Ho'oponopono ~ Overcoming Anger
Ho'oponopono ~ Overcoming Anger
"So there I was, with the Ho'oponopono, looking it straight in the
eye. And it looked back, with all of the implied compassion of and
obeisance and surrender to the Great Teacher. Could I do this, could I
really feel these words in Truth?"
by Sharda Chaitanya
Today I had a sublime experience using the mantra, HO'PONOPONO. I had
come across the word recently when reading Scott Mowry's latest
article, posted here
I'd seen the word in the past, and I have seen the definition
separately, but hadn't put the two together until now. That is all I
knew, that was as deep as it went for me. Which was perfect - I hadn't
examined, contemplated or exploited it. It was a virgin mantra.
But yesterday a situation erupted with someone who I consider a good
friend. We had 'words', (or more accurately, text messages) and I
became really angry. Angry like I haven't been in about five years.
Angry like if I didn't calm down, I was going to pass out, overcome by
dizziness. And what made it worse in my view was that it was done via
text messaging!! OMG, I was regressing into a teenager!! The whole
scenario had all the earmarks of a juvenile spat, with yours truly as
one of the players.
A while back, I stopped doing angry. Anger is a killer, literally. All
kinds of mean and nasty chemicals are released into the blood stream
when we become angry - hormones are thrown off balance, our bodies
become acidic and our heart-rate and breathing increase abnormally as a
response to our inherent 'flight or fight' programming. And anger
always involves a fabricated self-righteous perception that keeps it
justified, something that our ego loves - it thrives on that shit.
And then of course there is the feeling-really-bad about whatever
happened. Followed by figuring out how you are going to make it right
again. All that pontificating just brings back the incident in your
mind, and you end up playing it over and over again. And the more you
do that, the more you feed the ego which wants so dearly to cling to any
notion we may be holding of having to be right
. It's exhausting.
When I was studying the Yoga system of Swami Shivananda, one of the
things he was very keen on was never becoming angry. He wrote that one
outburst of anger creates such disharmony to the astral body that it
takes 40 days to repair and replenish it. That always stuck with me.
Because if you are dedicating you life to Yoga and meditation, it
simply isn't worth it. It wasn't worth destroying weeks, months or even
years working diligently toward a balanced life just to have it thrown
off by a hissy fit. Or any other (and there are many) forms that anger
So there I was yesterday - Me and My Anger. I sat with it until I used
what I had in me to raise my vibration, call in my guides and get to
work. By that I mean, let it go - go to that place where I visit when I
meditate and latch the mind onto that space of infinite peace. Within a
short while, I was much better. And I continued to feel better as the
evening wore on. But I still had the issue of the other person. (Oh
yeah, that.) To keep myself in balance, I listened to Bentinho Massaro
on YouTube. A little sidebar here: The really interesting thing was
that the particular topic he was discussing was something that I
absolutely had to hear, and unrelated to the topic at hand. To my
amazement, the person in the video who asks the question has the exact
same issue as me, and he expressed it much like I would. And as if that
were not coincidence enough, he wants to go to Hawaii. SO DO I!!!
NOTE TO THE UNIVERSE: Thanks for synchronicity, I love when You do
Back to Ho'oponopono. When I woke up today I asked my quides and St.
Germaine, and Lord Krishna and Divine Mother (and ultimately my Higher
Self) to fix the issue. I handed it over and did my morning Sadhana.
(Afternoon Sadhana these days - I sleep late.) All the while I was
doing my meditation and other offerings, the Ho'oponopono mantra kept
coming through. Or more accurately, the meaning of the mantra kept
I love you.
That's all. That's it. Simple, sweet, to the point, and all is well.
With such a mantra, the ego is lost. The ego is stunned, it is
flailing about in shock that it has been dismissed. And the beauty part
of it is, there is no muss or fuss. It's like passive resistance -
refuse to push back and soon the aggressor has nothing to overtake. So
there I was, with the Ho'oponopono, looking it straight in the eye.
And it looked back, with all of the implied compassion of and obeisance
and surrender to the Great Teacher. Could I do this, could I really
feel these words in Truth?
It turns out that I didn't have to wait for an answer; the very thought
of Ho'oponopono and it's meaning proved to be enough. With no
preplanned agenda, the person with whom angry words were exchanged and I
met to talk, and I didn't even have to think twice. I said I am sorry
and we hugged. We spoke briefly about what happened and mutually
decided that it was so ridiculous, etc., etc. And that person in turn
said sorry. Let's move on. End of drama.
But what I am not sorry for is the opportunity that this incident
offered me to look that much more closely at MY SELF and see what kinds
of yucky yuk is still lingering. The energies coming in are causing all
kinds of ages-old issues to erupt. But the same energies are assisting
us with the clearing, transmuting really, the old baggage more quickly
and less painfully. Much of what Bentinho Massaro talks about in the
video is the idea of how we create situations so that we might be able
to experience the very thing for what it is, or to change and grow and
to ultimately transcend. So I, or we, created a situation which
enabled the experience that, in turn, supports us and our growth.
So negativity isn't always negative. And so it holds that positivity
may not always be positive. It's what our minds assign to that
situation, or object or emotion. We are immersed in duality so that we
can overcome it. These past 24 hours has been an encapsulated
examination and ultimate understanding of this otherwise very difficult
concept. So I guess, yes, the video was related to what happened after
all. Ask and you get. Know what I am asking for now? A pineapple. I
have a sudden craving.
With Love in Oneness,
'May we live in peace without weeping. May our joy outline the lives we touch without ceasing. And may our love fill the world, angel wings tenderly beating.'