CLD's father's being over-dominating
- --- In email@example.com, "KATE LYON" <lyon@p...> wrote:
> In actual fact Jim, a good number of these books appear inCarroll's library - Sterne's list - with inscriptions which show
they have belonged to CLD Senior or one or other of the Lutwidges,
so it appears that they were already in the family.
>Good point Kate! And - plesae don't forget that as a youth CLD does
> Best, Kate L
satirise his father and his relationship with his oldest son (he
specifies particularly the oldest son) very amusingly. Do
read "Sidney Hamilton" It is quite long, and I can't quote it all,
but part of it has the father threatening not to support the son any
more because he doesn't approve of the company he keeps. "Then,
observe this young man!" continued the father, getting more and more
excited as he spoke, "unless you agree to drop at once and for ever,
all your vulgar acquaintances now and for ever (an emphasis
on "vulgar" which raised a flush on the pale brow on the young man)
unless you do this, though you would give me the world for it, I
will not stir a finger no, nor utter a syllable in your service!
Look you here, son!" he shouted, seeing that his words made little
impression on his son "obey me, or on this spot I disinherit
The son, with great dignity, says that he is not going to do what
the father says, turns round and walks out. ..."I am going away
Lucy" he said in a strangely quiet tone [to his sister]. "Kiss
little Rosa for me". Later the father becomes very depressed "the
gloom of his mind grew into absolute misery but his pride would not
yet suffer him to admit that it was his own doing and that he
himself had driven him from his roof. The hope that his son would
speedily return and submit and ask his forgiveness, which he had
cherished in the morning, gradually faded away as the day wore on
and was succeeded by sucha sickening sense of vacuity and
oppression as well nigh drew him to distraction..." etc.
In the end the father sets out in to the storm to look for his son,
because he is terrified he's come to harm, and gets a bloody nose
for his pains, being beaten up by the son's "unsuitable friend"
before reconciling with him.
The scenes described between father and son by the youthful CLD will
be pretty familiar to most people who have teenagers - or who
remember being one in a reasonably healthy relationship with parents
who did not in fact harshly suppress them. These kind of scenes
don't occur in truly repressed households where dissent is genuinely
Characteristically for CLD, the scenes appear to be initially drawn
from life but then caricatured in order to amuse - the son is a
ludicrous picture of dignified, offended virtue, and the father is a
poor old buffoon. Mr. D. was presumably good natured enough to let
his children laugh about this, and they felt okay enough about it
to treasure the album and keep it in the family. Since CLD seems to
have enjoyed writing parodies based on real things, I wouldn't
rule out the idea that he really did stamp out one day after a row
with his dad -and it would make it even more amusing for the family
to read "Sidney Hamilton" if so. It is interesting that in the end
Sidney does give up his unsuitable friend, because he sees that his
father cares more for him than the friend does.
Surely it is hard to see how this story can be the product of a son
who is truly cowed and intimidated by a father who genuinely
suppressed him. And in case anyone doubts this portrays CLD and his
father, who else could "Mr Hamilton" be but Mr. Dodgson who was
born in the town of Hamilton)?
What is more, the diaries show that CLD did not conceal from his
father the fact he went to theatres, either, even though his father
didn't approve. The impression I get is that even though the father
clearly had very strong views indeed, he seems to have accepted that
it was legitimate that other people could have different ideas. Mind
you it was probably hard for him to accept that others could
legitimately disagree with him, but perhaps he made himself do it.
I did look at a book on theology which he wrote, and was struck
that either in the introduction or the end word, he addresses the
reader directly and says something to the effect that if YOU, the
reader, don't agree with me, and I have offended you, then I am
truly sorry, because you're entitled to your own view. Quite an
interesting thing to put in a book. Maybe someone has a copy and can
quote it direct?
What this adds up to is a plea to see Mr. D as a three dimensional
human being, not as some kind of stereotype Victorian father or
bullying paterfamilias. jenny
> Ahem. In a hurry to post an answer, I did not research the possibleCheers. I was just enquiring to see whether it was true that LC asked that
> sources. The Harry Ransom Center at the University of Texas at
> Austin has some glass negatives as well as prints.
> The Cambridge (USA) Library has a number of loose prints. I must
> wait for a certain book ;) which includes E. Wakeling's list of
> the "known" photos.
> I hope this helps!
the photos should be returned to the families of the models after his death.
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