Fw: Bashar: Self-Judgment and Winning and Losing
- Hi everybody,I know this group doesn't share too much channeled material and the reason for sharingthis is just for the value of what it says and it seems to go along with some of the subject matter that comes up latelyLoveMary
Bashar: Self-Judgment and Winning and Losing
Q: It's funny that you opened with the synchronicity.
B: Funny! All right.
Q: Funny. And then talking about the separation -- because today,
more than I've felt in a long time, it's been like a frustration.
In my heart I feel I want to do something pretty strongly, but
then everything on the outside says - it's like hurdles or
challenges or whatever
B: Outside! Outside? Outside. Outside where?
Q: I feel I'm going in two different directions and I don't know
B: You are going in one direction. One direction.
Q: It seems like I'm working against myself then, because I do one
thing, but everything else piles up. So it
B: What is it you want to do?
Q: Well for instance, tonight I wanted to come here. Then my car
broke down, I was having trouble getting a ride. It was like:
"Should I go? Shouldn't I go?" So I just... I could have gotten
my car fixed tonight, but I said, "To heck with it." The last
time you said, "Don't should" or something, so I said, "I want
to come here."
B: All right. Very good!
Q: Whether I should fix my car or not.
B: Then understand you have given yourself -- not because you came
here, but simply because you allowed yourself to act without making
it necessary that other incidents in a sense all perform the way you
expect they should, before being willing to act. Because you have
allowed yourself to do that, you are beginning to change your own
habits. And you can continue to do so.
Q: Yes, I was thinking it would be good if... is there any way I
could give it a shot in the arm when I decide which way I should go,
like just to
B: Understand, understand, understand: there is no "which way you
should go." Any way you go is your right direction. Because you are
going there. Do you follow me?
B: You are not on a path; you are a path. You cannot be off yourself.
So wherever you are, you are on your path. As soon as you choose to
stop judging all the different ways you can be a path, you will not
need to create the need to make a decision. You follow me? You are
creating a need to make a decision, instead of allowing yourself to
be where you are, and trusting that where you are reflects where you
want to be. That you have already made the decision to be there --
or there is no way in the universe you would be there. You cannot be
somewhere you have not chosen to be. It is not possible. Do you
Q: Well, I find myself in situations that I really don't think I
chose to be in.
B: That is not possible. You may not like it there, but you chose to
be there because of the way you choose to think of yourself. Do you
B: If you are choosing to think of yourself as someone who can be
battered back and forth by the tides of whim in the universe, then
that belief about yourself will throw you into the tide pools, and
you will swirl around wondering what you are doing there -- not
thinking you would ever possibly choose this: "I could never have
made this choice; it has nothing to do with what I think my life
should be about." You are judging, judging, judging at every step,
every corner, and those are the dead ends you are finding. You are
running into your own judgment.
If you would release the idea of judging yourself wherever and
whenever you find yourself to be, then you will find that those
paths that you become are not, in and of themselves, dead ends.
You will walk through the illusion of the wall, and on the other
side you will find that you are right back where you started. Do
you follow me?
Q: Yes. Thank you. Um
B: One moment. Simply -- simply, simply, simply -- lighten up on
yourself. Do not take yourself so seriously -- well, you can if
Q: I think you told me to trust, and I thought it another one of
those trust things -- but it felt like I was fighting myself.
B: All right. But you can also trust that you know what you are
doing, even when you are fighting yourself.
Q: But I won, ha, ha.
B: You always win. Understand that. All right?
B: You always win. And in a sense more than that, you simply always
are. You do not have to make it a win. When you make things a win,
you are assuming you can lose. And it is the fear that if you do not
win, that there is an alternative that creates it for you. Because
your fear is stronger, it is the strongest overriding belief -- more
than the idea of simply just being. You follow me?
Q: Why is that?
B: You tell me.
Q: Oh, okay.
B: Why? Why should you choose that idea? Why should you choose to
believe you have to win, thereby creating the idea that you might
Q: Hard to say.
B: No, 'tis not. How has it served you?
Q: I guess I must not have trained myself with that, or something.
B: All right. How has it served you to do that? How has it served
you to feel like you can lose?
Q: To get to the point where I don't have to win or lose.
B: Very good. Thank you. Then allow it to have served you, and
you will be done with it.
Q: Sounds good.
B: All right. Thank you.
Q: Thank you.