Re: Jennifer Hoffman: Unfriended! And That's All Right By Me.
- Aloha Maggie,When I first joined FB I was a little overwhelmed with keeping up with reading daily posts from friends pages. I didn't realize that you can 'hide' members that you don't want to follow endlessly, so mistakenly unfriended a few people.Issue Jennifer is talking about in her blog is one of releasing friendships that are 'co-dependent'. Sometimes it takes a long time or specific incidents to realize that a friendship was based more on meeting someone else's dependency needs than on openness, honesty and integrity.There are boundaries for me that when not honored unfortunately mean that I need to no longer participate in that relationship. That can be rudeness that has no place in a friendship, asking me to overlook dishonesty, or to participate in something I feel is harmful or detrimental to that friend, myself or others.It can painful to end a relationship that may have seemed perfect for many years but living with myself and my own integrity and may cause some hurt feelings to person I am no longer engaging with but there is no other choice. If appropriate I explain my decision to person, but most often I find they are not able or willing to listen.That said, I do love the opportunity social networking allows me to connect with friends and family with news and pictures. Also allows me to join groups political, environmental and others that I support and keep updated on current news and opportunity for petition signing.Yes, this is a great forum and I enjoy almost all that is posted here!Appreciatively )'( Skye
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--- On Thu, 9/30/10, maggie144 <maggiemaya@...> wrote:
From: maggie144 <maggiemaya@...>
Subject: << lovingpurelove >> Re: Jennifer Hoffman: Unfriended! And That's All Right By Me.
Date: Thursday, September 30, 2010, 7:05 AMWow, this is really strange to me that one could be either "friended" or "unfriended" by computer? I do not understand Facebook at all. I cannot figure out why it should feel like a friendship that people add you to a list and trade comments. Is this really the social structure of the future?
First off, how can an internet personae really feed the day to day life? It seems so foreign to believe anything this impersonal and possibly illusory (in what is posted and presented one to another)could be a serious factor in social well-being.
At one point I had a Facebook account and yes, an old friend from the past found me. The reconnection was pleasant and we caught up via phone one day. We had lots to say and I was grateful to be reminded of our history.
When I heard how Facebook is used by the powers that be, I was not interested in supporting the agenda and canceled my account.
In some ways, belonging to forums like this one where I receive really interesting info and feel the like minded presence of others on the planet is fulfilling long distance connection. However, beyond the support of knowing we are "out there" with our common love of growth and revealing our truth, how in the world is the internet to supply that personal touch (literally)that social beings need? Maggie
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