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- Aug 12 7:43 PMQuestion from M.B.
Hello i tried your meditation technique 70) Non-Expression of Negativity and i didnt like it plz tell me how i can stop this cause i really dont like it understood.
Here's the technique from Meditation Station in question:
Non-Expression of Negativity (#70)
One of the hardest "assignments" I give to
the students in my class is to try to not
say anything negative for a period of two
hours on one day of a week, or for a whole
day, or if they feel strong and brave, for
a whole week. Invariably, this exercise is
a tremendous learning experience for everyone
who tries it. Reports of astonishment at how
often the urge to comment negatively happens
habitually are common, as is the feeling of
embarrassment at one's own behavior and
frustration at being unable to stop it.
It's always alot of fun when the class
reports their experiences. Some common themes
occur, such as verbalizing negatively every
time you talk to a teenage son or daughter,
the impulse to mutter behind their back at
a co-worker (especially the boss), and the
compulsive snotty retort to a criticizing parent or in-law.
Please try this wonderful educational
meditation. You will witness yourself acting
in ways that will amaze you. Just by seeing
your habitual reactivity, you will be on the
road to changing for the better. You've spent
amounts of time and squandered enormous
amounts of energy in negativity. As you will
learn from observation and objective analysis,
it is very rare to have improved any situation
by injecting negativity into it. It is much more
commonly a stimulus for making things worse.
By doing this exercise, you will be ready to
appreciate the wisdom of the concept that before
every negative action, there are negative words,
and before the negative words, there are negative
thoughts. The meditator can interrupt this process
by witnessing every action, every word, and every
thought. If you can witness the thought, if it
arises and you recognize it as negative, you can
simply not allow uncontrolled negative words to
occur. If you can't stop it on the level of
stopping the negative words to come out, at
least you should recognize when you are verbalizing
negatively and be able to stop yourself from
actually acting out negatively.
Be gentle with yourself when you witness yourself
being negative. Don't be negative about your
negativity. Just observe the behavior, say
"Oh, well", and go back to witnessing. Don't
allow further inner commentary, comparisons,
analyzations, or judgements; just witness. Begin
to let "Oh, well", become a sort of shorthand
for forgiving and reprimanding yourself and know
nothing else is necessary and will needlessly
drain you of energy and peace.
Just by doing the witnessing, you will be doing
many positive things. Most importantly, you will
be at one with your Real Self, because that is
what, within you, does the witnessing. Any time
you are at one with your Real Self, you can be
at one with all your Real Self is at one with
and that is All Reality, for your Real Self is
really at one with everyone and everything.
Ultimately, there is only one Real Self and
it is within all, everyone, and everything.
Secondly, the more you witness your negativity,
the less you will be negative. It's sort of
like you've been unconsciously stepping on
your own spiritual toes and once you realize it,
you cease to do it and ever after cease having
pain in your foot and tripping and falling on
your face spiritually. Anyway, you'll definitely
have a few good laughs at how silly your
behavior is, when uncontrolled, and start to
be less and less negative and more and more at
peace. Eventually, you will live happily ever after.
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