- If I may on another site these questions came up and the post is
relevant here too.
Thank you for your questions Eryu.
As a woman yes your exeriences are most likely very different from
mine.I would hope that as the world balances its energies more of
the feminine will get expressed socially. This will happen as our
masculine dominated societies embrace their feminine.
You write,"As for the gender thing, I have some reservations about
that. It is one thing to explore androgyny (or whatever you may wish
to call it)in a spiritual, psychological or internal sense but quite
another to extrapolate that into the external or social arena."
My encouragement to balance the feminine and masculine has nothing
to do with
bi sexualism. Just to get that out of the way. Nevertheless
sexually, if we are honest, there is a scale from extreme male to
extreme woman and most of us are somewhere along that range.
I have long wondered whether some people's uncertain sexual identity
came from past lives of being now a man then a woman and perhaps
eventually getting a little mixed up. I think you can balance the
maculine and feminine and yet express your sexuality according to
your "equipment" if you understand my meaning.
I am thinking of a post on sensuality and sensuality as a stepping
stone to spirituality.
However as you become balanced inside you will express that balance
in your behaviour, in all your behaviour.
I know about injustices to women, and female rage at men. My first
wife subcribed to Ms magazine. This is in in the early 70's. Every
month it came I got my dose from her of just being a man in a man's
world. I read Kate Millet and Germaine Greer and had my eyes opened.
You write ;"As there are still quite marked inequalities in the
world, our respective experiences are likely to be quite diverse. It
seems important to recognise those differences and not merely to
I would be interested to hear your experience and your wisdom on this
Wisdom? Thank you. You are too polite.
My partner now is a Professor of Mechanical Engineering. Moreover
she got her undergraduate degree in Aviation Engineering studying
with the French Airforce as that was the only place to study this in
France. I think there were three female students in the whole
College. So I know from her what it must be like to be female in a
male dominated world.
I am basically a househusband. I do all the shopping.of the cooking.
I often make sure she has a lunch to take to work. I buy the
Christmas and Birthday presents, and send the cards. I take the
children to the doctor and check their lunches. I chainsaw the wood
and split it. I organise the garbage. I fold her camisoles and
panties after a wash. She comes home to a hot dinner. This morning I
unblocked the toilet. Her students know me as the wonderful husband
of Genevieve Dumas!
In my School, which on one, hand is a martial art school I read
poetry (Emily Dickinson, Rilke, Rumi, Pablo Neruda etc) to my
students. I often cry openly when I am moved. I also teach them how
to dispose of an opponent with a blow. Life is a wholeness, and
needs to be embraced wholely. I hug men and women there. I once wore
an ear ring and made them myself out of found bird feathers. I no
longer have a pony tail (what a relief to have done that and the ear
ring thing and got it out of the way). I come out of soppy films
blowing my nose.
The balanced person has a wider range of responses than the
imbalanced. A macho man can only respond (react) in a macho way, and
vice versa for an excessively feminine woman. There are few things
so laughable and tragic or difficult to deal with than a man or a
woman who are so stuck in a one dimensional role.
Thirty years ago I had a model friend who always dressed strikingly
and then complained when men noticed her.She once took her shirt off
(bare breasted) while we sat next to lake and got furious when a
motor boat made rapid turn for the guys to take another look. I
asked her what she had expected. I had no trouble swimming nude with
her or being perturbed by her taking a good look! Generally
speaking, balanced behaiour should evoke balanced responses but, of
course, we are not yet living in an ideal world. Nor does Genevieve
think I am ideal either. But I try!
Does this answer your question? What about you? What are your
experiences and what wisdom do you have to share?