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    Help needed- ... Date: Mon, 03 Sep 2001 15:24:04 -0500 From: margaret bruegging and catherine derendinger Reply-To:
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      Subject: [Fwd: I NEED YOUR HELP]
      Date: Mon, 03 Sep 2001 15:24:04 -0500
      From: margaret bruegging and catherine derendinger <catmag@...>
      Reply-To: katyloupum@...
      To: Catherine Derendinger <katyloupum@...>

       
       

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      Subject: I NEED YOUR HELP
      Date: Mon., 03 Sept. 2001 14:38:37 -0500
      From: margaret Bruegging and catherine Derendinger <catmag@...>
      Reply-To: katyloupum@...
      To: napas@...
      BCC: catmag@...

      I REALLY NEED SOME SUGGESTIONS ON WHERE TO TURN. I AM DISABLED, INITIALLY FROM LYME DISEASE BUT I HAVE HAD SEVERAL COMPLICATIONS ARISE. SOME HAVE TO DO WITH BAD GENES. APPARENTLY WE HAVE SOME GLITCH ON A GENE THAT CAUSES IMMUNE SYSTEM DYSFUNCTION AND IT HAS AFFECTED SEVERAL OF MY SIBLINGS ALSO. TO MAKE A LONG STORY SHORT, OUT OF 7   KIDS 4 OF US ARE DISABLED. ONE SISTER, BEV HAS LUPUS AND ONE OF MY BROTHERS, JON HAS RHEUMATOID ARTHRITIS. THIS LAST YEAR MY 14 Y/O HAS ALSO BECOME ILL WITH SOME OF THE SAME. WE DID PIN POINT THIS GENE DOWN TO MY MOTHER THRU GENETIC TESTING. I GUESS THIS IS ALSO THE GENE THAT CAUSES MS.

      FOUR YEARS AGO MY OLDEST SISTERS HUSBAND BROUGHT HER TO STAY WITH ME FOR A COUPLE DAYS AND HE WENT AND FILED FOR DIVORCE AFTER 37 YEAR MARRIAGE, THIS PARTICULAR SISTER HAS A LONG HISTORY OF HEALTH PROBLEMS STARTING WITH A HEART ATTACK AT 27. SHE IS NOW 57. HER HEALTH HAS DECLINED OVER THE YEARS AND SHE HAS HAD NUMEROUS SURGERIES, INCLUDING SEVERAL HEART SURGERIES. SO IN SHORT HER MENTAL CAPACITY HAS DETERIORATED OVER THE YEARS AND SHE HAS DEVELOPED SOME BEHAVIOR PROBLEMS. I SAY IT THAT WAY BECAUSE IN ESSENCE ITS LIKE DEALING WITH A 12 YEAR OLD AT TIMES. THIS PARTICULAR SISTER AND I HAVE ALWAYS BEEN VERY CLOSE. MATTER OF FACT HER HEALTH PROBLEMS INSPIRED ME TO BE A REGISTERED NURSE SO I COULD CARE FOR HER AND MY PARENTS IF THEY EVER NEEDED IT. NURSING IS ALL I HAVE EVER DONE IN SOME CAPICITY.... NURSE AIDE, LPN AND THEN ADN. I GUESS MY SISTER BECAME VERY DIFFICULT TO DEAL WITH AND  THAT IS WHY HER HUSBAND BROUGHT HER TO ME. I WISH HE WOULD HAVE DEALT WITH THE WHOLE THING DIFFERENTLY BECAUSE SHE WILL NEVER BE ABLE TO MAKE SENSE OF IT.

       MY SISTERS BEV WHO IS ALSO DISABLED AND I WERE GOING TO SHARE GUARDIAN / CONSERVATORSHIP WHICH WE HAD TO DO TO DEAL WITH HER DIVORCE. THE DAY OF GUARDIANSHIP MY SISTER WITHDREW. I HAVE NO CLUE AS WHY SHE DID THAT OTHER THAN SHE GOT MARRIED AND HER HUSBAND WAS TAKING ALL HER TIME. I WAS VERY ANGRY BECAUSE SHE HAD PROMISED TO DO THIS WITH ME. I KNEW I COULDN'T DO THIS ALONE. SHE WAS GOOD AT THE PAPERWORK END OF THINGS AND I AT THE HEALTH ISSUES. THE ONLY DIFFERENCES WE HAD WAS OVER WEATHER CHAR WOULD STAY WITH ME WHICH IS WHAT I WANTED.  BEV WANTED TO CHECK OUT SOME NURSING FACILITIES FOR HER. TO ME THAT WASN'T A OPTION......

      CHAR WAS HAVING DIFFICULTY DEALING WITH THE DIVORCE AND SHE DISPLAYED IT IN ANGER.  SHE HAD SEVERAL VERY AGITATED AND COMBATIVE OUTBURST. I WAS SEEING A PSYCHIATRIST FOR MY DEPRESSION OVER LOSING MY CAREER AND DEALING WITH BEING SICK. I ALSO NEED TO MENTION THAT THE LYME DISEASE AFFECTED MY NEURO-COGNITIVE FUNCTIONING AND THAT WAS ANOTHER REASON BEV WAS GOING TO BE THE CONSERVATOR. BESIDES HAVING SEVERE PAIN IN THE LEFT SIDE OF MY HEAD I WAS DEALING WITH MEMORY LOSS AND BRAIN FOG. I WAS HAVING DIFFICULTY READING AT THE TIME, MY ABILITY TO CONCENTRATE WAS AFFECTED. BEV HAD BEEN SICK FOR SEVERAL YEARS AT THIS TIME AND HAD A BETTER GRIP ON THINGS THAN I DID PLUS SHE HAS ALWAYS HAD A KNACK AT BUSINESS DEALINGS.
      MY COUSIN MAGGIE AND I LIVE TOGETHER WITH OUR 3 GIRLS. TWO ARE MINE AND ONE IS HERS. MAGGIE, HAD JUST LOSS HER 18 MONTH OLD 3 YEARS BEFORE AND HER MARRIAGE DIDN'T SURVIVE THE DEATH OF HER DAUGHTER. I TOOK LOA FROM WORK WHEN CATHERINE GOT SICK AND STAYED WITH MAGGIE AT THE HOSPITAL. AFTER CATHERINE DIED WE CONTINUED TO SPEND A LOT OF TIME TOGETHER AND DECIDED TO LIVE TOGETHER. SOON AFTER, I STARTED GETTING SICK. APPARENTLY I HAD BEEN BIT BY A TICK WHEN I WAS DOING YARD WORK AT MY HOUSE GETTING IT READY TO SELL. I DIDN'T KNOW I HAD BEEN BITTEN AND MY DOC AT THE TIME GOT TIRED OF ME COMPLAINING AND TOLD ME IT WAS ALL IN MY HEAD. I WAS FINALLY REFEREED TO MY CURRENT DOCTOR WHO SPECIALIZES IN INFECTIOUS DISEASE, AND IT DIDN'T TAKE HIM LONG TO FIGURE OUT IT WAS LYME DISEASE.

      WHEN CHAR CAME TO US I WAS SOMEWHAT BETTER. MY DOCTOR WAS TREATING ME WITH A COUPLE IV ANTIBIOTICS. THE LYME HAD PROGRESSED TO A CHRONIC STATE IN THE YEAR I WAS MISDIAGNOSED SO I WAS DEALING WITH SEVERE PAIN AND DEBILITATING FATIGUE.
      REGARDLESS OF MY CONDITION I FIGURED WITH MAGGIE AND THE GIRLS WE COULD CARE FOR CHAR. IT WAS VERY HARD THE FIRST YEAR AND I HAD TO HAVE CHAR ADMITTED 3 TIMES TO THE MENTAL HEALTH HOSPITAL BECAUSE OF HER COMBATIVE BEHAVIOR BUT THE THIRD ADMISSION THE MY PSYCHIATRIST  PUT HER ON A MEDICATION CALLED RESPERIDOL AND ITS BEEN A MIRACLE DRUG. ITS BEEN THREE YEARS AND WE HAVEN'T HAD AN OUTBURST SINCE OR ANOTHER ADMISSION TO THE MENTAL HEALTH HOSPITAL
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      THERE WAS ONE COMPLICATION THAT CAME UP THE FIRST YEAR .. CHAR CAME TO US ON 9/28/98 AND THAT FOLLOWING DECEMBER SHE AND HER HUSBAND HAD HER SCHEDULED FOR A SURGICAL PROCEDURE. SHE HAD A NEUROGENIC BLADDER AND WAS INCONTINENT OF URINE. SHE WANTED THIS DONE BECAUSE WITH HER HAVING CONGESTIVE HEART FAILURE , RETAINING FLUID, AND HAVING TO TAKE DIURETICS SHE WAS WET ALL THE TIME. SHE DIDN'T LEAVE THE HOUSE MUCH.  NEEDLESS TO SAY IT AFFECTED HER QUALITY OF LIFE. SO WE HAD THE SURGERY DONE ( ILLEO CONDUIT TO DRAINAGE). THE FOLLOWING YEAR WAS TOUCH AND GO. DUE TO HER COMPLICATED HEALTH THIS SURGERY CAUSED A ELECTROLYTE IMBALANCE. SHE DEVELOPED AN EXCESSIVE LOSS OF SODIUM BICARB. THIS IS ONE OF THE CRITICAL ELECTROLYTES IN THE BLOOD THAT JUST A SLIGHT INCREASE OR DECREASE CAUSES REAL PROBLEMS. WELL FOR CHAR IT CAUSED A WHOLE CHAIN OF EVENTS CAUSING HER TO BE HOSPITALIZED 27+ TIMES THAT YEAR. APPROXIMATELY EVERY 2 WEEKS SHE WAS IN THE HOSPITAL. WE WERE ON FIRST NAME BASIS WITH THE PARAMEDICS FROM FREQUENT VISITS.  SHE ALSO HAS A SEIZURE DISORDER AND THIS ELECTROLYTE IMBALANCE  CAUSED FREQUENT UNCONTROLLABLE SEIZURES  IT ALSO CAUSED HER TO HAVE CONSTANT DIARRHEA AND THAT MADE THE ELECTROLYTE IMBALANCE WORSE. THERE WERE THREE TIMES WE WERE NOT SURE IF SHE WAS GOING TO MAKE IT.  IT HAD AFFECTED HER HEART. SHE WAS ALSO IN A COUPLE TIMES FOR PNEUMONIA BECAUSE WITH CONGESTED HEART FAILURE THERE IS FLUID IN THE LUNG AND A COUPLE ADMISSIONS FOR URINARY INFECTIONS WHICH IS A  COMMON COMPLICATION OF A UROSTOMY. AFTER SEVERAL TRIPS TO THE HOSPITAL IT BECAME EVIDENT THAT FLUID REPLACEMENT WAS THE SOLUTION. WE WOULD TAKE HER IN AND THEY WOULD GIVE HER SOME IV FLUID AND WITHIN 12 HOURS OR LESS SHE WOULD BE UP WALKING WITH ASSIST. I TALKED WITH HER DOCTOR AT THE TIME ABOUT PUTTING IN A IV CATHETER FOR LONG TERM USE AND LET ME GIVE HER IV FLUIDS AT HOME. THIS WAS NO LIFE GOING TO THE HOSPITAL EVERY TWO WEEKS. CHAR HATED HOSPITALS, SHE HAD SPENT SO MUCH TIME IN THEM. SHE HATED BEING STUCK WITH NEEDLES EVEN WORSE AND SHE WAS A VERY DIFFICULT STICK. ON AVERAGE IT TOOK AT LEAST 3 PEOPLE BEFORE ONE WOULD HIT A VEIN. HAVING A IV CATHETER WOULD SOLVE THAT PROBLEM BECAUSE THEY COULD DRAW BLOOD FROM THE CATHETER. THIS DOCTOR DIDN'T WANT TO DO THIS. I BEGGED AND EXPLAINED THAT I HAD A CATHETER AND DID MY OWN MEDS AND I WAS MORE THAN QUALIFIED BECAUSE OF MY EXPERIENCE IN ONCOLOGY. I PROMISED I WOULD KEEP HIM INFORMED DAILY IF HE WISHED. THERE WAS NO WAY HE WAS GOING TO AGREE. SO WE KEPT PAYING FREQUENT VISITS TO HIS OFFICE AND THE HOSPITAL. CHAR WAS PROGRESSIVELY GETTING WORSE. OVERTIME SHE HAD A EPISODE IT WAS HARDER FOR HER TO GET BACK UP AND IN FACT SHE NEVER DID RECOVER TO PREVIOUS STATE.

      I NEEDED TO MOVE HER TO A DOCTOR AND HOSPITAL THAT WAS CLOSER TO MY HOME SINCE THIS WAS A FREQUENT OCCURRENCE. I GOT HER IN TO SEE MY INFECTIOUS DISEASE DOCTOR AND AFTER HE REVIEWED HER RECORDS AND A COMPLETE EXAM BY ALL THE OTHER DOCTORS (NEUROLOGIST, PSYCHIATRIST, INTERNIST, ORTHOPEDIST, UROLOGIST AND SURGEON) HE DECIDED WE COULD PUT A CATHETER IN HER AND TREAT HER AT HOME. WE HAD HOME HEALTH NURSES IN AT FIRST JUST TO HELP ME GET HER SET UP.
      I AM PROUD TO SAY WE HAVE CUT DOWN ON HER HOSPITALIZATIONS. I THINK SHE HAS BEEN IN TWICE IN THE PAST YEAR. SHE HAS REALLY TURNED THE CORNER IN THE PAST 6 MONTHS. WE HAVE HAD NO SEIZURES AND I HAVE BEEN ABLE TO GET HER OFF OF ALMOST ALL HER SEIZURE MEDS. SHE IS STILL UNABLE TO WALK ON HER OWN AND PROBABLY NEVER WILL BUT HER QUALITY OF LIFE IS MUCH BETTER. WE HAVE HAD SEVERAL OUTINGS WITH HER AND SHE HAS DONE GREAT. THE YEAR SHE WAS SO SICK WE WOULD HAVE TO TAKE HER OUT OF THE HOUSE IN HER WHEELCHAIR AND OVERTIME WE GOT WHERE WE WERE GOING SHE WOULD HAVE A SEIZURE FROM THE EXCITEMENT. SO TO BE ABLE TO WALK HER OUT OF THE HOUSE TO THE VAN AND GET TO OUR DESTINATION AND HOME WITHOUT A SEIZURE HAS BEEN ONE OF GODS GREATEST MIRACLES!

      I AM SORRY THIS IS SO LENGTHY BUT I FEEL IT IS IMPORTANT TO GET THE WHOLE PICTURE AND  WHAT I AM ABOUT TO INFORM YOU OF IS WHY I AM SEEKING ADVICE. I TOOK GUARDIAN / CONSERVATORSHIP ON MY OWN. I WAS DEALING WITH ONE LAWYER IN KANSAS FOR HER DIVORCE AND ONE IN MISSOURI FOR GUARDIANSHIP. THIS WAS EARLY ON WHEN WE WERE DEALING WITH AGITATED DEPRESSION SO THIS HAD TO BE DONE THRU PROBATE. THE DAY MY SISTER BEV WITHDREW, THE DAY OF COURT, I QUESTIONED THE LAWYER ABOUT ME DOING THIS BY MYSELF SINCE I WAS DISABLED. I HAD EXPLAINED TO HIM MY ILLNESS AND ITS AFFECTS ON ME AND I STRESSES THE NEURO-COGNITIVE PROBLEMS. HE SEEMED TO THINK I COULD  AND THERE WAS PRESSURES TO GET THIS DONE SO THE ESTATE COULD BE DEALT WITH. CHARS HUSBAND AND HIS LAWYER DIDN'T THINK SHE WAS ENTITLED TO ANYTHING AND THOUGHT SINCE SHE WAS ILL SHE SHOULD GO ON STATE AIDE. THE JUDGE IN KANSAS MADE IT CLEAR THAT AFTER 37 YEARS SHE WAS ENTITLED TO HALF OF EVERYTHING. THE DIVORCE ENDED UP GOING INTO DISCOVERY BECAUSE HER HUSBAND WOULD REVEAL THE REQUESTED INFORMATION. THIS TOOK FROM OCT.98 TO AUG. 99 AND COST OVER $7000 FOR THE DIVORCE ATTORNEY. THE PROBATE ATTORNEY WAS ANOTHER $4000.  HER REAL ESTATE SOLD IN AUG. 99 AND PRIOR TO THAT TIME MAGGIE AND I FUNDED HER EXPENSES. WHEN SHE FIRST CAME HERE HER HUSBAND KEPT HER DISABILITY CHECKS EXCEPT FOR $100. NOV.98 WE FINALLY HAD MAINTENANCE SET UP FOR HER. SHE HAD $340 SSD AND $359 TEMP ALIMONY. THE DIVORCE WAS FINAL JULY 99 SO HER INSURANCE COVERAGE CEASED. ANOTHER IMPORTANT FACTOR IS IS THAT WHEN SHE CAME TO US HER AND HER HUSBAND HAD BEEN FREQUENTLY GAMBLING. THEY HAD $6000 ON A DISCOVER CARD. APPARENTLY HER HUSBAND WOULD TAKE HER TO THE CASINO AND SET HER UP ON A SLOT MACHINE WITH THE DISCOVER CARD.  ONE OF THE FIRST THINGS THE PSYCHIATRIST DID WAS PUT HER ON PAXIL FOR A GAMBLING ADDICTION. THAT WAS ANOTHER ISSUE WHEN IT CAME TO HER OUTBURST WAS SHE WOULD GET VERY ANGRY BECAUSE WE WOULDN'T TAKE HER TO THE BOAT. THIS ADDICTION ALSO FLOWED OVER INTO HER SPENDING. SHE WAS OUT OF CONTROL. MAGGIE AND I WOULD TAKE HER OUT AND SHE WOULD SPEND HER MONEY AND MINE AND IF I TRIED TO DO ANYTHING ABOUT IT SHE WOULD CAUSE A SCENE. I WOULD PAY FOR THE STUFF THEN TAKE IT BACK FOR A REFUND A COUPLE DAYS LATER. CHAR IS VERY FORGETFUL SO I WOULD PUT THINGS AWAY AND SHE WOULD FORGET. MANY TIMES SHE ALREADY HAD ONE  OR MORE OF THAT VERY SAME ITEM. SHE WAS SO DEPRESSED OVER THE DIVORCE AND THIS ONE PARTICULAR AREA SEEM TO GET SO MUCH WORSE. THIS WAS SOME OF WHAT HER HUSBAND WAS DEALING WITH AND BECAUSE OF CHARS MENTAL HEALTH STATE NONE OF MY OTHER SIBLINGS HAD MUCH TO DO WITH HER. A COUPLE DID FOR SHORT PERIODS OF TIME BUT THAT'S ALL. TO THIS DAY NOT ONE OF THEM HAVE EVER COME FORWARD TO HELP IN ANYWAY. MY PARENTS ARE IN THERE 80S AND MY MOTHER HAD A STROKE 3 YEARS AGO WHICH THANK GOD SHE HAS RECOVERED FROM. WHEN ALL THIS CAME ABOUT I DID THIS BECAUSE OF MY LOVE FOR MY SISTER AND MY PARENTS. MY PARENTS WILL TELL YOU CHAR HAS ALWAYS BEEN DIFFICULT TO DEAL WITH AND WHEN SHE HAD THE HEART ATTACK AT 27 A HEART SPECIALIST TOLD THEM THAT MANY PEOPLE WITH HEART VALVE DISEASE DEVELOP PERSONALITY DISORDERS. CHAR HAS ALWAYS BEEN SOMEWHAT PARANOID AND VERY DEPRESSED. ON A DAILY BASIS I DEALT WITH THINGS LIKE SHE WOULDN'T EAT UNLESS IT WAS SOME SORT OF FAST FOOD. I WOULD OCCASIONALLY GET HER TO MAKE A LIST OF GROCERIES FOR HERSELF AND OCCASIONAL SHE WOULD EAT IT BUT SHE STILL WANTED FAST FOOD. I CANT DESCRIBE THE ANGER SHE WOULD HAVE AND IT WAS DO IT OR SHE WOULDN'T EAT.  I WOULD TAKE HER OUT TO EAT WHEN WE HAD TO MAKE A TRIP TO THE LAWYERS OR DOCTORS AND SHE WOULD ORDER 2 MEALS. SHE WOULD TELL THE WAITER THAT ONE WAS TO GO AND THEN WHEN THEY WOULD BRING THE OTHER TO THE TABLE SHE WOULD ASK THEM TO BOX IT UP TO GO HOME. AGAIN SHE WOULD GET ANGRY AND CAUSE A SCENE IF I SAID ANYTHING. MOST OF THESE INCIDENTS ARE BEFORE SHE HAD BEEN PUT ON THE RESPERIDOL. BEST TO MY RECOLLECTION SHE WAS STARTED ON THAT IN APRIL 99. ALSO AT THIS TIME IT WAS AFTER THE SURGERY AND HER HEALTH WAS FAILING. SHE WAS DEALING WITH MORE THAN ANYONE SHOULD HAVE TO. ALL THIS IS IMPORTANT WHEN IT COMES TO THE PROBATE ISSUES I AM ABOUT TO TELL YOU ABOUT.
      THE PROBATE ATTORNEY APPARENTLY MISREPRESENTED ME .....SEVERELY. I CALLED HIM ON MANY ISSUES REGARDS MEDICAL AND LIVING EXPENSES. HER PRESCRIPTION COST WAS $1000 A MONTH AND HAVING NO INSURANCE SHE WAS PAYING THE 20% MEDICARE DIDN'T PAY. BOTH LAWYERS SAID WITH HER MEDICAL COST HER MONEY WOULDN'T LAST LONG AND EVENTUALLY SHED BE ON A MEDICAID SPEND DOWN. WITH HER DECLINING HEALTH AND SOILING CLOTHES AND BEDDING I STOCKED UP ON SUPPLIES NOT TO MENTION SKIN CARE PRODUCTS. WHEN SHE GOT HER MONEY IN AUG. 99 . MAGGIE AND I HAD EXHAUSTED OUR FUNDS BY THIS TIME,  INCLUDING MAGGIE'S RETIREMENT FUNDS FROM HER DIVORCE, WE RE DID OUR SECOND MORTGAGE AND BOUGHT A USED VAN FOR HAULING CHAR AND HER WHEELCHAIR. THERE WAS NOW 6 OF US SO WE TRADED MAGGIE'S CAR FOR THE VAN. I HAD CALLED THE PROBATE ATTORNEY MANY MANY TIMES AND SPOKE WITH HIM ON RE CAPTURING OUR FUNDS AND I WAS TOLD WE HAD TO HAVE A COURT ORDER FOR ANYTHING OVER $999.00 AND THAT IT WOULD BE BETTER TO PAY SOME ACTUAL HOUSEHOLD BILLS . SO I DID.
      COME TO FIND OUT THE PROBATE COURT HAS A SET OF GUIDELINES  WHICH I FINALLY RECEIVED IN SEPT. 2000. IN MAY 2000 I WAS REMOVED AS CONSERVATOR AND LEFT ON AS GUARDIAN. THE LAWYER TOLD THE JUDGE I NEVER SUPPLIED REQUESTED INFO FOR THE YEARLY SETTLEMENT. I HAD ASKED FOR A COUPLE EXTENSIONS ON FILING BECAUSE OF MY ILLNESS WHICH HAD GOTTEN WORSE FROM ALL THE AFFAIRS I WAS HAVING TO DEAL WITH. I WAS EXHAUSTED. I SAVED EVERY RECEIPT AND BANK STATEMENT AND I DID GIVE THIS TO THE LAWYER AND HE HAD MADE A DRAFT SETTLEMENT. HE WITHDREW FROM REPRESENTING ME AND I ATTEMPTED TO SETTLE THIS ON MY OWN AND THRU DEALING WITH THE PROBATE OFFICE IS HOW I FOUND OUT THEY HAD A STANDARD SET PROCEDURE THAT I HAD NEVER BEEN TOLD ABOUT. THE DAY I WENT TO COURT FOR THE LAWYER TO WITHDRAW I ASKED HIM WHY ALL THIS HAPPENED . NOT REALLY UNDERSTANDING WHAT WAS GOING ON. HE SAID THAT DAY THAT BEING CHARS SISTER THE JUDGE NEVER PUT ANY RESTRICTIONS ON HER MONEY . THE OTHER ISSUE I WAS CONCERNED ABOUT WAS THE JUDGE ORDERED TO HAVE THE BOND WHICH HE HAD PUT AT $5000 RAISED. NOW MIND YOU WITH HER MEDICAL AND LEGAL FEES THERE WASN'T MUCH OF THE 45,000 LEFT. I WANTED TO KNOW WHY IN AUG. 99 WHEN HER ESTATE WAS SETTLED AND IT WAS ALL PUT IN FRONT OF THE JUDGE WHY DIDN'T HE RAISE THE BOND THEN. HIS REPLY WAS IT WASN'T HIS JOB TO TELL THE JUDGE HOW TO DO HIS JOB. THIS IS JUST THE TIP OF THE ICEBERG...... IN MAY 2000 I WAS REMOVED AND I ATTEMPTED TO FILE A SETTLEMENT TWICE WHICH WERE REJECTED SO I WENT TO HER DIVORCE LAWYER TO HELP ME. HE IS AN EXTREMELY HONEST MAN. HE SAID BASICALLY I HAVE BEEN SCREWED. THE PROBATE ATTORNEY DID NOT DO HIS JOB AND WHEN SOMETHING WASN'T ORDERED BY THE JUDGE WHICH I UNDERSTAND IS JUST THE NORMAL PROCEDURE HE DIDN'T ASK THE JUDGE ABOUT IT. SO HERE I AM A YEAR LATER AND $7000 IN ATTORNEY FEES AND WE STILL DON'T HAVE THIS SETTLED. I GUESS NOW THE PUBLIC ADMINISTRATOR HAS HIRED AN ATTORNEY TO SUE ME FOR MISUSE OF FUNDS.... $34,000 OF FUNDS. IF SHE HAD 45,000 AND ALMOST 11,000 WENT TO LAWYERS AND 17,000 TO MEDICAL...... AND IT GOES ON AND ON!!!!!!!

      MY ISSUES ARE FIRST OFF THAT I ASKED THE PROBATE LAWYER IF MY BEING SICK AND DISABLED MATTERED AND I CLEARLY STATED I DIDN'T THINK I COULD DO IT. HE SAID NO I WOULD BE ABLE TO . SECONDLY HE NEVER GAVE ME ALL THE INFO I NEEDED SUCH AS GUIDELINES. THEN HE DESERTED ME. NOT TO MENTION FEELING DESERTED BY MY FAMILY. I HAVE DOCUMENTS FROM A NEUROPSYCHOLOGIST THAT DID TESTING ON ME FOR DISABILITY THAT STATES MY COGNITIVE DEFICITS. I JUST DON'T KNOW WHERE TO TURN FOR JUSTICE. I HAVE BEEN TOLD I SHOULD FILE MALPRACTICE AGAINST THE PROBATE LAWYER BUT I HAVE NO FUNDS AND I GUESS TO FIND A LAWYER THAT WILL GO AFTER ANOTHER IS DIFFICULT. MY HEALTH HAS DETERORIATED... MY  LEVEL OF DEPRESSION IS SO BAD AND MY LEVEL OF CONCENTRATION ......WELL IT DOESN'T EXISTS. IT HAS TAKEN ME DAYS TO DO THIS. AS FOR MY SISTER I HAVE EVERY INTENTION OF TAKING CARE OF HER TO THE END AND FINANCIALLY MAGGIE AND I ARE STILL FUNDING HER. MONEY WASN'T AN ISSUE WHEN WE DECIDED TO KEEP HER HERE AND ITS STILL NOT AN ISSUE FOR US. THIS IS SO UNFAIR....... UNDER THE CIRCUMSTANCE I DID THE BEST I COULD AND I CONSULTED WITH MY PARENTS ON EVERYTHING THAT WAS DONE. THEY ARE BEHIND ME 100%. BUT I NEED HELP IN DEALING WITH THE COURT ISSUES AT HAND.......... PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!

                                                                        SINCERELY,
                                                            CATHERINE L DERENDINGER
                                                               804 NE 81ST STREET,
                                                            KANSAS CITY, MO. 64118
                                                              816-436-0979
       

      MY EMAILS ARE :  CATMAG@... OR  KATYLOUPUM@...

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