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Re: Acceptance and Rejection

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  • Nina
    Interesting post, Jeff, ... I ve read of this technique used for hypnobirthing. Essentially, that one becomes more and more relaxed with each surge (as they
    Message 1 of 2 , Oct 9, 2004
      Interesting post, Jeff,

      > A suggestion is to be of
      > the mindset, as you enter
      > meditation, that any noise
      > you experience will deepen
      > your meditation. This simple
      > choice will not only allow
      > you to experience a ringing
      > of the telephone, or a quick
      > reflection on something you
      > need to take care of later, as
      > beneficial to your meditation,
      > it will keep you from a
      > negative energy impact
      > (reaction).

      I've read of this technique used
      for hypnobirthing. Essentially,
      that one becomes more and more
      relaxed with each "surge" (as
      they call contractions). Mommas
      who practice this can wind up
      pretty well blissed out by the
      time the baby comes.

      I've also used this to recover
      quickly from injuries, telling
      myself that with every sensation
      of pain or panic, I become more
      and more relaxed and the wound
      heals faster and better.

      > At some point in meditation,
      > a sense of dread or fear
      > may (and according to many
      > reports does) arise. This is
      > the ego-identification (as we
      > popularly use the term), our
      > socially coerced and limited
      > sense of self that seeks to
      > preserve its dominance by
      > "protecting" us. And while
      > the rational, logical
      > abilities do protect us in
      > great part, when we shifted
      > our entire identity to
      > a thinking machine, we
      > suffered a disconnect
      > and accepted a limited
      > view and experience of life.

      Yea, like the other day, when
      I nearly cut the tip of my thumb
      off (remains to be seen if I did
      or not). I had a bit of dread and
      fear, mainly based on my identification
      with the tip of my thumb and my
      notion that I like to keep all my
      body parts attached. But you know,
      it was my thinking machine in the
      end that kept me from losing it
      entirely - rationalization came to
      the rescue when I decided that if
      I only lose that much of the tip,
      I could still accept that. What is
      that Timbuk 3 song where the singers,
      not long before losing their careers
      to joint heroin addictions, sang about
      how humans can get used to most anything?
      Reminds me of Job. Just how much can you
      lose and still feel like, yea, this'll do.

      > This ego tactic makes its
      > appearance at the threshold
      > of awakening (enlightenment)
      > and a return to natural
      > enlightenment - the natural
      > awareness of being that we
      > brought into the world.
      > If our commitment, our
      > mission in meditation, is
      > awakening to, returning to
      > our natural enlightenment,
      > we will resist and reject
      > this tactic.
      > Though misinterpreted by
      > some, the sense of dread
      > or fear (or even a feeling of
      > impending death), is what
      > is sometimes referred to
      > in Zen as "the stench of
      > enlightenment". It is not
      > that enlightenment stinks.
      > It is the ego-identification,
      > the false self, the little self
      > that fears annihilation, that
      > feels (smells) the stench
      > of enlightenment. And the
      > more invested one is in
      > intellect and logic and
      > rational thinking as "all
      > there is", the greater the
      > stench. Those so invested
      > find claims of personal
      > enlightenment repugnant,
      > because it threatens to
      > dethrone their intellect
      > from its lofty ivory tower.

      :) Oh Jeff, the image that comes
      to mind is from the biography of
      Addison Mizner, a man who came to
      be well-known for his early 20th c.
      architecture in Florida. He had
      injured his shin as a child, and lain
      in bed with infection for a long time.
      You know what happened in that case,
      at that time. Yep, the doctor came,
      lanced the infection, and let loose
      something I won't describe, except
      to say it hit the ceiling. Pee-yew.
      Your profound to my profane, ;).

      > The idea that there is
      > "enlightenment", that a
      > sudden and surprising
      > wisdom can come like
      > a thunderbolt and brilliant
      > light (enlightenment) is
      > repugnant to them because
      > it would mean that there
      > is "something" greater
      > and grander than they are
      > as an individual in their
      > limited ego-identified being.
      > Equally misinterpreted by
      > the effete intellectual "teachers"
      > who parrot fuzzy philosophies
      > is the concept of "Acceptance".
      > Acceptance of what "IS", while
      > good advise, is not the end
      > product, it is part of the process.
      > For those who are responding
      > to an intuitive stirring that
      > there is something more, some
      > sacred and divine "place"
      > that is calling them to return,
      > and especially those who are
      > in despair, "acceptance" is
      > not the answer. That would
      > only mean more despair.
      > If there is a darkness (dark
      > thoughts of despair) in our life,
      > then hope for light (enlightenment)
      > is something to be pursued.

      Hmm. That's worth submitting to the
      thinking machine.

      Recently there was a posting on one
      of my yoga lists from a woman who
      was pregnant, unable to practice yoga
      as much as she had become accustomed,
      and experiencing the resurgance of a
      great many old feelings of anxiety and
      depression that she thought she had
      taken care to vanquish. The curious
      thing is, that while her practice of
      yoga managed to quiet her mind and
      make things feel more 'acceptable',
      it clearly wasn't addressing the roots
      of those feelings. Pregnancy has a way
      of stirring those old feelings, anyway,
      and then to not have the yoga practice
      to 'mute' them as they arise, well, she
      was quite distraught thinking she was
      doing something 'wrong'. Turns out, this
      is a great opportunity for her not to
      just 'sit and observe' her feelings until
      they get tired and submerge again, but
      to learn to express them and get to know
      them and their origins better. That's a
      deeper form of acceptance. Not just that
      you accept a pain, but that you can be
      strong enough to understand it.

      To change contexts, you can think of this
      pain as a person. What is acceptance?
      It is quite a curiousity to me when I see
      people calling each other sister, brother,
      telling each other 'I love you' in a sort
      of all-inclusive way, as in, 'I love everyone,
      dude'. What is it they are loving? More
      likely than not, they are loving the idea of
      loving. What do they know and accept about
      the person they profess to love? Do they love
      their anger? Do they love their bad habits?
      It is one thing to get blissed out and happy
      about a somewhat contrived feeling of unity
      with another person, it is another to operate
      closely with that person, to come to know
      them more fully, and still accept the burden
      of relating with them. That's the work of

      > Those who have come from
      > despair into enlightenment
      > can offer authentic testimony
      > and encouragement, not bland
      > prescriptions of acceptance.

      That's a pretty precise turn of words:
      bland prescription of acceptance. Fits closely
      with what I was trying to describe above.

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