The pains of forgiving the unforgivable and forgetting the unforgettable.
To forgive is divine, but, to forget is hard, both cause pains.
Forgiving is a merciful charity of giving up resentment, but
forgetting is too big a toll hard to do. It is, thus, a fact of truism
that to forget can only be achieved thru hard painful length of time.
No one can forget an instant moment of something already rooted deeper
as a memorable part of one's life, unless mentally unbalanced, for, an
emotion is not like a water-faucet whom anyone can easily turn on and
off at any given moment.
Memorable bonding relationship entails sufficiently more than enough
time to forget by trusting one's self and strong determination to lose
that something, though memorable, that while there is life, there is
hope, and one cannot move forward if one keeps looking back.
A married a man who went abroad, in the Middle East to be precise, met
a likewise married Filipina doctor also working there and became more
than just friends. However, the original legal wife of the man
discovered the love affair of the two, and later, the husband of the
lady doctor found the same discovery.
I was told that the lady doctor lost her love that was not legally
meant to be, and her legitimate husband separated her for the
forbidden marital sin she intentionally committed. The man in the
womanizing escapade was now joined abroad by his real wife but under
To forgive and to forget are the unforgotten emotions that linger in
the terribly disturbed minds of couples. Quite many overseas workers
have similar stories, some resolved, many unresolved, I was told.