Re: Dealing with 'others'.......
wouldn't even call it 'accepting' them
the way they are, because there is nothing
to accept. It is more about
the fact that it becomes so
obvious that every reaction of mine illicits
exactly the response that it solicits.
The initiating input--->reaction -----> response to the reaction,................this is happening all the time,.....so long the two/multiple instruments in question, are "alive".
Along with this let's say,... primary functioning, ........there is a secondary functioning, that of the individual investments, in the reaction and in the response.
And hence the ado of the secondary functioning.
Whether that ado has got silenced or is thriving at it's best,..............the primary functioning, continues in the moment, moment to moment to moment.
All issues, whether they are coloured as a seeking for a system of ethical behaviour, or whatever camouflaging device used,....
.....is the ado of the secondary functioning.
And is nothing but the ado, of a rooster, agonizing the whole night, as to whether it will be able to get up in time, in the morning, to crow the sun to rise.
The degree to which there is secondary functioning
informs/colors the interpretation of the primary functioning,
and it becomes an 'experience'.
If there is little or no secondary functioning, then
there is little or no interpretation or 'experience of'
or 'stewing about' whatever it is.
And so, it really does becomes like there is no 'them'--
just parts of one big "I".......
Pieces of a jigsaw puzzle,......which independently have an existence and then come together to form the total picture.
The part is the very Whole, complete.
The "wave" in the cup of your hand,.......is the Ocean.
The dreamed-up Freyja, struggling with issues in a dream-sequence,........is nothing but the dreaming Freya, lying blissfully in a Noor Jahan bed.
.....where all the characters in the dream are but pawns --
playing pieces, on the chessboard of my desires.....