The Love and Compassion of a three year old.
- The Love and Compassion of a three year old.
Many of us wonder if we are being ideal role models of our children.
Are we teaching them the right values and etiquette? Are we teaching
them to care for others and not be selfish?
When a child is young, it is natural for them to be selfish. This is
being aware of the self. The world is their playground and they want
to see and explore everything, no matter what the danger or how much
of a distraction they may be. When it comes to playing with other
children, friends are made and alliances are founded. While everyone
is having a great time, it is difficult to recognize when some
children are left out.
On a November afternoon, while waiting for our three and a half year
old to say good-bye to his friends at school, his teacher approached
us. She protested that Quinn is the most loving child she has ever
met. Then she explained what Quinn had done that was so amazing.
There is a large yard at the back of the daycare center Quinn goes to.
On this particular afternoon, Quinn and some friends were playing in
the sand box together. At some point Tommy, another friend, was about
15 feet away, crying. Now, remember, children playing often have
tunnel vision. So, there were about three or so friends playing in
the sand box and Tommy was crying a short distance away.
All of a sudden, Quinn says to his friends, "Hold on. I will be right
back. I'm going to see what is wrong with Tommy." He gets out of the
sand box and walks over to Tommy. "Tommy, are you OK? It's all
right. You can come play with us." Quinn leads Tommy over to the
sand box and the other friends move over to make room for everyone to
The other boys had not recognized Tommy's anguish until Quinn stopped
what he was doing to find out. They were all just playing and doing
what boys do. Where did Quinn learn to be so compassionate?
A week prior to this incident, we had all been on a family trip across
the country. We attended an event where there were other children and
adults. Quinn quickly made friends with the children and adults
alike. Over the next few days, Quinn and his friends were playing,
running and jumping all over the place. There was one boy Quinn's age
that played with him the most and, often times, alone.
Two days prior to event closing, Quinn was playing with his father and
some other children and this boy, Oscar, was crying. Quinn's father
asked Quinn to wait a moment so that he could find out what was wrong.
Oscar did not like it that Quinn wanted to play with other children
and he felt left out. Quinn's father invited Oscar to join the
others. Oscar happily joined the games and everyone was happy. Even
though Oscar wanted Quinn to play with him by himself, he was happy to
Children are aware of what their parents do and they emulate our
behavior, often instantaneously. We are role models and, when we
express Love and Compassion for others, that is what our children will
express. It doesn't matter how young or old your children may be, it
is never too late to be an ideal role model for them. There is no
such thing as perfection, just the consciousness of mind to express
Love and Compassion to your fellow neighbors, acquaintances, family,
and friends. This is what creates peace and happiness.
Peace, Love and Light,
Lyra Star Mist Jubb
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