Re: [sss-global] Why misogyny?
Sex is natural and order of the God, to ensure creation. Marriage is man made with selfish mind and subjected to change according to time and circumstances of the day. I just wish to know when and how this term "Marriage" is created? As per sociology, the marriage was introuced only afte the man discovered to live on agriculture. Till such time, the marriage, which we are referring to, was in a different mode. It is continuously changing along with the time and necessity.
NATURE IS GREAT AND WE HAVE TO FORM OUR PATTERNS OF LIVING IN LINE WITH NATURE.
2) NATURALLY EVERY LIVING BEING WANTS FREEDOM BUT IN THE PRESENT MARRIAGE BOTH PARTNERS FEEL THY ARE IMPRISONED. DUE TO MISTRUST, DOWRY, AND SUPPORT FROM POLITICAL PARTIES TO GET WOMEN VOTES, WOMEN-FRIENDLY LAWS ARE BEING CREATED DAY BY DAY. HUGE IMBALANCE IS CREATED BETWEEN PARTNERS
3) MARRIAGE HAS BECOME A MUTUAL EXPLOITATION.
4)BEFORE TO INTRODUCTION OF INTERNET, THERE WAS LOT OF ANXIETY AND CURIOSITY IN INDIAN SOCIETY AND YOUTH, AS TO HOW THE BEAUTY OF THE WOMEN AND OTHER ACTS OF SEX, WERE DONE. BUT NOW, THEY FIND THE FUTILITY OF THAT ACT, WHILE ENJOYING PHYSICALLY AFTER MARRIAGE, AS THERE IS A BIG GAP BETWEEN WHAT THEY SAW AND PRACTICALLY HOW SIMPLE IT IS.
5)One more natural reason, I found is, the women are more interestd in children than husband. I think it is the trick of the nature that women mind is set favourable for children. Though it is clear in the present days, that children are not taking care of mothers in their old age. Generally in middle class families, the husband is bread earner and the wife takes care of the house. But after retirement of husband, the wife gives less importance to husband and favours children who are earning, as she has to depend on them.
--SO ALL THESE POINTS AND CHANGES IN THE FINANCIAL STATUS OF THE FAMILY, MIGHT BE REASONS. BIG SUBJECT AND MANY OTHER LINKS ARE THERE.
From: "yeddanapudi m" <yeddanapudim@...>
To: "sssg global" <firstname.lastname@example.org>, "karmayog hyd" <email@example.com>
Sent: Friday, August 23, 2013 5:46:28 AM
Subject: [sss-global] Why misogyny?
Dears All,Why are so many people bitter about marriage? Why does extra marital sex always excite and marital sex becomes a ritual? The letters about wife and dog, wherein the dog wins makes me wonder whether marriage is often a constricting prison?When feminists write about man-woman relationships they are very often bitter. In the case of men it is bitter humour. But most women are anxious about getting married. Their anxiety is so intense, that there is rampant polygamy among the labourers, a very big problem not even given attention. In Hyderabad, the majority of crafts man--carpenters,barbers,plumbers,mechanics,tailors,building maistries,...have more than two wives, the wives themselves bearing the entire responsibility for the illegal children as the wayward husband spends most of his/their earnings on drinking. The wives have a big problem in filling up the school application forms in the column, father's name. They are also facing problems in getting the aadhar cards, in availing various welfare benefits. Their marriage is illegal, their children are illegal and their plight is terrible. Behind the beautiful and clean school uniform wearing kid, there is a big volcano of tension. Those kids live in a system of single mother de facto with a drunkard father pestering them. The schools of course simply fleece these hapless mothers. But the mothers simply do not want to join their children in Government schools though they get many benfits.They believe that government schools are not good and they simply do not even want to know the truth.The generalized social misogyny is creating a huge problem of real homeless kids which is concealed from public view.Y.Markandeyulu