
in love with you. If you decide to leave The Soap
Opera Star, he or she will stalk you.
Another popular personality is The Complainer.
Everything annoys The Complainer. You can tell The
Complainer that he or she looks nice today, and
they will respond with a very serious, Why do you
have to lie to me? I gained 5 pounds in the last
week, my pants look too short, and Im having a
bad hair day. I definitely know I cant trust you
to tell me the truth. If you truly love The
Complainer, you will never take their words to
heart. You will also keep providing them with more
topics to complain about, like a drug supply to an
addict. Bring up topics that you know they love to
moan about. They, in turn, will provide you with
hours of one-on-one conversation. Youd better
have a good ear to listen, and be able to support
them in their outlandish claims. Dont expect to
do too much talking yourself. The Complainer will
love you to death. Literally.
All in all, no matter what type of person you are
trying to win over, you can do it with a little
bit of common sense and consideration. Think your
way through the situation. Thats all it takes.
The power of love is in your hands.
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