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Dr. Paul Michael Schlosser
an overview of his work:
and Licensing by State of Georgia; B.A.
Psychology, Duke University, Ph.D, Georgia
originator of Self empowerment Emotional
Healing Technology, passed away August 1,
work in emotional healing self empowerment is
being carried on by his wife,
Cynthia Rose Young Schlosser, Barbara Murray,
Keith McVay, and others who studied
and taught with him. Dr. Schlosser had
seventeen years experience working with combat
PTSD, and 10 years of teaching civilians a
marvelous way of healing wounded emotions.
* Developer of Unique and Successful Trauma
Coordinator of Couples Communication Workshops
Expert in Integrating old and negative
feelings into a positive vision
Facilitator in Holistic approach to realigning
the self with the soul and spirit.]
Helping Emotions Heal
excerpt from upcoming book, "Healing the Past
Michael & Cynthia Schlosser, c. 2004
Emotional energy is the feminine energy of
alpha brainwave awareness.
Now is the
time that this level of awareness is going
through awakening, healing
balancing within the Children of Light and Love
all over the world.
Uncomfortable feelings should not be bottled up
any longer, denied, or suppressed by chemicals
or addictive behavior. Attempts to "make
negative feelings go away", or bypass them with
"positive thinking", are ways of denying and
avoiding AND NOT LOVING wounded feelings that
need unconditional love from the adult self for
the inner wounded child to heal. Most powerful
negative feelings go back to earlier emotional
wounding, and when negative feelings come up in
day to day life, the inner child is crying out
to be heard, validated and comforted. On the
other side of the coin, acting out negative
feelings creates more negative feelings. The
answer is to not act out or deny wounded
feelings, but to go within and heal the feelings
Feelings are the water element, and like water,
cleanse and purify through flowing freely and
safely in an atmosphere of unconditional all
Strong present time painful feelings usually go
back to a previous emotionally traumatic
experience. When the psyche is ready for a
certain memory to heal, it will flood your
consciousness with the feelings from that
memory. Something or someone in present time
will 'trigger' an old forgotten traumatic
experience. The way to know unmistakably that
you are "triggered" is that you will feel so
very bad that you lose your usual upbeat or
hopeful perspective. This is THE BEST time to do
the emotional process described below.
Unconscious emotions can best be healed at the
very time when the "old feelings" of the trauma
are triggered, flooding up into consciousnesss.
This time is a gold mine for healing and
transformation, but it is also the time when you
(the triggered person) are least likely to take
responsibility for them. Instead of acting out
dangerously and destructively toward the
present-time person or situation that triggered
you, or frantically trying to deny or
dissociate, the key paradigm shift is to embrace
these painful feelings. Remember: This is by
far the best time to process the feelings--and
the memory they are associated with--when you
are feeling the worst and feel the least like
dealing with the original wound.
Figuring out exactly which original wounding
event needs to be cleared is an art which is
perfected with practice. One good technique to
use is to look at the present time feelings
themselves. The present-time feelings are the
door opener to the past. Here is that way to
identify the original emotional wound:
Make a list of all these, present-time, painful
feelings and ask yourself,
"When have I felt this way before?"
Typically, more than one memory will pop up into
consciousness. Usually there are a number of
experiences, a pattern of them, in which these
feelings occurred. The important memory to
identify is the original one, the one that is
the most painful. The way to determine that you
have singled out "THE ONE" to process is to ask
yourself "if all the bad feelings of it were
completely gone, would it give me the most
This memory, once brought back into
consciousness, should be lived and relived in
the imagination, over and over, feeling each
feeling that comes up with unconditional love.
Remember that once you have found and relived
the key painful memory one time all the way
through to the end, take stock of how you are
feeling, then repeat it again. Recall the
memory from the beginning to end, like a movie,
all the way through to the end. Each time you
relive the memory like this, more of the
feelings of the memory come back, and more
"pieces of the memory puzzle" will come back.
The memory will go through spontaneous changes.
Monitor these intuitive changes. When you have a
desire to correct something, or if there is
something you wish you could have said or done
differently, go ahead and imagine that you are
making the needed correction. You can even talk
to your child-self from the perspective of the
nurturing-parent-self, and then allow the child
to cry whatever tears of release spontaneously
arise in response to the loving input of the
nurturing parent, who you wished you could have
had at that early age.
In doing this, the present-time adult-self is
loving and validating a younger part of
yourself. It was at that earlier time of life,
a time of deep emotional wounding, that your
child self needed loving and validation most of
Changes in the memory that arise from these
visualized inner interventions is part of a
process that the psyche uses to heal. The
Kahunas of Hawaii call this type of process 'O
Pono Pono', and the native Americans refer to it
A SPECIAL NOTE about "negative feelings":
Do not run away from your powerful "negative
feelings"; they are the key to healing.
Feelings stay the same only when they are
bottled up and not felt.
When they are expressed, they change quickly.
By feeling all the feelings, crying the tears,
venting the rage, reliving
the pain, emotions are released and transformed
naturally. By loving the
feelings as you would love a small upset child,
they are transmuted very
very quickly, for that is the power of love.
Remember that with painful feelings, the most
difficult thing to do, and
paradoxically the easiest, is allowing
spontaneous painful feelings to
emerge; give them enough time and permission to
resolution in a safe, loving, and
It is the only way they heal.
The key to doing this is allowing any painful
feeling that comes up to be
felt with an accepting, unconditionally loving,
and patient attitude. The
creative aspect of expressing a feeling is to
tune in to exactly how the
feeling "wants" to come through. Then experiment
with sounds and movements
until you find the way that feels most
The most important precaution is to find a way
to express these feelings
non-destructively (to property, to self, and to
others). Screaming into a
pillow, or beating up a pillow releases anger
and pain safely.
Here is a technique that is helpful for
facilitating the natural flow of feelings:
Use eye movement, like your body does in REM
sleep. While feeling, move
your eyes back and forth, left to right and back
again, slow or fast, in a circle
or diagonally, whatever is most natural. This
shifts the energy from one brain
hemisphere to the other in order to process the
feeling energy on all
levels in all brainwave patterns.
This is the divine healing energy of the
Feminine Force. It is very
dreamlike, and involves the same brainwave
patterns that are used in
By learning how to do this, you are taking the
automatic process of healing
that happens every night in dreaming into
conscious control. In this way you
heal feelings as they come up naturally day to
Feel free to call in angels for help, or perhaps
ask the highest Divine Self
of one of the people involved, including your
own Highest Divine Self, to
come back in time and heal the event.
After the memory has been processed repeatedly,
and most of the original emotional intensity has
new perspectives on the old trauma spontaneously
These 'natural insights' and breakthroughs tend
to shed a whole new light
upon the old familiar way you have always
previously framed the original
memory. At this stage of the process, the
motives of the people appear
different to you, and inter-relationships
between events surrounding the
original trauma unfold themselves to you in
wholly new ways. The memory
changes significantly, revealing underlying
facts and truths about the
experience that were not noticed at the time,
because the very power of your
strong emotions clouded your understanding of
what was occurring then.
Stay with this process, reliving the memory over
and over from the beginning
to end, until you feel all the feelings and
"rewrite" the memory completely
through the healing images that come up
These healing insights give rise to forgiveness,
of self and others,
understanding, and emotional healing. Once
feelings and memories are
completely resolved, positive feelings and
When you have a final healing image, imagine
merging or integrating this
healing image with the original "wounded
picture" of the memory. Watch
carefully what happens when these two images are
The original picture of the memory changes into
what is called THE
There are a finite number of emotional wounds;
this process eventually heals
all of the past traumas of your life. This frees
up the energy in your body
so that instead of holding in the tensions of
all the emotional pain of
every traumatic event of your entire life, your
body can dance with the joy
of the Divine in each present moment.
This totally alters the chemical makeup of your
glandular secretions, which
in turn alters your aging process and stimulates
your immune system.
"And the last enemy to be overcome is death."
It is becoming common knowledge in the
scientific community that emotions
are the causative factor in creating reality on
a quantum level. As each one
of us heals emotionally from our past, we free
ourselves to feel Divine Joy
and unconditional Love in the present.
Radiating magnetic feelings of Joy and
unconditional Love attracts Heaven to
IF YOU ARE FEELING FINE, ENJOY THE FEELINGS AND
LET THEM FLOW. Emotional
healing work only needs to be done when painful
feelings spontaneously come up.
See if you can find someone to do the 10 minute
exercise with. Its very
powerful for moving emotions through. We do it
daily. With love always,
The two most important things to know about
painful emotions is that the
most powerful feelings are linked to the past,
and if followed to the original
wounding events, they can be healed permanently
through recall and feeling
the original emotions through. This leads to
eventual spontaneous healing
images in the mind's eye and in the emotions
that replace the original
painful memories. As these healing images
reveal previously unrecognized
underlying causes and situations surrounding
emotionally wounding events,
understanding and compassion replace
victimization, anger, and hopelessness.
The negative beliefs that the trauma caused
about the nature of reality heal
as well, and transform into positive life
The other important thing to understand is that
all feelings must be felt
in order to heal, they can't be made to 'go
away' through will or 'thought
away' through reasoning, or medicated away etc.
Attempts to bypass them
simply make them go underground where they
continue to work subconsciously.
WAYS OF PROCESSING EMOTIONS
Healing the Divine Feminine Force of feeling and
Eye Movement in Flowing Emotions
Remember to use eye-movement exercise while
letting emotions flow.
If necessary,this can be done very privately in
public situations by
pretending to read a book or look at a monitor.
Tune into your feelings and
move the eyes left to right and back and forth
over and over again at a
speed, from very slow to fast, that is
comfortable to you.
This works with the eyes opened or closed. Pay
attention to the feelings and
let the feelings flow and go through their
changes, while the memories and
the insights come. Eye movement shifts the
emotional energy back and forth
from one hemisphere of the brain to the other,
allowing the energy to process.
This is the
same technique that the body uses naturally
every night in
dreaming. By moving the eyes back and forth,
right to left to right to left,
etc., at any speed slow or fast, the emotional
energy is shifted from one
brain hemisphere to the other. This allows the
psyche to create spontaneous
insights and healing images that heal the
painful memories as feelings are
allowed to flow.
Ten Minute Exercise:
Get with your partner and agree on a time to do
some emotional dialogue.
Usually it is good to limit this to about thrity
minutes, although whatever
feels right is the best guide.
First you do the ten minute exercise and then
switch roles and let your
partner do ten minutes.
Your partner acts as a facilitator and you
decide on the question
you would like him or her to ask you, such as
"what's bothering you today?"
or "what is coming up for you today?" Its best
to express your feelings using
'juice' words, or words relating to exactly how
you feel, instead of an intellectual
detached description of how you feel (
An example of mentalizing would be, "The
finances are in terrible shape and
Junior is staying out too late." An example of
using 'juice' words, which
is more conducive to expressing feelings, [as
in, "where's the feeling energy?"],
would be, "I
feel very anxious and worried about the
finances. In fact, I am feeling
and scared." "I am feeling a little anxious
about Junior staying out too late."
In any situation, there are usually a mixture of
feelings, some positive and
some negative. A good idea: Do a
negative/positive question. Your partner
asks you, "What negative and positive feelings
are up for you now?"
First you say what it is that is negative that
you are feeling and then you express any
emotions. The partner says "Thank you for
sharing" or "thanks" and keeps asking
over again and you answer with first a negative
and then a positive expression
feelings using 'juice words' and staying with
the feelings as they come up.
The positive/negative exercise is especially
balancing, opening up whatever
you may be in denial about in both areas of what
is troublesome in your life
as well as what good is going on.
Remember that feelings are just feelings, they
do not have to be rational.
The facilitator does not offer advice,
interrupt, or try to "fix it" in any
way. He/she just listens and then asks the
question again when you are
finished. It is a way of "peeling" the onion of
your feelings. Emotional
healing must come from inside, and the advice of
another person, no matter
how wise and well-intentioned, cannot substitute
for your own inner
revelations and healing. If you are the one
asking the question, do not
interrupt the person answering if he or she goes
silent, with a far away
look in the eye....this is the most pregnant
time for inner change and
insights. These long silent pauses are the most
important time for deep
As you continue this process you eventually
arrive at the core feelings.
Usually, just doing this much clears the air and
brings you back to
yourself. If it doesn't, even after repeating it
a few times, you may need
to do a trauma clearing.
If you need to do emotional processing and do
not have a partner, follow the
directions exactly as if you did have one,
carefully doing each step and
perhaps writing them down.
Reminder: Use Rapid Eye Movement [REM] while
surfing the feelings. This is
the eye movement that the body does
automatically in dreaming. Emotional
processing uses many of the same neurological
states as dreaming, and could
be termed "a waking dream". REM is moving the
eyes back and forth, right to
left and back again, over and over, at any speed
that is comfortable, while
reliving the memories or just feeling any
feelings. This shifts the
emotional-thought energy back and forth from one
brain hemisphere to the
other and allows it to process naturally.
TEN MINUTE EXERCISE AND TRAUMA CLEARING
[This can take up to a few hours. This
presentation is a very brief
description of the process. An entire book is
being written with details of
this method. If you are attempting this and have
questions, please feel free
to email and ask them.]
When you are facilitating a trauma clearing for
a partner who needs to do
emotional processing, first do a ten minute
exercise with him/her until
he/she comes to the core feelings. Then ask the
partner to list their
feelings words [negative) and to list
corresponding negative statements
about the beliefs connected to these feeings.
It is good to write these down, so that if the
person doing the clearing
gets stuck you can read the feeling words back.
This will usually get them
going again so that they can unearth more of
If a person is really triggered into powerful
negative feelings, it is
advisable to do a negative feeling word list,
then the negative ideas
associated with this list first. Negative
feeling words may look like this:
overwhelmed, betrayed, angry, dissapointed, sad,
Negative statements: I feel overwhelmed and
betrayed that this happened to
me. I feel insecure because life is full of
unexpected problems. I am angry and
disappointed that every time I think things are
going my way something bad
[Often the feeling word lists are up to 20
feeling words long.]
Now ask "When have you felt like this before?"
The partner goes back to a
previous time when they felt the same way.
Usually this goes back to a
childhood formative experience. If there are
several memories, usually it is
the earliest one. A way to make sure is to ask
how they would feel if they
could magically heal all the feelings connected
to each memory. The one that
gets the most emphatic answer of relief is the
Ask them to describe a mental picture of the
trauma as if they had a
photograph of the event. This is called the
Now the partner relives and describes the
memory, saying what is happening
using feeling words and staying with the
feelings as they begin to come up
This is what you tell them to do: " First tell
the story silently, then
again outloud. Then you will relive the memory
silently and follow that
again outloud. We will do this until the memory
begins to heal."
Each time relive the memory from beginning to
end. Remember that it usually
takes approximately four to ten times of living
and re-living the story
before the healing image begins to emerge from
Each time you finish, go back to the beginning
and remember it all the way
through to the end, taking careful note of new
impressions that emerge each
time. Spend as much time in silent processing
between sentences as you need.
DO NOT INTERRUPT LONG SILENCES, OR FAR AWAY
LOOKS....IT IS DURING THESE
TIMES THAT IMPORTANT INSIGHTS ARE OCCURING.
As in a dream, allow new information to present
itself with each
remembering. If at any point you wish that you
had, or could, say or do
something different in the memory, allow
yourself to do so in your
imagination. This is a part of the healing image
At first, the emotions can be difficult and
painful and it is important to
STAY WITH THE FEELINGS as they come up. As the
telling and retelling process
continues, the emotions change and finally there
are less and less painful
feelings left that are attached to the trauma.
By this time healing
insights about the trauma have occured. Positive
feelings are growing.
As this is happening a new picture of the memory
develops which is called
the healing image. This image develops from the
positive emotions that are
Allow the healing images to mature up and
develop. Eventually there will be
a final strong healing image.
Now the partner is asked to merge the still
photo with the final healing
image. Imagine pushing the old previous painful
picture of the memory into
the new healed picture.
The resulting image is called the resolution
image. When the resolution
image is obtained, allow plenty of time for it
to be integrated into the
psyche. DO NOT INTERRUPT THE PERSON CLEARING THE
TRAUMA, THIS IS A RICH
AND IMPORTANT TIME IN THE HEALING PROCESS.
The trauma is cleared.
The person clearing will know this because they
feel a permanent weight
lifted from their shoulders. Allow as long as
they need to let the emotions
integrate and re-align themselves. They are very
sensitive and vulnerable at
this time and it is necessary to be alone and in
Sometimes it takes anywhere from a few days to a
few weeks for the psyche to
integrate the change. During this time the
person who has cleared is very
sensitive and vulnerable. Like scar tissue, the
newly healed subconscious
needs time to firm up. Respect their space and
let them stay in a "healing
bubble" for as long as they need to. During this
time, do not bring up
loaded subjects or make demands.
Note: If the emotions are too difficult to
handle and do not respond to this
method, it often means that there was an earlier
wounding and traumatic
memory that should have been processed instead
of the one chosen. To avoid
this, be sure to take time in the beginning to
make the negative feeling
word list carefully, and use this
"constellation" of negative feelings as a
map to help the person doing the clearing to
remember previous times when
they felt this way before.
Usually it is the earliest memory. When you ask
them how it would feel to
clear each of the previous memories listed, the
one that needs to be cleared
will be the memory that will bring the most
relief to be cleared. Often the
person will say, when asked how it would feel to
clear the right memory,"
Oh my God! If I could clear the feelings
associated with that event it
would be a miracle!"
HERE IS ANOTHER DESCRIPTION Of THE TRAUMA
CLEARING METHOD THAT MIGHT
BE EASIER TO UNDERSTAND.....
To get into your heart try this with a partner:
[This is what Michael and I would do .....It's
an adaptation of a shamanic technique...]
Your partner, let's call him Wayne, asks you,
"What feelings are up for YOU now? what are you
Use feeling words.
If you can, just list them. But you may need to
You may need to vent for quite a while . In
venting, use feeling words with
an " I " statement as much as possible. Such as,
"I am fed up to here with
being over responsible for other people's
problems when I need to be
protecting my psychic space in order to heal."
or "I am angry that I have to
keep on giving out energy when I'm tired, just
when I thought relief was in
While all of this is going on, Wayne writes down
the key feeling words in a
Possible feeling words:
Frustrated, out of sorts, hasseled, worried, fed
up, angry, had it, don't
want to do it anymore, tired, angry [again],
unhappy, drained, out of
balance, hopeless, powerless, etc etc.
When you feel like you have expressed every
single feeling, have your
facilitator read the list of feeling words back
to you. A few more may pop
up as you are listening to him.. Add those to
the list. This list is a
CONSTELLATION OF FEELINGS.
When the list is done, have him read it back to
you one more time. As he is
doing it try to remember when you have felt that
way before. When have you
felt this particular CONSTELLATION OF FEELINGS
Were there earlier events in your life that felt
like this? Take your time.
You may remember many. Find the earliest and
most painful memory.
Don't worry if you don't remember it very well.
Take what you do remember,
even a brief picture, and describe it out loud
while Wayne writes down what
you are saying. Go back and relive this
'infected' memory a number of times
from beginning to end, allowing it to change as
it wants to with each
reliving. Use eye movement when necessary.
Alternate remembering it quietly
to yourself with saying it outloud to Wayne so
that he can write it
down.Treat your remembering as a lucid dream,
and intervene whenever you
feel prompted to: things such as praying,
invoking, communicating, etc. Stay
with the process until you feel the memory heal.
When the memory has finally completely changed
and healed, describe what
happened to Wayne and let him write it down.
Finally, take a mental picture,
a snapshot, of this finished healed version of
the memory and merge it with
the first mental picture of the original wounded
memory. Describe to Wayne
what happens when you do this so he can write it
down. This is called the
resolution image. How does your heart feel now?
Angel Message on emotions:
Healing the Divine Feminine Force.
The magnetic Divine Feminine force expresses
itself through emotions and
through the physical plane.
Feelings are intense now because great healing
Some people are ending lifelong relationships,
leaving projects that they
have faithfully given their all to, experiencing
death of loved ones, and
facing uncertain futures. They may be feeling
great fear and trepedation
about politics, health, and the future of earth.
Wounded feelings from childhood are coming up to
be healed in everyone.
There are feelings that need to be healed now.
This is necessary for the
transformation of consciousness in the physical
In flowing into these feelings, sometimes
memories surface that feel
violent. They have so much pain associated with
them that the programed
instinctual reflex is to do everything to avoid
feeling them. It feels like
life itself is at stake...This is a true panic
Everyone has experienced panic and these
feelings are surfacing now to be
healed. Emotions heal through flowing. Use eye
movement to relive the tragic
event, if you can remember it. Relive the memory
over and over until all the
feelings associated with it have time to flow.
If you cannot remember
anything, but just have the feelings, flow with
them using eye movement and
These are times when overwhelming feelings are
coming up to be healed. KEEP
BREATHING. Deep rythmic breathing is the
foundation of holotropic breath
work. Just as a woman breathes while giving
birth, keep breathing when panic
feelings come up. In addition to deep breathing,
use eye movement and stay
focused on the feelings for as long as it takes
for good feelings to return.
Usually this happens quickly.
Traditionally when panic attacks happen......
the old paradigm of shutting
DOWN the feelings IMMEDIATELY takes over. This
has been accomplished through
medication, alcolhol, diversion,
dissassociation, denial, magic, hynosis, etc.
Break the habit and STAY WITH THE PANIC.
The panic passes in SECONDS.... BREATHE and use
EYE MOVEMENT, and use every
bit of will power and mastery to stay with the
feelings and to FEEL THE
FEELINGS through. Conscious flowing is how
This is important, everything depends on GETTING
THROUGH THE FEELING and NOT
AROUND IT. Flowing is how EMOTIONS heal, denial
just makes them unconscious
and the body stores them as tension and stress
in the musculature. Use eye
movement and breathing instead of giving into
disassociation or destructive
It is wonderful when panic comes up. By healing
these emotions, the Divine
Feminine Force is healed. By healing the
emotions of the dark dark wounding,
the body is healed. It is like having an
emotional bowel movement. Whether
it is fear, anger, hopelessness, suffocation,
betrayal, shame, etc, this is
the healing process at work.
The next time feelings become unbearable, stay
with the feelings no matter
how painful they are, use eye movement and keep
breathing. The feelings heal
so fast it is amazing.
The note at the end of this message may also be
Note: A number of you have written about intense
feelings of sadness,
disconnection, pain, and anger coming up at this
time. The feminine energy
is the emotional energy and now is the time that
the feminine energy is
going through healing and balancing.
Uncomfortable feelings must not be
bottled up any longer, or suppressed by chemical
means. Any attempt to
"make them go away", or bypass them with
"positive thinking", is just
another way of refusing to FEEL the feelings
that need to heal.
Once they are healed, positive feeling and
thinking comes naturally.
The most difficult thing to do, and
paradoxically the easiest, is to allow
spontaneous feelings to come up and feel them.
It is the only way they heal.
Feelings are like water, they cleanse themselves
the more they flow freely.
Feelings stay the same only when they are not
felt and they are bottled up.
When they are expressed appropriately, they
The key to doing this is to allow any feeling
that comes up to be felt with
an accepting, unconditionally loving, and
patient attitude. The creative
aspect of expressing a feeling is to tune in to
exactly how the feeling
"wants" to come through. Then experiment with
sounds and movements until
you find the way that feels most releaseful. It
The most important precaution is to find a way
to express these feelings in
a non-destructive way to property and to others.
Screaming into a pillow,
or beating up a pillow releases anger and pain
in a safe way.
Use eye movement like your body does in REM
sleep. While feeling, move your
eyes back and forth, left to right and back
again, slow or fast, whatever is
most natural. This shifts the energy from one
brain hemisphere to the other
in order to process the feeling energy on all
levels in all brainwave
patterns. When the feelings are strong, it's
because they have re-awakened
an earlier time in your life when you suffered a
Allow yourself to remember this time and relive
it in your memory the best
that you can, feeling the feelings that come up
as you do so.
Once you have done this, repeat it again, and
remember the memory from the
beginning, like a movie, all the way through to
the end. Each time you relive
the memory like this, more of the memory will
come back, and more of the feelings
will come back. By feeling the feelings, crying
the tears, feeling the anger,
reliving the pain, the emotions can release. The
memory will go through changes,
and some of the changes will be healing insights
and desires. Follow these intuitive
changes. When you have a desire to correct
something, or if there is something you
wish you could have said, imagine that you are
The changes in t
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