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- WELCOMEcehardinstratsdaddyWelcome to the group. We are so glad to have you with us. Please feel free to post your stories, photos and links. We are all here to help, so please feel free to join in. As always, you are more then welcome to IM me if you would like. My screen name is m_dearest. Again, Welcome!!!! We are glad to have you with us.Hugs,Barb
- Laikinng,Your comment:I can be pretended another person.Yes you are correct - you can pretend to be someone else. We have no proof who you really are. The user name you are using may not be your real name, and here on RS that is acceptable because victims do not want the scammer to know they are in RS receiving help and reporting instructions.The same with my name. You do not know if my yahoo display photo is really me, and you cannot see my complete face either.What we learn here on RS is how deceiving the internet can be, and how to protect ourselves from online predators.But what is unique here on RS is we learn to trust, to trust our gut feeling, to trust RS members sharing on the forum; and at same time to be aware of who we trust, and learn to seek their real intentions with each other.That is why RS has a Private Contact Rule, so members do not get private contact from people reading from the web-posts.The internet is very open to the world, nothing is secure, nothing is private, and certainly every website can be infiltrated by online impostors and predators.Libélula [Lib] Roja
RS Peer Counselor/Moderator
RS Consejera de Pares/Moderadoralibelular@... - [Contacto Español - flame.skimmer@... - Privado]http://www.romancescams.org - [home page]El más terrible de todos los sentimientos es el sentir de tener la esperanza muerta. Federico García Lorca
The most terrible of all emotions is the feeling of hope having died. Federico García Lorca
From: "laikinng choy asianladyvancouver@... [romancescams]" <firstname.lastname@example.org>
Sent: Sunday, March 5, 2017 1:11 AM
Subject: Re: [romancescams] Fw: Welcome New Members
They are not the real persons looking for love. I can be pretended another person.
On Mar 4, 2017, at 2:15 PM, Elena e.lena6422@... [romancescams] <email@example.com> wrote:thank you MicheleI found out I am verbal agressive I've found a work shop (agressions free communication, I'll participiate it) here this weekend I hope it'lll be helpful.I am sorry II have to find one of my 10 glasses (I need +1,5 that is too less to give up to read without, but tioo much to feel comfortable,elena
Am 04.03.2017 um 12:58 schrieb MLD difalco.michele@... [romancescams] <firstname.lastname@example.org>:New members,I know it's hard but we do learn to let go and silence that little voice in our heads . We learn to stop the self blaming and put the blame where it belongs on the scammers. We did not ask to be deliberately lied to and robbed emotionally and financially.I wish there was a simple answer, a " wish I could go back and change my past” pill. But there isn't.So we learn to accept what had happened (not easy but time does lessen the pain.)By blaming ourselves we continue to give in to the scammers control.This sounds so simple when we say it but it takes work and dedication to forgive ourselves. Why do we forgive and love others so easily but we cannot forgive ourselves? That is what it takes need to move forward and this takes time.We need to find structure especially at the times we were so involved with the scammers calls/ triggers to their texts and emails. We learn to fill the voids. This too gets easier with time. We mourn the loss.We begin to create a structured time every morning and night to nurture ourselves . It begins with positive statements whether said aloud to yourself, a mantra written in a journal or both. It requires us to put on a new lens to change and see life differently.This is how we break away from the scammers control , remind yourself you were the victim.Our days will eventually change as we are forced to take care of ourselves . In time you will see the deserving person you are and he/she will replace the version you now see in the mirror. This too takes time and a tremendous amount of effort . But not nearly as much effort as self blame.The techniques of the psychological social engineering techniques /brain washing will start to fade. Remember these are professional international criminals. They are highly trained and are constantly working to perfect their scam - this is their job and Guilt is a powerful emotion the scammers count on.We didn't know the scammers existed. Who steals people's photos and who lies without remorse or conscience? We were naive and trusting. We couldn't possibly know what we hadn't learned.We all want to love and be loved. For myself once I started reporting them I began to feel empowered. Our only recourse is to report the scammers. Please purge, vent and share with us. We are all here for support , education and fellowship. Seek professional counseling if you need to. Learn to take care of you.Remember we all heal one day at a time sometimes one hour at a time or one minute at a time and sometimes we hang on by a thread. For sure we will all have setbacks. Life is not painless. But wedo survive. Life goes on and things do work out just not always as we planned.You can do this , you are here and you are taking those steps..Michele LRS Peer counselor/moderator"I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become "Carl Jung
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