5596Insult, Flattery, and Compassion
- Mar 31, 2003Insult:
Is this the desire to hurt another through
words or gesture. And why is one hurt, "psychologically"?
Often one will insult another to protect one's self,
... As a defensive reaction to the feeling of being attacked?
What makes one feel inwardly hurt - insulted?
Is it because we want to maintain a certain idea or
image about who we think we are, and so we get hurt when
someone comes along and takes a poke at it - because we have become
so identified and attached to this image we have about our self, and
we don't want it to be disturbed?
... Or perhaps we want to maintain it in the eyes of others?
Is flattery the way we "butter-up" someone so we
can get what we want from them.
I know when I feel flattered, because it embarrasses me,
and I get this strange feeling of being puffed up and manipulated.
... Maybe flattery is words with the hidden agenda of a selfish
Its a strange thing Compassion, because you never know
what it will do. It can insult you or flatter you without
even the slightest hint of selfishness.
It seems to act from the natural flow of Love - a compliment or
... According to whatever is needed.
I think that is why Compassion is often so misunderstood.
I've noticed that there are those who you can't flatter or insult.
... Maybe they lost their image?
With love and affection,
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