ROTATE & RELATE ON A TWO-COUPLE DATE by Janet Kira & Dr. Sasha Lessin
After we've shared health info and said our desires and
limitations with another couple with whom we've decided to be
sexually intimate, primary partners make love with each other first,
one couple at a time, while the others watch. This gives the couple
watching a chance to see how the others like to connect.
Then I (Janet) connect with a woman from another couple
before Sasha connects with her and before I connect with her man. We
women need this, because we have been conditioned by society to guard
our men against other women. Goddess-to-goddess connecting overcomes
some of the learned fear and establishes a foundation of love,
empathy and trust between me and the other woman..
Personally, I've had difficulties staying connected with
women. Separation from other women began for me long ago when my
girlfriends and I began to develop sexually and began to vie for
boys' attention. Marriage and children completed the alienation
Since I only discovered my bisexual side well into my
adulthood, I find tantra ceremonies (like the one Sasha describes
below) particularly delightful because they reconnect me with the
feminine in ways that I have not known since pre-adolescence.
WOMEN CHARGE EACH OTHER'S CHAKRAS
Start the woman-to-woman connect nude, chanting the ancient
Sanskrit chant known as the "Bija Mantra" in yab yum (legs over
partner's hips) position. Sasha directs me and the other woman I'm
connecting with to face each other. I wrap my legs over the her hips
(that's yab/yum) and press my yoni against her. We gaze deeply into
each other's eyes. We press our fronts into one another.
Sasha says, "Imagine running energy from the front of your
perineum, genitals, belly, heart, throat, brow and crownyour chakras-
-into your new lover's.
"Breathe in and out when she does; synchronize your breath.
Then syncopate it: inhale through your nose as she exhales through
her mouth. Exhale through your mouth toward her nose as she inhales
through it. Pause together after each inhale and exhale. Take three
syncopated breaths for each chakra (energy center) as follows:
Perineum. Pulse your anal sphincter. Tell her, `I love
you. Feel your base and enjoy health, safety and security.'
Genitals. Press your genitals against hers; say, `I love you
at your yoni, and bless your sensuality, creativity and sexuality.'
Solar Plexis. Touch your belly to hers. Say, `I love you in
your power chakra; take what's yours.'
Heart. Place your right hands on the front each other's
hearts, your left hands between each other's shoulder blades.
Say, `I send you love.'
Throat. Put your left hand on the back of her neck and
say, `I love you. May you speak your truth and sing your true songs.'
Brain. Join brows. Look up into her eyes till they appear
to merge; say, `I love you. I celebrate how you understand and
Crown. Flow energy between your crown and hers. Say, `I
love you and merge with you. May you experience your unity with the
Men present can witness, do a similar ritual with each other
or come behind their women and hold the later sit in yab/yum and do
the chakra ritual.
Bisexual ladies may want to move next into taking turns
kissing each other's yonis, receiving then giving or mutually
honoring one another.
After the woman-to-woman yab/yum meditation and mutual
genital kissing, the women share intimate conversation and discuss
RECONNECT WITH YOUR PRIMARY
Then the women go back to their primary partners. After I
connected with Carol, Sasha and I made love with each other while Jim
and Carol did likewise.
GODDESSES GIFT EACH OTHER WITH THEIR PRIMARIES
Next, the women hold hands, look in each other's eyes, kiss
on the lips, then present each other with their primaries. I told
Carol, "Enjoy Sash and I'll enjoy Jim."
Lie on your back look into the eyes of the woman with whom
you did the yab/yum experience. Have the new male lover-to-be lie
between your legs, his head near your yoni. Maintain linkage also
with your primary man, now lying at the yoni of the woman you invited
him to enjoy. Expand your consciousness to include all three them.
Sasha and Jim lay on their backs, shoulder to shoulder, while
Carol 69ed Sasha and I did the same with Jim. Then she mounted Sash
and I inserted Jim's lingum into my well-prepared yoni. Carol and I
kissed as we rode each others' men.
TOUCH TWO AT A TIME
Flow next into simultaneous sensual contact with your mate
and your new lovers. Your mouth, genitals, eyes, hands, breasts,
rosebud love the mouth, genitals, etc. of at least two of your lovers
at the same time. No one's left out. Everyone gives and gets
pleasure and makes sounds to express delight. Every twenty minutes
or so, shift, and love another yoni, pearl, lingum, mouth; look into
the eyes of another sweetheart.
If you'd like intimate time with one or more of your new
lovers, discuss this with the group, get everyone's blessing. If
you step out for awhile, let someone know you're okay.
If you're sad or mad, as well as glad, tell your lovers.
When you've had enough sexual sharing in the group, kiss each one.
Then re-connect with your primary lover or lovers. Men who saved
ejaculate release it into their primaries.
THE MORNING AFTER THE PUJA
Next Day, do yoga, breakfast and each of you, in turn, review
what you learned and express how you feel about the date and each
other. Then plan your next date.
Janet Kira and Dr. Sasha Lessin lead monthly tantra and
polyamory training groups on Maui. Janet and Jaiia Earthschild
facilitate monthly women-only empowerment groups. See
www.schooloftantra.com for details.