--- In email@example.com
> Here's the question (the meditation technique mentioned
> from our site can be found at:
> I have much difficulty letting go of resentment,
> self-pity re people in my past. Looking at (for example)
> meditation # 91, how can one apply this to people long deceased?
> Here's the answer I emailed, and if you have any comments or other
> things you'd like to add, I'm sure they will be welcomed:
> I hadn't checked out #91 in a long time. It is actually
> one we used to do often in class, and many people
> remembered deceased people (mostly parents) who had
> caused them suffering. The same rule of thumb applies -
> have compassion for them. Even though they no longer
> have physical bodies, they still have some form of "body"
> within you. One added idea is to remember that they are no
> longer here and can't add to the pain they have caused you,
> and only you can allow/cause the pain to continue. Drop it!
> It's like a heavy bag that you have been carrying around
> needlessly. If something takes your peace away, and can't
> "really" force itself on you, just leave it behind. Whenever
> you witness yourself thinking about it/them, just change
> your thoughts to those type thoughts/feelings that do bring
> you peace. At the very least, do something silly or
> frivolous, or anything that's upfull. It's much healthier
> for you than beating a dead horse, which I think in this case
> is a pretty accurate cliche. And the more you meditate, the
> more and more you will be in the position to be able to
> witness your thoughts as they arise and dissipate those that
> cause you to suffer. I wish you well.
> Peace and blessings,
> Bob Rose, President,
> Mediatation Society of America
Thanks so much for your reply. It's not so much a heavy bag as it
is a sore that I perversely enjoy picking at. I intend to stop!