Re: [Meditation Society of America] Of Course A Person/Event/Thought Can Take Your Peace Away
Just a few comments Bob in between as below.
--- On Sat, 5/22/10, medit8ionsociety <firstname.lastname@example.org> wrote:
From: medit8ionsociety <email@example.com>
Subject: [Meditation Society of America] Of Course A Person/Event/Thought Can Take Your Peace Away
Date: Saturday, May 22, 2010, 2:50 PM
This is from our web site, Meditation Station,
and I think sharing it now is appropriate.
Moha - Don't Put Up With People Who Put You Down
Did you ever have a relative or so-called
friend who consistently said demeaning and
critical things to you? "Are you going out
dressed like that?" "You'll never amount to
anything!" "Why don't you go on a diet?"
and so on, and so on. Are you still going
through this? If so, why are you letting
this go on? You are having your self-esteem,
energy, and spirit be diminished or extinguished.
Even if it is claimed that these comments
were being made "for you own good", if you
look at it objectively, you will see that
they have not brought you any benefit and
in fact have caused you to suffer.
Understanding this is "Moha".
Technically, Moha translates from Sanskrit
I would say Mohh(the h is emphasized in the pronunciation, hence sometimes the letter 'a" is attached).....
...hints more at "a weakness for", or "an attachment for"
Or when more intense.........it connotes a craving.
Philosophically though, it
is much more. There are probably billions
of people in the world right now who understand
the real meaning of Moha. Because of this,
they lead their lives in a much saner,
rational, inner peace-producing manner than
we do in America and other countries where
the concept of Moha is virtually unknown.
Well, if the "American Dream" went up the smoke and more so by the shenanigans of Wall Street last year...
....if that got replaced by another "dream"......Mohh has not dissipated.
Seeing the transience of the temporal, the mind seeks the bliss of the eternal.
Moh remains rampant.
Basically, it means that you put up with
stupid (although not necessarily unintelligent),
mean spirited, or negative people just because
you have some kind of nostalgic connection
to them. So, if they happen to be related
to you, have known you for years, work with
you, have the same friends, or whatever, they
feel entitled to bring suffering into your
life. Sometimes this comes in the form of
physical, mental, emotional or spiritual direct
personal attacks, and sometimes just by their
own ongoing habit of expressing negativity
about life and things in general. And you
continue to let them be part of your life.
Pretty delusional reaction, isn't it?
So, now that you know about Moha, you must,
for your own well being, cut these people out
of your life.
People and the hue of their appearing persona........is a reflection of oneself.
Rather than cut people out.....examine for whom is the conclusion of negative or positive...... of relevance.
It is very much like the suggestions
that AA, NA, and other 12 step programs make -
don't associate with people, places, or things
that will bring you down. It is really very
simple. If something brings you peace, it is
"good" and should be encouraged. If something
takes your peace away, it is "bad" and must
be eliminated from your life. Sometimes, because
of economic situations, like your job, or due
to relationships, like your in-laws, you must
continue your physical contact with the people
who you realize are "bad" to and for you. You
must then at least divorce yourself mentally
and emotionally from reacting to their comments.
In fact, rather than divorce...........be grateful.
For they played a unique role of beneficence to you....
.....by being an instrument in bringing to light.......aspects of oneself.
That was what the dude on the cross meant when advising to turn the other cheek.
As a matter of fact, you can gain from seeing
them for the pitiful beings they are and feel
compassion for them.
Pity is not compassion.
After all, they have to
wake up every morning and spend all day in their
own miserable company. But you must never let
them "get under your skin".
I would say always let them get under your skin.
For then you go under your skin........ under your layers......... under your own mind-games......... under your spiritual antics...
....and arrive at where you never left.
You owe nothing but
compassion to anyone whose words or actions
cause you to suffer.
One has no need to be a martyr.
And yet suffering is often a great doorway.
And thus there can only be gratitude to those who helped in building that doorway.
This will free you to
create a life full of those things that you
have found to be "good" for you.
And how to be free from these good things?
And you will live happily ever after.
Happiness is an experience.
And as there is nothing as a permanent experience( change is required for cognition), there is nothing as permanent or eternal happiness.
Yes there is something, which remains unaffected by bouts of happiness and bouts of grief.
The seemingly obscurity of that something and the seemingly regain from obscurity....
....is seemingly as -if.
In order to seemingly thicken the plot.