THE FIRST SECRET
The Power of Thought.
begins with our thoughts. We become what we think about. Loving
thoughts create loving experiences and loving relationships.
Affirmations can change our beliefs and thoughts about ourselves and
others. If we want to love someone, we need to consider their needs and
desires. Thinking about your ideal partner will help you recognize him
or her when you meet him or her.
THE SECOND SECRET
The Power of Respect.
cannot love anyone or anything unless you first respect them. The first
person you need to respect is yourself. To begin to gain self-respect
ask yourself: "What do I respect about myself?" To gain respect for
others, even those you may dislike, ask yourself: "What do I respect
THE THIRD SECRET
The Power of Giving.
you want to receive love, all you have to do is give it! The more love
you give, the more you will receive. To love is to give of yourself,
freely and unconditionally. Practice random acts of kindness. Before
committing to a relationship ask not what the other person will be able
to give to you, but rather what will you be able to give them. The
secret formula of a happy, lifelong, loving relationship is to always
focus on what you can give instead of what you can take.
THE FOURTH SECRET
The Power of Friendship.
find a true love, you must first find a true friend. Love does not
consist of gazing into each other's eyes, but rather looking outward
together in the same direction. To love someone completely you must love
them for who they are, not what they look like. Friendship is the soil
through which love's seeds grow. If you want to bring love into a
relationship, you must first bring friendship.
THE FIFTH SECRET
The Power of Touch.
is one of the most powerful expressions of love, breaking down barriers
and bonding relationships. Touch changes our physical and emotional
states and makes us more receptive to love.
THE SIXTH SECRET
The Power of Letting Go.
you love something, set it free. If it comes back to you it's yours, if
it doesn't it never was." Even in a loving relationship, people need
their own space. If we want to learn to love, we must first learn to
forgive and let go of past hurts, and grievances. Love means letting go
of our fears, prejudices, egos and conditions. "Today I let go of all my
fears, the past has no power over me-today is the beginning of a new
THE SEVENTH SECRET
The Power of Communication.
we learn to communicate openly and honestly, life changes. To love
someone is to communicate with them. Let the people you love know that
you love them and appreciate them. Never be afraid to say those three
magic words: "I Love You." Never let an opportunity pass to praise
someone. Always leave someone you love with a loving word - it could be
the last time you see them. If you were about to die but could make
telephone calls to the people you loved, who would you call, what would
you say and. .. why are you waiting?
THE EIGHTH SECRET
The Power of Commitment.
you want to have love in abundance, you must be committed to it, and
that commitment will be reflected in your thoughts and actions.
Commitment is the true test of love. If you want to have loving
relationships, you must be committed to loving relationships. When you
are committed to someone or something, quitting is never an option.
Commitment distinguishes a fragile relationship from a strong one.
THE NINTH SECRET
The Power of Passion.
ignites love and keeps it alive. Lasting passion does not come through
physical attraction alone, it comes from deep commitment, enthusiasm,
interest and excitement. Passion can be recreated by recreating past
experiences when you felt passionate. Spontaneity and surprises produce
passion. The essence of love and happiness are the same; all we need to
do is to live each day with passion.
THE TENTH SECRET
The Power of Trust.
is essential in all loving relationships. Without it one person becomes
suspicious, anxious and fearful and the other person feels trapped and
emotionally suffocated. You cannot love someone completely unless you
trust them completely. Act as if your relationship with the person you
love will never end. One of the ways you can tell whether a person is
right for you is to ask yourself: "Do I trust them completely and
unreservedly?" If the answer is "no", then you must think very carefully
before you make any type of a commitment.