>From: "mlcanow" < mlcanow@y... >Thank you, Maria Luisa. Very well said.
>Date: Mon Jun 2, 2003 12:00 pm
>Subject: Re: Frustration/ML
> "Onniko" <onniko@y... > wrote:
> > How many children do you have, Gene?
> >What are some ways you have to
> > make them feel that they aren't owned by you?
>since i agree with Gene, and having had the experience of being a
>mother, i will step in here.
>First we must understand that there are no ownerships in this life.
>What there are, are responsible actions. It is most natural that a
>mother acts in protection and guidance of her children. This is a
>Natural Law for survival. Just accepting this fact should be enough.
>The feelings of love that born form a parent to his/her child, and
>vicevs. are part of the same thing. It is even, in its basic way,
>one of the purest love feelings that tend to arise from humans. But
>some people, in their sense of lack of love and acceptance, even
>for/from themselves, pretend to feel some kind of completion among
>the pertainance to each other. If we begin to understand the
>difference between real love and attachment, then we will see that
>mostly what we call love, really is not. Detachment is the main
>thing here. But how can we ask for detachment when we need so many
>things, relationships, commitments, achieved goals, importance, etc,
>for us to feel complete?
>When you are detached from your children, you let them make natural
>exchanges of love with others: teachers, sitters, other family
>members, friends. You do not feel jealousy.
>When you let them decide some things by themselves, you let them
>know that they are separate entities within the functioning of life.
>When you explain them the things they are able to understand, they
>begin to discriminate by themselves. When you let them spend some
>time far from your direct control, they begin to learn to be
>separated, they have to solve things by themselves. When special
>situations happen, that need your direct attention, and you allow
>sombody else to take care of them, they learn that you aren't their
>When parents are separated or divorced, when they are with one of
>them, the other shall remain appart, letting things happen between
>children and each parent.
>When you act as not being owned, then you are making them understand
>better the role of each one.
>But the best of all is much communication. Touching, caring,
>listening, talking, playing, working together.
>So long as the parent understands the issue of ownership, he/she
>will be more able to transmit this to the child. Being it, living
>it, is the best way of transmission. And just allowing things to
>happen. Our children came to live their own lives, not ours, nor to
>do the things we would have liked to do and could not. They are not
>our continuity. They are the continuity of Life, and have their own
>role to play here. Let us help them to find this role by themselves,
>if we can, if not, just let it be.
If less is more,
nothing is everything.
- --- satkartar7 <mi_nok@...> wrote:
> > > What would you like to know about web design? IYes, the best way to learn any software is trial and
> > > the technical stuff, the networking, server side
> > > and some basic html. It's the way certain
> > > call out there functions that gets me. I'm a
> hard line
> > > designer, with lots of technical stuff, but I
> > > greatly in the artist "soft" technique. The
> piece I
> > > did for the inner traveler was the first time I
> > > up the creative side in some time. You may have
> a good
> > > resource between Bobby and I, if you wish you
> > > e-mail me anytime :)
> > >
> > > Peace and Love
> > Me too. I learned the abstract visual elements
> from a book on
> > compostion by Steven Friend. There is an enormous
> body of knowledge
> > about how to construct a visual image with
> interest and balance. A
> > lot you would never think of. Unfortunately
> people lack the belief
> > that is is necessary a lot of the time.
> > Visual impact is a study in itself.
> thank you both Jason and Bobby, I'll
> e-mail in privi then
> I am also reading the adobe photoshop
> but this is not easy to learn from
> books, I'll have to go back to school
> love, Karta
error (hands on). I can help you with how the program
operates but your the one that has to put it to use in
a functional way!
Peace and Love
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