How to Handle an Over-The-Top Temper?
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How to Handle an Over-The-Top Temper?
Q: When a child displays an over-the-top temper, what can a parent to do?
One of the most difficult challenges we face as parents is helping our kids
manage their anger and frustration. It's so hard not to lose our control when
our kids lose their control.
The time to start helping your child with angry, hurt, and frustrated feelings
is often before these big emotions show up, although that's not always
possible. And being a role model on handling conflict and hurt peacefully is
great, but it might have taken years for you to perfect those skills, while
your kids have been around just a few short years.
I think of ten-year-old Brody. Whenever he was hurt, frustrated, or angry, he
would yell, scream, kick, or punch - himself or his sister. He fought over the
smallest things - like what was for breakfast or where to sit in the car. His
parents tried everything - time out, taking away privileges, talking calmly -
nothing seemed to help.
When we started working together, what helped Brody get in control of his
over-the-top temper was to use the Imagination Tools of...
(1) Talking to his Feelings,
(2) Using Color for Healing, and
(3) The Balloon Breath.
Here's what he did:
He used his Balloon Breath to calm himself and turn inside to imagine where he
kept his big bad feelings. He didn't just have anger lurking - there was worry,
frustration, hurt, and disappointment. White worry about grades hid in his
belly. Black Frustration about not getting what he wanted made a big black hole
in his back. Purple Hurt rang in his ears and Gray Disappointment turned up as
a big block in his neck. By the time we got to Muddy Anger, he realized it was
a combination of the other four feelings, and this helped him understand where
his outbursts came from. That made our next step to look for the positive
emotions that could act as an antidote to the other negative ones easier.
Use positives to create antidote combo:
Brody found Calm Blue at the top of his head - and breathing the color down
into his body helped soothe his anger a bit and washed Worry away. His Happy
feelings were like a neon splash on his chest, and when he visualized them
spreading, it let go of Disappointment. And when Brody found Red Love in his
heart, well, it seemed like an all-purpose healer. Brody said that when Love
moved up his body, it vanished all his bad feelings.
What to remember from Brody's story? Imagination Tools can be the mind's own
sedative. Assist your child in choosing ones that appeal to him and it'll be a
likely start down the road toward inner peace.
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