Several questions from Email
- Dear Bob,
your site is impressive. It will surely be of much use to me.
I would like to ask you for a specific meditation for three
1. Meditation to sleep. How can you tell your body that it is time
to go to sleep and avoid staying half awake in bed for one , two
hours? I would like to know how to go to sleep and how to sleep more
2. How can you mantain a strong focus on your life´s goals each
day, to keep the motivation of having a vision and never forget about
3. One last thing, how can you be in peace with the thought of
someone who has hurted you and neglected you even though you cared
for this person that best you could? How can you keep away from
hatred, from pressure of later showing to this someone that she will
regret having left you?
I don´t want to steal much of your help but I would be very
grateful if you could help me in these particular matters.
I thank you for all the help you have given me so far.
- I often recieve a great deal of benifit from many groups and though
I have never posted to this wonderful site, I would care to field
these fine questions.
A few tidbits about my experiences first... Throughout life i have
used meditation as a tool to overcome life crippling anxiety. From
the early age of 8, i have suffered through fear of death through
all the usual symptoms, shortness of breath, chest pains, etc.. As i
turn 12 i sought out the aid of a spiritual counselor who gave me a
few short lessons on focus and what i was much later in life to
discover was a form of meditation. Needless to say, it has continued
to be an integral tool in my lifes pratice and i am almost to a
point where it is a constent that i experience the extreme clarity
found through meditation. If anyone wishes to hear more i would be
glad to share my experiences. Although i do read these post, i do
not usually have the time to post myself, but i would be glad to
make the time if there is a request to do so.
Meditation to sleep...
Many a time i have heard tell of words that can relate to this
thought. "When your with true peace and clarity, sleep is secondary"
Regardless, for those that have the difficulty sleeping and cannot
be in calm awareness all the time. There is a defining line between
the two states. As many of you know, throughout the first trials of
meditation, one ends up asleep. The awareness of conciousness is the
only seperation between the two states. The body can be at rest in
either. When your mind is away from all thought then you have the
ability to be aware or not. Otherwise this is an insomnia, where one
cannot be at rest due to all the thoughts rushing through the mind
which is the opposite affect one is studying to achieve.
Ahhhh, in true Taoist form this is an answer one can apply to every
aspect of your life. "Live, Think and Be here in the Now". Choose as
the moment arises, this is one of the first tiers toward
elightenment. Todays society can almost force one to plan every
aspect, instead plan on not planning, the goal becomes the moment.
Which goes right along with "keeping" a vision. We dream, invision
and fantisize life away, one will never truly live if their living
for tommorrow or are dreaming about yesterday.
Loves truest gift....
Often one can witness a relationship from an outside (neutral)
perspective. As a meditator, one has this point inbeded in the
mind, "to be ones own witness". As one sees in oneself the ability
to love without condition, then it is at love one will always be.
Regardless of what another does to you or takes from you, you will
look upon them with compassion and understanding. The hurt of
love "lost" is the is the pain of love undiscovered in oneself.
Loves truest gift is the door that opens one up to peace and
A final note...
There is no easy path in life, without pain there is no pleasure as
without dark there is no light. Seeing beyond the ego and self
preservation leds to the ultimate freedom from fear and suffering.
The road to this is long and difficult to travel yet, this is the
price to pay for peace inside the soul.
--- In meditationsocietyofamerica@y..., medit8ionsociety
> Dear Bob,time
> your site is impressive. It will surely be of much use to me.
> I would like to ask you for a specific meditation for three
> 1. Meditation to sleep. How can you tell your body that it is
> to go to sleep and avoid staying half awake in bed for one , twomore
> hours? I would like to know how to go to sleep and how to sleep
> 2. How can you mantain a strong focus on your life´s goals each
> day, to keep the motivation of having a vision and never forget
> 3. One last thing, how can you be in peace with the thought of
> someone who has hurted you and neglected you even though you cared
> for this person that best you could? How can you keep away from
> hatred, from pressure of later showing to this someone that she
> regret having left you?
> I don´t want to steal much of your help but I would be very
> grateful if you could help me in these particular matters.
> I thank you for all the help you have given me so far.