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Moha - Don't Put Up With People Who Put You Down

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    This article is from the Concepts of Meditation section of our web site, Meditation Station http://www.meditationsociety.com It is one of the ones that we most
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      This article is from the Concepts of Meditation
      section of our web site, Meditation Station
      http://www.meditationsociety.com
      It is one of the ones that we most often
      point to for people to check out and impliment
      in their lives. This is because this perspective
      is needed so often and yet is so rarely found
      here in the USA andthe West in general. Enjoy!

      Moha - Don't Put Up With People Who Put You Down

      Did you ever have a relative or so-called
      friend who consistently said demeaning and
      critical things to you? "Are you going out
      dressed like that?" "You'll never amount to
      anything!" "Why don't you go on a diet?"
      and so on, and so on. Are you still going
      through this? If so, why are you letting
      this go on? You are having your self-esteem,
      energy, and spirit be diminished or extinguished.
      Even if it is claimed that these comments were
      being made "for you own good", if you look at
      it objectively, you will see that they have
      not brought you any benefit and in fact have
      caused you to suffer. Understanding this is "Moha".

      Technically, Moha translates from Sanskrit
      as "Delusion". Philosophically though, it is
      much more. There are probably billions of
      people in the world right now who understand
      the real meaning of Moha. Because of this, they
      lead their lives in a much saner, rational,
      inner peace-producing manner than we do in
      America and other countries where the concept
      of Moha is virtually unknown. Basically, it
      means that you put up with stupid (although not
      necessarily unintelligent), mean spirited, or
      negative people just because you have some kind
      of nostalgic connection to them. So, if they
      happen to be related to you, have known you for
      years, work with you, have the same friends, or
      whatever, they feel entitled to bring suffering
      into your life. Sometimes this comes in the form
      of physical, mental, emotional or spiritual
      direct personal attacks, and sometimes just by
      their own ongoing habit of expressing negativity
      about life and things in general. And you
      continue to let them be part of your life.
      Pretty delusional reaction, isn't it?

      So, now that you know about Moha, you must,
      for your own well being, cut these people out
      of your life. It is very much like the suggestions
      that AA, NA, and other 12 step programs make -
      don't associate with people, places, or things
      that will bring you down. It is really very simple.
      If something brings you peace, it is "good" and
      should be encouraged. If something takes your
      peace away, it is "bad" and must be eliminated
      from your life. Sometimes, because of economic
      situations, like your job, or due to relationships,
      like your in-laws, you must continue your physical
      contact with the people who you realize are "bad"
      to and for you. You must then at least divorce
      yourself mentally and emotionally from reacting
      to their comments.

      As a matter of fact, you can gain from seeing
      them for the pitiful beings they are and feel
      compassion for them. After all, they have to
      wake up every morning and spend all day in their
      own miserable company. But you must never let
      them "get under your skin". You owe nothing but
      compassion to anyone whose words or actions
      cause you to suffer. This will free you to create
      a life full of those things that you have found
      to be "good" for you. And you will live happily
      ever after.
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