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Holy Rule for Dec. 11

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  • Jerry Lee
    +PAX Prayers, please, for Kristian, on his 17th birthday, and for his parents and family. Prayers, please, for the health of Ordice, weak heart, just out of
    Message 1 of 5 , Dec 11, 2004
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      Prayers, please, for Kristian, on his 17th birthday, and for his parents and family. Prayers, please, for the health of Ordice, weak heart, just out of hospital for flu and dehydration, kidney problems, also for Joanne, surgery for non-malignant colon problem on Tuesday. Also for Lois, 78, colon cancer and diabetic, heart disease history. Her prognosis is very unclear; also for a man having prostate cancer surgery. Prayers, too, for Liz, 24, and seeking the right job in a new city. God's will is best. All is mercy and grace. God is never absent. Alleluia! Thanks so much. JL

      April 11, August 11, December 11
      Chapter 58: On the Manner of Receiving Sisters

      When anyone is newly come for the reformation of her life,
      let her not be granted an easy entrance;
      but, as the Apostle says,
      "Test the spirits to see whether they are from God."
      If the newcomer, therefore, perseveres in her knocking,
      and if it is seen after four or five days
      that she bears patiently the harsh treatment offered her
      and the difficulty of admission,
      and that she persists in her petition,
      then let entrance be granted her,
      and let her stay in the guest house for a few days.

      After that let her live in the novitiate,
      where the novices study, eat and sleep.
      A senior shall be assigned to them who is skilled in winning souls,
      to watch over them with the utmost care.
      Let her examine whether the novice is truly seeking God,
      and whether she is zealous
      for the Work of God, for obedience and for trials.
      Let the novice be told all the hard and rugged ways
      by which the journey to God is made.

      If she promises stability and perseverance,
      then at the end of two months
      let this rule be read through to her,
      and let her be addressed thus:
      "Here is the law under which you wish to fight.
      If you can observe it, enter;
      if you cannot, you are free to depart."
      If she still stands firm,
      let her be taken to the above-mentioned novitiate
      and again tested in all patience.
      And after the lapse of six months let the Rule be read to her,
      that she may know on what she is entering.
      And if she still remains firm,
      after four months let the same Rule be read to her again.

      Then, having deliberated with herself,
      if she promises to keep it in its entirety
      and to observe everything that is commanded,
      let her be received into the community.
      But let her understand that,
      according to the law of the Rule,
      from that day forward she may not leave the monastery
      nor withdraw her neck from under the yoke of the Rule
      which she was free to refuse or to accept
      during that prolonged deliberation.

      REFLECTION

      The Holy Rule is an awesome document about 1,500 years old. Since it
      is always both these things, it is helpful to look at then and now in
      reading it. In St. Benedict's time, and for many centuries after him,
      numerous less than lofty social reasons obtained for joining a
      monastery. This was, alas, as true for the nobility and it was for
      the serfs.

      Got an unmarriageable daughter? Ship her off to join the "unclaimed
      treasures" abbey, if they won't take her, found and fund of your own.
      Got a younger son with no inheritance or title, not the sharpest
      knife in the drawer, either? Sounds like a vocation to the Church to
      me... Dowager queen or ex-wife a governmental problem? Have I got a
      convent for YOU!

      For the lower socioeconomic groups, it was often flat out social
      climbing to join the monastery. Hey, if you couldn't be a yuppie in
      the Middle Ages, this is what you did, or tried to do! You not only
      came out well-dressed and well-fed, but you often got educated in the
      bargain, too. If one was not born noble, or if one was less than
      wonderful at warfare, the Church was the ONLY way to climb to power.

      History has removed or severely limited many of these shoddy reasons
      for joining. Hence, it is not always wise to play hard to get with
      the reasons for same out of the way. I have known communities who
      played too hard to get for too long and now get nothing at all.
      Whooops! Poetic justice there! Maybe you should have just stuck to
      not sleeping with knives at your side when you wanted to get literal
      about the Holy Rule!

      Before the worst of the vocations crunch came, there was a terrible
      myth afloat in the late 60's and early 70's: "the perfect vocation."
      Holding out for these ephemeral dreams has seriously harmed more than
      one house. Just as women were learning to debunk the Cinderella myth,
      many houses fell prey to the foolish notion that Prince or Princess
      Charming really WOULD arrive on a charger one day.

      Sometimes the only thing worse than a "perfect vocation" who leaves
      is one who stays. One such widely acclaimed "dream team vocation" I
      know arrived with education all completed, and a master's in
      psychology, thank you, as well. Hosanna and hoo-hah!! Couldn't have
      fit the 1970 dream more perfectly. My, was this arrival ever heralded
      and sadly used as the standard to judge the vocations of others who
      applied later. (In the interests of anonymity, I won't even use the
      gender here.) This one grew up to be- and remains- one of the most
      serious and treacherous problems the community in question has ever
      faced in its history. The damage will take years to correct and has
      already taken quite a few. Not all dreams are nightmares, but all
      nightmares are dreams!

      See what I mean? It's balance again, always, always balance. This is
      true not only of monasteries, but of single Oblates seeking a mate
      and of any Oblate seeking to fill a job slot or assign a task to a
      child. The apparently "perfect" one may not always be the best bet! I
      can speak from long and none-too-bright personal experience as a
      layman of begging the wrong ones to love me that being too easy isn't
      a great idea, either. Balance, look at the person, the REAL person,
      not the "perfect" one you desire so much that you see an illusion.
      Mindfulness, here! Really, really, look at the real, strive to see it
      well and then act accordingly. Jesus, after all, IS the Truth.

      Ask any employer, many a plodder who was given a chance and knows it
      will try harder and actually perform much better than the "dream" who
      arrived with all ducks neatly in a row. In any situation in life, it
      is crucially important to remember that carved-in-stone standards are
      never subjective and people ALWAYS are. Thus, a little flexibility is
      going to be required unless you are totally content with never
      getting anywhere.

      In my years before becoming a monk, I often campaigned for, insisted
      upon and ultimately GOT the wrong one desired. Sigh... Any surprise
      that I was still single at 43 to profess vows? God is in charge of
      these things, but God is terribly polite. Get in His way and He will
      usually leave you to your own devices, since they can be the most
      effective teachers! Be too picky or not picky enough and you will
      miss whatever treasure He has for you. Don't take that risk!

      Love and prayers,
      Jerome, OSB
      http://www.stmarysmonastery.org
      jeromeleo@...
      Petersham, MA

      [Non-text portions of this message have been removed]
    • Jerry Lee
      +PAX Prayers, please, for Kristian, on his 18th birthday, for his parents, Dick and Joy, and all his family. Prayers of thanks and Deo gratias, for Sandy,
      Message 2 of 5 , Dec 11, 2005
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        Prayers, please, for Kristian, on his 18th birthday, for his parents, Dick and Joy, and all his family. Prayers of thanks and Deo gratias, for Sandy, whose colon cancer surgery was so successful she might not even need chemo, and for toddler Galen, whom we also prayed for, has left ICU and gone to a regular room, prayers for his continued progress, and for his Mom, who has pneumonia and MS. While they were doing her exam, they found out she was pregnant with her second child. Lord, help them as You know and will. God's will is best. All is mercy and grace. God is never absent, praise Him! Thanks so much. JL

        April 11, August 11, December 11
        Chapter 58: On the Manner of Receiving Sisters

        When anyone is newly come for the reformation of her life,
        let her not be granted an easy entrance;
        but, as the Apostle says,
        "Test the spirits to see whether they are from God."
        If the newcomer, therefore, perseveres in her knocking,
        and if it is seen after four or five days
        that she bears patiently the harsh treatment offered her
        and the difficulty of admission,
        and that she persists in her petition,
        then let entrance be granted her,
        and let her stay in the guest house for a few days.

        After that let her live in the novitiate,
        where the novices study, eat and sleep.
        A senior shall be assigned to them who is skilled in winning souls,
        to watch over them with the utmost care.
        Let her examine whether the novice is truly seeking God,
        and whether she is zealous
        for the Work of God, for obedience and for trials.
        Let the novice be told all the hard and rugged ways
        by which the journey to God is made.

        If she promises stability and perseverance,
        then at the end of two months
        let this rule be read through to her,
        and let her be addressed thus:
        "Here is the law under which you wish to fight.
        If you can observe it, enter;
        if you cannot, you are free to depart."
        If she still stands firm,
        let her be taken to the above-mentioned novitiate
        and again tested in all patience.
        And after the lapse of six months let the Rule be read to her,
        that she may know on what she is entering.
        And if she still remains firm,
        after four months let the same Rule be read to her again.

        Then, having deliberated with herself,
        if she promises to keep it in its entirety
        and to observe everything that is commanded,
        let her be received into the community.
        But let her understand that,
        according to the law of the Rule,
        from that day forward she may not leave the monastery
        nor withdraw her neck from under the yoke of the Rule
        which she was free to refuse or to accept
        during that prolonged deliberation.

        REFLECTION

        The Holy Rule is an awesome document about 1,500 years old. Since it
        is always both these things, it is helpful to look at both past and present in
        reading it. In St. Benedict's time, and for many centuries after him,
        numerous less than lofty social reasons obtained for joining a
        monastery. This was, alas, as true for the nobility and it was for
        the serfs.

        Got an unmarriageable noble daughter? Ship her off to join the "unclaimed
        treasures" abbey, if they won't take her, found and fund of your own.
        Got a younger son with no inheritance or title, not the sharpest
        knife in the drawer, either? Sounds like a vocation to the Church to
        me... Dowager queen or ex-wife a governmental problem? Have I got a
        convent for YOU!

        For the lower socioeconomic groups, it was often flat out social
        climbing to join the monastery. Hey, if you couldn't be a yuppie in
        the Middle Ages, this is what you did, or tried to do! You not only
        came out well-dressed and well-fed, but you often got educated in the
        bargain, too. If one was not born noble, or if one was less than
        wonderful at warfare, the Church was the ONLY way to climb to power.

        History has removed or severely limited many of these shoddy reasons
        for joining. Hence, it is not always wise to play hard to get with
        the reasons for same out of the way. I have known communities who
        played too hard to get for too long and now get nothing at all.
        Whooops! Poetic justice there! Maybe you should have just stuck to
        not sleeping with knives at your side when you wanted to get literal
        about the Holy Rule!

        Before the worst of the vocations crunch came, there was a terrible
        myth afloat in the late 60's and early 70's: "the perfect vocation."
        Holding out for these ephemeral dreams has seriously harmed more than
        one house. Just as women were learning to debunk the Cinderella myth,
        many houses fell prey to the foolish notion that Prince or Princess
        Charming really WOULD arrive on a charger one day.

        Sometimes the only thing worse than a "perfect vocation" who leaves
        is one who stays. One such widely acclaimed "dream vocation" I
        know arrived with education all completed, and a master's in
        psychology, thank you, as well. Hosanna and hoo-hah!! Couldn't have
        fit the 1970 dream more perfectly. My, was this arrival ever heralded
        and sadly used as the standard to judge the vocations of others who
        applied later. (In the interests of anonymity, I won't even use the
        gender here.) This one grew up to be- and remains- one of the most
        serious and treacherous problems the community in question has ever
        faced in its history. The damage will take years to correct and has
        already taken quite a few. Not all dreams are nightmares, but all
        nightmares are dreams!

        See what I mean? It's balance again, always, always balance. This is
        true not only of monasteries, but of single Oblates seeking a mate
        and of any Oblate seeking to fill a job slot or assign a task to a
        child. The apparently "perfect" one may not always be the best bet!

        I can speak from long and none-too-bright personal experience as a
        layman of begging the wrong ones to love me that being too easy isn't
        a great idea, either. Balance, look at the person, the REAL person,
        not the "perfect" one you desire so much that you see an illusion.
        Mindfulness, here! Really, really, look at the real, strive to see it
        well and then act accordingly. Jesus, after all, IS the Truth.

        Ask any employer, many a plodder who was given a chance and knows it
        will try harder and actually perform much better than the "dream" who
        arrived with all ducks neatly in a row. In any situation in life, it
        is crucially important to remember that carved-in-stone standards are
        never subjective and people ALWAYS are. Thus, a little flexibility is
        going to be required unless you are totally content with never
        getting anywhere.

        In my years before becoming a monk, I often campaigned for, insisted
        upon and ultimately GOT the wrong one desired. Sigh... Any surprise
        that I was still single at 43 to profess vows? God is in charge of
        these things, but God is terribly polite. Get in His way and He will
        usually leave you to your own devices, since they can be the most
        effective teachers! Be too picky or not picky enough and you will
        miss whatever treasure He has for you. Don't take that risk!

        Love and prayers,
        Jerome, OSB
        http://www.stmarysmonastery.org
        jeromeleo@...
        Petersham, MA

        [Non-text portions of this message have been removed]
      • Brjeromeleo@aol.com
        +PAX Prayers for Kristian, on his 19th birthday, for his parents, Joy and Dick, and for all his family. Prayers for the conversion of Jesse, caught up in an
        Message 3 of 5 , Dec 10, 2006
          +PAX

          Prayers for Kristian, on his 19th birthday, for his parents, Joy and Dick,
          and for all his family.

          Prayers for the conversion of Jesse, caught up in an adulterous
          relationship, also for the perfect will of God for Arcy, whom Jesse left broken-hearted.

          Prayers for Tom and his continuing search for God's will for his vocation.
          Prayers for a mental patient, delusional and paranoid, possibly schizophrenic,
          and for all those who suffer the crown of thorns that mental illness is, as
          well as for those who treat and care for them, and those who treat and care
          for all our prayer folks, spiritually, mentally and physically.

          Prayers for all struggling with addictions of any kind, strengthen them in
          their battle to be well. Lord, help us all as You know and will. God's will is
          best. All is mercy and grace. God is never absent, praise Him! Thanks so
          much. JL

          April 11, August 11, December 11
          Chapter 58: On the Manner of Receiving Sisters

          When anyone is newly come for the reformation of her life,
          let her not be granted an easy entrance;
          but, as the Apostle says,
          "Test the spirits to see whether they are from God."
          If the newcomer, therefore, perseveres in her knocking,
          and if it is seen after four or five days
          that she bears patiently the harsh treatment offered her
          and the difficulty of admission,
          and that she persists in her petition,
          then let entrance be granted her,
          and let her stay in the guest house for a few days.

          After that let her live in the novitiate,
          where the novices study, eat and sleep.
          A senior shall be assigned to them who is skilled in winning souls,
          to watch over them with the utmost care.
          Let her examine whether the novice is truly seeking God,
          and whether she is zealous
          for the Work of God, for obedience and for trials.
          Let the novice be told all the hard and rugged ways
          by which the journey to God is made.

          If she promises stability and perseverance,
          then at the end of two months
          let this rule be read through to her,
          and let her be addressed thus:
          "Here is the law under which you wish to fight.
          If you can observe it, enter;
          if you cannot, you are free to depart."
          If she still stands firm,
          let her be taken to the above-mentioned novitiate
          and again tested in all patience.
          And after the lapse of six months let the Rule be read to her,
          that she may know on what she is entering.
          And if she still remains firm,
          after four months let the same Rule be read to her again.

          Then, having deliberated with herself,
          if she promises to keep it in its entirety
          and to observe everything that is commanded,
          let her be received into the community.
          But let her understand that,
          according to the law of the Rule,
          from that day forward she may not leave the monastery
          nor withdraw her neck from under the yoke of the Rule
          which she was free to refuse or to accept
          during that prolonged deliberation.

          REFLECTION

          The Holy Rule is an awesome document about 1,500 years old. Since it
          is always both these things, it is helpful to look at both past and present
          in
          reading it. In St. Benedict's time, and for many centuries after him,
          numerous less than lofty social reasons obtained for joining a
          monastery. This was, alas, as true for the nobility and it was for
          the serfs.

          Got an unmarriageable noble daughter? Ship her off to join the "unclaimed
          treasures" abbey, if they won't take her, found and fund of your own.
          Got a younger son with no inheritance or title, not the sharpest
          knife in the drawer, either? Sounds like a vocation to the Church to
          me... Dowager queen or ex-wife a governmental problem? Have I got a
          convent for YOU!

          For the lower socioeconomic groups, it was often flat out social
          climbing to join the monastery. Hey, if you couldn't be a yuppie in
          the Middle Ages, this is what you did, or tried to do! You not only
          came out well-dressed and well-fed, but you often got educated in the
          bargain, too. If one was not born noble, or if one was less than
          wonderful at warfare, the Church was the ONLY way to climb to power.

          History has removed or severely limited many of these shoddy reasons
          for joining. Hence, it is not always wise to play hard to get with
          the reasons for same out of the way. I have known communities who
          played too hard to get for too long and now get nothing at all.
          Whooops! Poetic justice there! Maybe you should have just stuck to
          not sleeping with knives at your side when you wanted to get literal
          about the Holy Rule!

          Before the worst of the vocations crunch came, there was a terrible
          myth afloat in the late 60's and early 70's: "the perfect vocation."
          Holding out for these ephemeral dreams has seriously harmed more than
          one house. Just as women were learning to debunk the Cinderella myth,
          many houses fell prey to the foolish notion that Prince or Princess
          Charming really WOULD arrive on a charger one day.

          Sometimes the only thing worse than a "perfect vocation" who leaves
          is one who stays. One such widely acclaimed "dream vocation" I
          know arrived with education all completed, and a master's in
          psychology, thank you, as well. Hosanna and hoo-hah!! Couldn't have
          fit the 1970 dream more perfectly. My, was this arrival ever heralded
          and sadly used as the standard to judge the vocations of others who
          applied later. (In the interests of anonymity, I won't even use the
          gender here.) This one grew up to be- and remains- one of the most
          serious and treacherous problems the community in question has ever
          faced in its history. The damage will take years to correct and has
          already taken quite a few. Not all dreams are nightmares, but all
          nightmares are dreams!

          See what I mean? It's balance again, always, always balance. This is
          true not only of monasteries, but of single Oblates seeking a mate
          and of any Oblate seeking to fill a job slot or assign a task to a
          child. The apparently "perfect" one may not always be the best bet!

          I can speak from long and none-too-bright personal experience as a
          layman of begging the wrong ones to love me that being too easy isn't
          a great idea, either. Balance, look at the person, the REAL person,
          not the "perfect" one you desire so much that you see an illusion.
          Mindfulness, here! Really, really, look at the real, strive to see it
          well and then act accordingly. Jesus, after all, IS the Truth.

          Ask any employer, many a plodder who was given a chance and knows it
          will try harder and actually perform much better than the "dream" who
          arrived with all ducks neatly in a row. In any situation in life, it
          is crucially important to remember that carved-in-stone standards are
          never subjective and people ALWAYS are. Thus, a little flexibility is
          going to be required unless you are totally content with never
          getting anywhere.

          In my years before becoming a monk, I often campaigned for, insisted
          upon and ultimately GOT the wrong one desired. Sigh... Any surprise
          that I was still single at 43 to profess vows? God is in charge of
          these things, but God is terribly polite. Get in His way and He will
          usually leave you to your own devices, since they can be the most
          effective teachers! Be too picky or not picky enough and you will
          miss whatever treasure He has for you. Don't take that risk!

          Love and prayers,
          Jerome, OSB
          _http://www.stmarysmonastery.org_ (http://www.stmarysmonastery.org)
          Petersham, MA





          [Non-text portions of this message have been removed]
        • Br. Jerome Leo
          +PAX Prayers for Kristian, on his 20th birthday, for his parents, Joy and Dick, and for all his family. Prayers, please, for the happy death and eternal rest
          Message 4 of 5 , Dec 10, 2007
            +PAX

            Prayers for Kristian, on his 20th birthday, for his parents, Joy and Dick,
            and for all his family.

            Prayers, please, for the happy death and eternal rest of the following and for all thier loved ones, all who mourn them:

            Bob, 81.

            Christine, who took her own life, and for Peggy and Christian, who feel her loss so terribly.

            Arthur, AIDS in his forties, and another Arthur, no details, but also AIDS.

            Prayers for Ann Marie and George, both applying for jobs they want very much. May God grant them the jobs He has for them!

            Prayers for the spiritual, mental and physical health of the following, for all their loved ones and for all those who take care of them:

            Paul and his Dad, Mr. K., who may be nearing death.

            Jane's Dad, hospice called in and may be going home soon, also for Jane, her Mom and all their family.

            Daniela and Nichola, a married couple with 3 teenaged sons, Sam, Alex and Ben. The parents were struck in a car accident and are both in critical condition, so prayrers for all of the family, please.

            Jackie, a college student home with mononucleosis and having to postpone all her exams, quite sick just now and in a good deal of pain, too. Lord, help us all as You know and will. Helps us believe and know that You take care of us. God's will is best. All is mercy and grace. God is never absent, praise Him! Thanks so much. JL

            April 11, August 11, December 11
            Chapter 58: On the Manner of Receiving Sisters

            When anyone is newly come for the reformation of her life,
            let her not be granted an easy entrance;
            but, as the Apostle says,
            "Test the spirits to see whether they are from God."
            If the newcomer, therefore, perseveres in her knocking,
            and if it is seen after four or five days
            that she bears patiently the harsh treatment offered her
            and the difficulty of admission,
            and that she persists in her petition,
            then let entrance be granted her,
            and let her stay in the guest house for a few days.

            After that let her live in the novitiate,
            where the novices study, eat and sleep.
            A senior shall be assigned to them who is skilled in winning souls,
            to watch over them with the utmost care.
            Let her examine whether the novice is truly seeking God,
            and whether she is zealous
            for the Work of God, for obedience and for trials.
            Let the novice be told all the hard and rugged ways
            by which the journey to God is made.

            If she promises stability and perseverance,
            then at the end of two months
            let this rule be read through to her,
            and let her be addressed thus:
            "Here is the law under which you wish to fight.
            If you can observe it, enter;
            if you cannot, you are free to depart."
            If she still stands firm,
            let her be taken to the above-mentioned novitiate
            and again tested in all patience.
            And after the lapse of six months let the Rule be read to her,
            that she may know on what she is entering.
            And if she still remains firm,
            after four months let the same Rule be read to her again.

            Then, having deliberated with herself,
            if she promises to keep it in its entirety
            and to observe everything that is commanded,
            let her be received into the community.
            But let her understand that,
            according to the law of the Rule,
            from that day forward she may not leave the monastery
            nor withdraw her neck from under the yoke of the Rule
            which she was free to refuse or to accept
            during that prolonged deliberation.

            REFLECTION

            The Holy Rule is an awesome document about 1,500 years old. Since it
            is always both these things, it is helpful to look at both past and present
            in
            reading it. In St. Benedict's time, and for many centuries after him,
            numerous less than lofty social reasons obtained for joining a
            monastery. This was, alas, as true for the nobility and it was for
            the serfs.

            Got an unmarriageable noble daughter? Ship her off to join the "unclaimed
            treasures" abbey, if they won't take her, found and fund of your own.
            Got a younger son with no inheritance or title, not the sharpest
            knife in the drawer, either? Sounds like a vocation to the Church to
            me... Dowager queen or ex-wife a governmental problem? Have I got a
            convent for YOU!

            For the lower socioeconomic groups, it was often flat out social
            climbing to join the monastery. Hey, if you couldn't be a yuppie in
            the Middle Ages, this is what you did, or tried to do! You not only
            came out well-dressed and well-fed, but you often got educated in the
            bargain, too. If one was not born noble, or if one was less than
            wonderful at warfare, the Church was the ONLY way to climb to power.

            History has removed or severely limited many of these shoddy reasons
            for joining. Hence, it is not always wise to play hard to get with
            the reasons for same out of the way. I have known communities who
            played too hard to get for too long and now get nothing at all.
            Whooops! Poetic justice there! Maybe you should have just stuck to
            not sleeping with knives at your side when you wanted to get literal
            about the Holy Rule!

            Before the worst of the vocations crunch came, there was a terrible
            myth afloat in the late 60's and early 70's: "the perfect vocation."
            Holding out for these ephemeral dreams has seriously harmed more than
            one house. Just as women were learning to debunk the Cinderella myth,
            many houses fell prey to the foolish notion that Prince or Princess
            Charming really WOULD arrive on a charger one day.

            Sometimes the only thing worse than a "perfect vocation" who leaves
            is one who stays. One such widely acclaimed "dream vocation" I
            know arrived with education all completed, and a master's in
            psychology, thank you, as well. Hosanna and hoo-hah!! Couldn't have
            fit the 1970 dream more perfectly. My, was this arrival ever heralded
            and sadly used as the standard to judge the vocations of others who
            applied later. (In the interests of anonymity, I won't even use the
            gender here.) This one grew up to be- and remains- one of the most
            serious and treacherous problems the community in question has ever
            faced in its history. The damage will take years to correct and has
            already taken quite a few. Not all dreams are nightmares, but all
            nightmares are dreams!

            See what I mean? It's balance again, always, always balance. This is
            true not only of monasteries, but of single Oblates seeking a mate
            and of any Oblate seeking to fill a job slot or assign a task to a
            child. The apparently "perfect" one may not always be the best bet!

            I can speak from long and none-too-bright personal experience as a
            layman of begging the wrong ones to love me that being too easy isn't
            a great idea, either. Balance, look at the person, the REAL person,
            not the "perfect" one you desire so much that you see an illusion.
            Mindfulness, here! Really, really, look at the real, strive to see it
            well and then act accordingly. Jesus, after all, IS the Truth.

            Ask any employer, many a plodder who was given a chance and knows it
            will try harder and actually perform much better than the "dream" who
            arrived with all ducks neatly in a row. In any situation in life, it
            is crucially important to remember that carved-in-stone standards are
            never subjective and people ALWAYS are. Thus, a little flexibility is
            going to be required unless you are totally content with never
            getting anywhere.

            In my years before becoming a monk, I often campaigned for, insisted
            upon and ultimately GOT the wrong one desired. Sigh... Any surprise
            that I was still single at 43 to profess vows? God is in charge of
            these things, but God is terribly polite. Get in His way and He will
            usually leave you to your own devices, since they can be the most
            effective teachers! Be too picky or not picky enough and you will
            miss whatever treasure He has for you. Don't take that risk!

            Love and prayers,
            Jerome, OSB
            http://www.stmarysmonastery.org
            Petersham, MA

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          • Br. Jerome Leo
            +PAX Prayers for Sue, interviewing for a buyer position on Monday. Deo gratias and prayers of thanks, two people made loans to Ron that will get him out of his
            Message 5 of 5 , Dec 10, 2016

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              Prayers for Sue, interviewing for a buyer position on Monday.

               

              Deo gratias and prayers of thanks, two people made loans to Ron that will get him out of his financial straits. He thanks all for their prayers and asks that we pray that the money be used wisely and God may multiply it. May God’s will be done.

               

              Prayers for two people facing eviction and the loss of all their possessions.

               

              Prayers for the eternal rest of Kristian, 26, who overdosed, and especially prayers for his parents, and all their family, and for all who mourn him..

              Lord, help us all as
              You know and will. Helps us believe and know that You take care of us. God's
              will is best. All is mercy and grace. God is never absent, praise Him! Thanks so
              much. JL

              April 11, August 11, December 11
              Chapter 58: On the Manner of Receiving Sisters

              When anyone is newly come for the reformation of her life,
              let her not be granted an easy entrance;
              but, as the Apostle says,
              "Test the spirits to see whether they are from God."
              If the newcomer, therefore, perseveres in her knocking,
              and if it is seen after four or five days
              that she bears patiently the harsh treatment offered her
              and the difficulty of admission,
              and that she persists in her petition,
              then let entrance be granted her,
              and let her stay in the guest house for a few days.

              After that let her live in the novitiate,
              where the novices study, eat and sleep.
              A senior shall be assigned to them who is skilled in winning souls,
              to watch over them with the utmost care.
              Let her examine whether the novice is truly seeking God,
              and whether she is zealous
              for the Work of God, for obedience and for trials.
              Let the novice be told all the hard and rugged ways
              by which the journey to God is made.

              If she promises stability and perseverance,
              then at the end of two months
              let this rule be read through to her,
              and let her be addressed thus:
              "Here is the law under which you wish to fight.
              If you can observe it, enter;
              if you cannot, you are free to depart."
              If she still stands firm,
              let her be taken to the above-mentioned novitiate
              and again tested in all patience.
              And after the lapse of six months let the Rule be read to her,
              that she may know on what she is entering.
              And if she still remains firm,
              after four months let the same Rule be read to her again.

              Then, having deliberated with herself,
              if she promises to keep it in its entirety
              and to observe everything that is commanded,
              let her be received into the community.
              But let her understand that,
              according to the law of the Rule,
              from that day forward she may not leave the monastery
              nor withdraw her neck from under the yoke of the Rule
              which she was free to refuse or to accept
              during that prolonged deliberation.

              REFLECTION

              The Holy Rule is an awesome document about 1,500 years old. Since it
              is always both these things, it is helpful to look at both past and present
              in reading it. In St. Benedict's time, and for many centuries after him,
              numerous less than lofty social reasons obtained for joining a
              monastery. For the lower socioeconomic groups, it was often flat out social
              climbing to join the monastery. You not only
              came out well-dressed and well-fed, but you often got educated in the
              bargain, too.


              History has removed or severely limited many of these shoddy reasons
              for joining. Hence, it is not always wise to play hard to get with
              the reasons for same out of the way.

               

              It's balance again, always, always balance. This is
              true not only of monasteries, but of single Oblates seeking a mate
              and of any Oblate seeking to fill a job slot or assign a task to a
              child. The apparently "perfect" one may not always be the best bet!

              Sometimes the flawed ugly duckling will become a swan.

              Balance, look at the person, the REAL person,
              not the "perfect" one you desire so much that you see an illusion.
              Mindfulness, here! Really, really, look at the real, strive to see it
              well and then act accordingly. Jesus, after all, IS the Truth.

              Ask any employer, many a plodder who was given a chance and knows it
              will try harder and actually perform much better than the "dream" who
              arrived with all ducks neatly in a row. In any situation in life, it
              is crucially important to remember that carved-in-stone standards are
              never subjective and people often are. Thus, a little flexibility is
              going to be required unless you are totally content with never
              getting anywhere.

              God is in charge of these things, but God is terribly polite. Get in His way and
              He will often leave you to your own devices, since they can be the most
              effective teachers! Be too picky or not picky enough and you will
              miss whatever treasure He has for you. Don't take that risk!

              Love and prayers,
              Jerome, OSB
              http://www.stmarysmonastery.org
              Petersham, MA

               

               

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