5614Re: Insult, Flattery, and Compassion
- Mar 31, 2003--- In firstname.lastname@example.org, asimpjoy
> Insult:have become
> Is this the desire to hurt another through
> words or gesture. And why is one hurt, "psychologically"?
> Often one will insult another to protect one's self,
> ... As a defensive reaction to the feeling of being attacked?
> What makes one feel inwardly hurt - insulted?
> Is it because we want to maintain a certain idea or
> image about who we think we are, and so we get hurt when
> someone comes along and takes a poke at it - because we
> so identified and attached to this image we have about ourself, and
> we don't want it to be disturbed?manipulated.
> ... Or perhaps we want to maintain it in the eyes of others?
> Is flattery the way we "butter-up" someone so we
> can get what we want from them.
> I know when I feel flattered, because it embarrasses me,
> and I get this strange feeling of being puffed up and
> ... Maybe flattery is words with the hidden agenda of a selfishG: this is why not everyone is meant to be a teacher / guide/
> Its a strange thing Compassion, because you never know
> what it will do. It can insult you or flatter you without
> even the slightest hint of selfishness.
> It seems to act from the natural flow of Love - a compliment or
> ... According to whatever is needed.
> I think that is why Compassion is often so misunderstood.
> I've noticed that there are those who you can't flatter or insult.
> ... Maybe they lost their image?
> With love and affection,
mentor ..... it takes clarity ... it takes knowing the situation and
the one that is being worked with .... it takes committment and
dedication.... balance and wisdom ... not flattery or insults and
compassion may wear many faces.... a good teacher knows
which one is needed in what moment....
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