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thestar.com.my: Lifestyle(some parts of this article (in small Italics ) were not published)Sunday May 2, 2004
The Rhombic Lifestyle
THIS week we continue looking at Crystal lifestyles. I am unable to share with you any Reponses from the Minister of Education and The Minister of Sports, as they have not responded to the suggestions we shared in our last column regarding the challenges we have with our Young People. Very simply this means all of us have to assume the Responsibility to make our Children the Children of the Future. The Future of Malaysia rests on our Children and those of us who have responsibilities for raising Children have to realise that we cannot rely on politicians to make the HARD DECISIONS we need to make.
Over the past few weeks, I have spoken to large groups of Malaysians and NOT ONE could tell me what VISION 2020 was. (Yes I have advised the Prime Minister)
How can we achieve our National Vision if we do not know what it is? How can we achieve our personal visions if we do not have a vision?
One of the objectives of this column is to help us realise our vision at a personal, family, corporate and national level. We need to help each other to achieve our visions.
It is OUR CHILDREN’S FUTURE.
The Rhombic lifestyle
A rhombus has a certain similarity to a square, which is why the rhombic lifestyle also appears as a lifestyle where everything appears to be in order. Life is like a long, tranquil river – this is how you could describe your feelings about life if you were someone who lives this lifestyle. As a rule, life develops along a continuous line without special events; only rarely do you experience massive intrusions or “break outs”.
However, the long cycle of daily occurrences that all seem much the same can suddenly bring you to a low point, seemingly for no particular reason. You may experience panic attacks, depression or simply bad moods; interestingly, just as suddenly as they appear, these manifestations can disappear again without a trace.
“Break outs” like this can arise in such a manner that things that seemed important to you until that moment suddenly seem to lose all their value and you are quite easily able to make far-reaching decisions that others find completely inexplicable. Without any regrets, you break off relationships, give notice to leave a job, move house or throw security overboard.
You suddenly start a new life – just like that.
This perverse contrast between long, unchanging phases on the one hand and unexpected changes on the other, determines your life’s rhythm. Basically, you adjust yourself to the fact that everything will remain exactly as it is, so you never plan far ahead. There is no need to. For you, time is a constantly recurring phenomenon; every day the sun rises – it has always been like that, so why should anything change?
If something does suddenly change, as described above, then the very next day, this constant attitude of taking things as a matter of course returns.
Because of this attitude, you find it very easy to make decisions: a lot of money is invested in a new home, even if you do not know how long you will be staying there. A relationship spontaneously turns into marriage, or a task once taken on often becomes a permanent commitment.
In all things, you possess enormous staying power, apart from the occasional intrusions or “break outs”. You are thorough and inconspicuous in all you do and often perform most of the work in team situations without seeking the limelight. You are very self-sufficient and are not dependent on attention, praise or recognition.
You are ready to be enthusiastic about a good cause and as a rule, show plenty of social awareness and commitment. You are basically helpful and can often carry out the small details of a task. The “big ideas” will often come from others but without your meticulous work on their realisation, down to the last detail, very little would be accomplished. Thoroughness and exactness are generally your strong points; you think all courses of action through quietly and objectively, but without falling into unnecessary introspection. You are also very empathetic. You are quick to register the moods of others and find it easy to adjust to them.
You would be popular working in foreign countries and often find yourself engaged in caring work. You are happy if others, too, feel well and happy and are always keen to create a pleasant atmosphere. You are known as a good listener among your friends, along the lines of: “A sorrow shared is a sorrow halved. A shared joy is double the joy.”
You are, therefore, able to subordinate your own interests to the greater goal of a community, provided that you identify with this community.
Intrusions happen when you suddenly become aware of an inner emptiness, but without being able to come up with the real cause. Then you find yourself no longer on solid ground; rather you are floundering in a mire of uncertainty. As the cause is not recognised, this state will continue until you once more find your previous lifestyle acceptable and start adapting to your environment again.
Suddenly, you begin to “function” again and you seem to be able to continue with your life at exactly the point where you left off when the intrusion/break out took place. Should you continue to put up resistance, then depression will immediately follow. Any kind of help offered will just exacerbate the “down” feeling. Sympathy, clever advice or psycho pharmaceuticals will only succeed in perpetuating this state. Genuine help can only be provided by recognition of the cause of your problem.
Such a recognition can, however, lead to a break out: if you suddenly realise that you have not been living your own life for a very long time but (depending on circumstances) living through the life of your partner, your parents, children, friends, bosses, colleagues, gurus or whoever, then these bonds will, as a rule, be severed very quickly. The desire to be rid of this outside control can, however, sometimes lead to the “baby being thrown out with the bathwater”.
By turning your life upside down, you also lose the positive things you have worked so hard for. Then you run the risk of fleeing into new (initially unrecognised) dependencies, looking for a new hold until the old game begins anew.
The real way out, or the beginning of a positive development in a rhombic lifestyle lies in strengthening your own interests and setting your own goals first. This may begin in the typical “rhombic inconspicuousness” and is often even recommended – “a young plant should be protected until its stem is strong enough to hold up to the wind”. Depending on the degree to which this inner hold is created and self-confidence is built up, you will be able to make visible change.
Interestingly enough, attacks from outside will not be as frequent as expected. On the contrary, your new way of making decisions will often be admired (“I never thought that you would ?”) and supported (“It’s great the way you have matured ?”) and if attacks really do take place, it is now easier to distinguish between friend and foe. Making breaks with people who do not mean well or turn out to be false friends will surely not be harmful!
This new development makes it easy for you to employ your own abilities successfully for yourself and for others. Your capacity for understanding and empathy turns you into a good helper and perhaps even a healer, without having to deny your own identity. You will still be able to enjoy friendship and enjoy the well being of others.
At the same time, all these qualities will also serve your own self-realisation. In this way, you will gain permanent stability and fulfilment that is secure enough to stop you desiring more upheavals and changes. In this new state, you may again become inconspicuous, as often happens with people who are clear about themselves: you have no need to seek the limelight, as you are happy and content.
Some of the crystals, which relate to the rhombic lifestyle are chrysoberyl, aragonite, peridot, topaz, celistine.
Let's look at Topaz in detail. Topaz is formed magmatically through pneumatolytic processes during the formation of acid plutonites; more rarely, it is also formed during the formation of vulcanites. Chromium gives topaz a yellow colour; iron a blue colour and manganese a brownish colour.
In all the old cultures of Europe and India, topaz was unanimously considered to be the stone of Jupiter. It represented rule over one's own life, self-realisation and wisdom. In Mexico, it was used for finding out the truth in cases of disagreement.
Topaz encourages self-realisation and the shaping of our lives according to our own wishes. It can enable a breakthrough in spiritual development whenever things have been very laborious and difficult for a long time. Topaz helps us to gain wisdom from the vagaries of fate.
On an emotional level, topaz helps us discover our own inner images, abilities and knowledge. It encourages openness, honesty and an emotionally fulfilling life.
Mentally, topaz helps us become fully aware of the influence we exert, based on ability and real knowledge gained through hard work. Then we know how to use this understanding meaningfully.
Topaz fortifies the nerves and stimulates the energy flow in the meridians. It improves digestion and even helps with anorexia. Topaz stimulates the metabolism and the combustion processes of an organism. Topaz should be worn or chosen for contemplative meditation.
I now make an offer to Schools and Colleges in Malaysia. If you want your students to understand all the NINE challenges of Vision 2020, contact me and let's see what we can do.
TOGETHER WE WILL MAKE A DIFFERENCE.
Lets all of us BE THE CHANGE WE NEED and CHANGE BY CHOICE and NOT BY CHANCE. Lets follow the lead of Mahatma Gandhi and do what needs to be done to MAKE MALAYSIA great – OURSELVES.
I believe in Malaysia – do you?
Jaguar Speaks is the pen name chosen by Mohd Hazri Humphreys for its healing vibrations. He is an Australian who has made Malaysia his home. He is a ‘corporate healer’ and trainer and is the principal of Circles of Life International (http://www.homestead.com/MilleniumEvolution/CirclesofLifeInternational.html ), a global healing network.
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