1522Re: [lovingpurelove] Essence of Paradise 06.19.2002 [Hope]
- Jun 20, 2002What we have found in therapy is that the law of feeling is that feelings change when they are felt. The best therapeutic inetervention is no intervention at all other than being present for the other person's feelings and encouraging them to flow [in a safe and non-destructive way]. By doing this, not only do the feelings change, but the person who is experiencing those feelings gains deep personal insights and learns from the process.We have also found that no matter how well intentioned good advice is, real change must come from within the patient for it to have any lasting effect. Healing comes from within, regardless of what level the healing occurs: spiritual, mental, emotional, or physical. The best thing is to encourage the natural healing process as much as possible, in a way that is for the highest good of all concerned.We have also found that when a person is upset, it is nearly impossible for them to think clearly until the feelings have had a chance to flow to resolution. Teaching and learning [or taking in] higher truths only happens successfully after the emotions have transformed into a peaceful place and the student is ready to be open.I'm so glad that everyone here feels safe enough to speak up, and everyone respects this process. I feel so much love and gratitude!We are love together,Cynthia Rose----- Original Message -----From: Susan ManningSent: Thursday, June 20, 2002 9:56 AMSubject: Re: [lovingpurelove] Essence of Paradise 06.19.2002 [Hope]Hello All!
In response to the comments on WHAT YOU SEE, those of us who examine ourselves at a time of anger or some such so-called negative emotion need to realize that not all people are ready to do such a thing. The suggestion can be only a suggestion, not an expectation. We cannot simply point to that person and tell them to examine themselves because it does not address their pain. Growth does not have to be a painful process, we can help walk each other through it. Those of us who are faced with the opportunity to help a friend or acquaintance who needs help in dealing with such a problem must first validate their feelings of anger, etc. and then steer them into a position where they can discover naturally how they are a part of that emotion. They can do it themselves so much better in the future if we help steer them instead of instantly telling them to look inside themselves, as if that is the full solution. This is a multi-faceted, multi-level thought process that cannot start and end with a simple sound-bite, which is what this advice is becoming. So many people give this advice to a point lately where it is sounding more like a cop-out than any help at all, especially since they just drop it and don't help the person in their process.
We don't always remember how long it took us to figure this all out and we need to be mindful that others must be allowed to take the time it takes for them to learn this. Hopefully someone was patient with us, but either way we need to remember the entire process.
I really agree with you when you encourage those who disagree to respond with their opinions and ideas rather than be taken off the list because of the fact that their input could be just what we all have been wanting or needing to hear. I further encourage those who disagree to share your feelings and help us all to grow further.
Thanks for your time and consideration.
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Note on WHAT YOU SEE
What I wrote yesterday entitled What You See was misunderstand by a few of our sister and brothers. I was not saying that it is unlikely for most people to change for the better. Neither was I saying that we can not affect others to change in a positive way. We are creators of our own reality to a degree and especially in ourselves we can make great changes and create a Beauty-Filled life.
This internet forum call Essence of Paradise is not meant to be something that agrees with everyone's beliefs at all times. It is designed to cause all who read it to think deeper about ones life and to stimulate us to think about possible changes that may be needed in it. If you differ with what is shared here do not get upset and ask to be removed from the mailing list. Share you thoughts and beliefs with all of us, what you believe might be the part of the puzzle that we all need to understand fully what is being expressed and felt. If something upsets us we first need to examine ourselves to see if it upsets us because it is an area in our life that is calling for help or better understanding. We must not shut down because someone stepped on our toe, especially when they did not mean to step on it.
Over and over I have invited all to share with the group but few do and that is okay, however if you have something to share do not hold back in doing so. It may seem elementary to you but it may be a major revelation for me or someone else. It may be the key that we need to open the door that we should be walking through.We are in this thing called life TOGETHER, lets work, learn and grow together as we live together. I am an open book for all to read, however you must remember that the book is not yet finished.
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