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  • Jerry Lee
    +PAX A happy and blessed birthday to Maureen Tynan, a faithful Oblate of ours. Prayers for her, she does so much for so many of us and is a regular at daily
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      A happy and blessed birthday to Maureen Tynan, a faithful Oblate of ours. Prayers for her, she does so much for so many of us and is a regular at daily Mass and Vespers here! Prayers, too, for Richard, multiple kidney stones, for Jim, chemo for recurring cancer, for Peter, in drug rehab and for his Mom who is deeply worried about him. God's will is best. All is mercy and grace. Thanks so much! JL

      March 4, July 4, November 3
      Chapter 27: How Solicitous the Abbot Should Be for the Excommunicated


      Let the Abbot be most solicitous
      in his concern for delinquent brethren,
      for "it is not the healthy but the sick who need a physician" (Matt
      9:12)
      And therefore he ought to use every means
      that a wise physician would use.
      Let him send senpectae,
      that is, brethren of mature years and wisdom,
      who may as it were secretly console the wavering brother
      and induce him to make humble satisfaction;
      comforting him
      that he may not "be overwhelmed by excessive grief" (2 Cor. 2:7),
      but that, as the Apostle says,
      charity may be strengthened in him (2 Cor. 2:8).
      And let everyone pray for him.

      For the Abbot must have the utmost solicitude
      and exercise all prudence and diligence
      lest he lose any of the sheep entrusted to him.
      Let him know
      that what he has undertaken is the care of weak souls
      and not a tyranny over strong ones;
      and let him fear the Prophet's warning
      through which God says,
      "What you saw to be fat you took to yourselves,
      and what was feeble you cast away" (Ezec. 34:3,4).
      Let him rather imitate the loving example of the Good Shepherd
      who left the ninety-nine sheep in the mountains
      and went to look for the one sheep that had gone astray,
      on whose weakness He had such compassion
      that He deigned to place it on His own sacred shoulders
      and thus carry it back to the flock (Luke 15:4-5).


      REFLECTION

      The Abbess is clearly expected to go the extra mile and a bit beyond
      for the erring monastic. Hope of reform is held for the longest
      possible time. However, remember balance, that Benedictine hallmark?
      Hope to the extreme would turn to damage. The balance, the moderator
      of reality demands that, at some point, if literally all else has
      failed, the situation be faced for what it is and the monastic
      expelled.

      This is so important for families. How many of us know adults who are
      carrying baggage all their lives from a parent's mistake in this
      regard? All attention is focused on one child (or parent!) to the
      detriment of the rest of the family. Or all attention is focused on a
      child and it ruins the marriage. St. Benedict is very orthodox here:
      he calls us to heroic efforts, but not to stupidity, which would
      damage the rest of the family.

      OK, usually you cannot permanently "excommunicate" one of your
      children, that doesn't apply. But what does apply is that you can
      (even must, for the good of the rest of the group,) stop making
      that child or spouse or sibling or co-worker the determining, pivotal point in a
      dysfunctional three ring circus. Bosses, superiors, teachers and parents,
      anyone in authority can make the WHOLE group suffer by mismanaging
      a troubled person. The untreated problem harries everyone and much of
      the blame for that rests with the one in a position to intervene. This is one of
      the very hard things the Holy Rule asks, to truly balance relationships that are often
      charged with all kinds of intense emotions.

      There are limits to our love for each sheep. Why? Because there are
      other sheep to be loved, too. The responsibility is spread over all.
      Yes, the shepherd may leave the 99 *for a while* to hunt for the lost
      one, but the rest of the flock may never be abandoned wholesale. A
      very hard saying, but, as St. Benedict so often is, right on the
      money!

      Love and prayers,
      Jerome, OSB
      jeromeleo@...
      http://www.stmarysmonastery.org
      Petersham, MA

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    • Jerry Lee
      +PAX Prayers of Deo gratias and thanks for Maureen Tynan, a faithful Oblate of ours and a Mass and Vespers regular, on her birthday. Ad multos annos!! I think
      Message 2 of 3 , Jul 4, 2005
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        Prayers of Deo gratias and thanks for Maureen Tynan, a faithful Oblate of ours and a Mass and Vespers regular, on her birthday. Ad multos annos!! I think she turns 39 this year!

        Prayers, please, for Jim, seeking tech support employment, also for a return to the faith for J.S. and Tom. Prayers for someone hoping to found an Oblate community. Lord, help them as You know and will. God's will is best. All is mercy and grace. God is never absent. Thanks so much! JL

        March 4, July 4, November 3
        Chapter 27: How Solicitous the Abbot Should Be for the Excommunicated


        Let the Abbot be most solicitous
        in his concern for delinquent brethren,
        for "it is not the healthy but the sick who need a physician" (Matt
        9:12)
        And therefore he ought to use every means
        that a wise physician would use.
        Let him send senpectae,
        that is, brethren of mature years and wisdom,
        who may as it were secretly console the wavering brother
        and induce him to make humble satisfaction;
        comforting him
        that he may not "be overwhelmed by excessive grief" (2 Cor. 2:7),
        but that, as the Apostle says,
        charity may be strengthened in him (2 Cor. 2:8).
        And let everyone pray for him.

        For the Abbot must have the utmost solicitude
        and exercise all prudence and diligence
        lest he lose any of the sheep entrusted to him.
        Let him know
        that what he has undertaken is the care of weak souls
        and not a tyranny over strong ones;
        and let him fear the Prophet's warning
        through which God says,
        "What you saw to be fat you took to yourselves,
        and what was feeble you cast away" (Ezec. 34:3,4).
        Let him rather imitate the loving example of the Good Shepherd
        who left the ninety-nine sheep in the mountains
        and went to look for the one sheep that had gone astray,
        on whose weakness He had such compassion
        that He deigned to place it on His own sacred shoulders
        and thus carry it back to the flock (Luke 15:4-5).


        REFLECTION

        The Abbess is clearly expected to go the extra mile and a bit beyond
        for the erring monastic. Hope of reform is held for the longest
        possible time. However, remember balance, that Benedictine hallmark?
        Hope to the extreme would turn to damage. The balance, the moderator
        of reality demands that, at some point, if literally all else has
        failed, the situation be faced for what it is and the monastic expelled.

        This is so important for families. How many of us know adults who are
        carrying baggage all their lives from a parent's mistake in this
        regard? All attention is focused on one child (or parent!) to the
        detriment of the rest of the family. Or all attention is focused on a
        child and it ruins the marriage. St. Benedict is very orthodox here:
        he calls us to heroic efforts, but not to stupidity, which would
        damage the rest of the family.

        OK, usually you cannot permanently "excommunicate" one of your
        children, that doesn't apply. But what does apply is that you can
        (even must, for the good of the rest of the group,) stop making
        that child or spouse or sibling or co-worker the determining, pivotal
        point in a dysfunctional three ring circus.

        Bosses, superiors, teachers and parents, anyone in authority can make
        the WHOLE group suffer by mismanaging a troubled person. The untreated
        problem harries everyone and much of the blame for that rests with the one
        in a position to intervene. This is one of the very hard things the Holy Rule asks,
        to truly balance relationships that are often charged with all kinds of intense emotions.

        There are limits to our love for each sheep. Why? Because there are
        other sheep to be loved, too. The responsibility is spread over all.
        Yes, the shepherd may leave the 99 *for a while* to hunt for the lost
        one, but the rest of the flock may never be abandoned wholesale. A
        very hard saying, but, as St. Benedict so often is, right on the
        money!

        Love and prayers,
        Jerome, OSB
        jeromeleo@...
        http://www.stmarysmonastery.org
        Petersham, MA

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      • Br. Jerome Leo
        +PAX Prayers for the happy death and eternal rest of Gerry, who died suddenly, for his wife, Peggy and all his family, for all who mourn him. Prayers for
        Message 3 of 3 , Jul 3, 2007
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          Prayers for the happy death and eternal rest of Gerry, who died suddenly, for his wife, Peggy and all his family, for all who mourn him.

          Prayers for Bajor's son, that he come to know the fullness of God's will for him and God's protection of him.

          Deo gratias and prayers of thanksgiving for:

          Bobby, whose adoption of his wife's two daughters we prayed for; the court case went smoothly, the adoption is final and Toni-Marie and Taylor have a new Dad.

          Bill, whose bladder cancer we prayed for, he is home and doing much better than expected, still has the cancer, but treatment options will be checked out.

          Dot, whose mastectomy we prayed for, has just gotten a report that he lymph nodes are clear. She is going home today to her own apartment. Dot and Bill are related (I'm not sure how,) and all their family thanks us for our prayers.

          Brenna's Mom, who was wondering about renting her farm has rented it already! A family who badly needed it came her way just like a God-incidence! (I don't believe in COincidence...)

          Prayers for the spiritual, physical and mental health of the following and for all their families:

          Alexander, possible Marfan's syndrome, a connective tissue disease.

          Bonnie, metastatic breast cancer and for Margaret, her Mom.

          Zachary,1, surgery to reconnect his intestine, multiple intestinal troubles in his short life and may still require and intestinal transplant and liver transplant. Also for his parents, Deanna and Brian.

          Lord, help us all as You know and will. God's will is best. All is mercy and grace. God is never absent, praise Him! Thanks so much. JL

          July 4, November 3
          Chapter 27: How Solicitous the Abbot Should Be for the Excommunicated


          Let the Abbot be most solicitous in his concern for delinquent brethren,
          for "it is not the healthy but the sick who need a physician" (Matt
          9:12) And therefore he ought to use every means
          that a wise physician would use.
          Let him send senpectae, that is, brethren of mature years and wisdom,
          who may as it were secretly console the wavering brother
          and induce him to make humble satisfaction; comforting him
          that he may not "be overwhelmed by excessive grief" (2 Cor. 2:7),
          but that, as the Apostle says, charity may be strengthened in him (2
          Cor. 2:8). And let everyone pray for him.

          For the Abbot must have the utmost solicitude and exercise all prudence
          and diligence lest he lose any of the sheep entrusted to him. Let him
          know that what he has undertaken is the care of weak souls and not a
          tyranny over strong ones; and let him fear the Prophet's warning through
          which God says, "What you saw to be fat you took to yourselves, and what
          was feeble you cast away" (Ezec. 34:3,4). Let him rather imitate the
          loving example of the Good Shepherd who left the ninety-nine sheep in
          the mountains and went to look for the one sheep that had gone astray, on whose
          weakness He had such compassion that He deigned to place it on His own
          sacred shoulders and thus carry it back to the flock (Luke 15:4-5).


          REFLECTION

          The Abbess is clearly expected to go the extra mile and a bit beyond for
          the erring monastic. Hope of reform is held for the longest possible
          time. However, remember balance, that Benedictine hallmark? Hope to the
          extreme would turn to damage. That balance, the moderator of reality,
          demands that, at some point, if literally all else has failed, the
          situation be faced for what it is and the monastic be made aware
          that conversion or departure are virtually the only options left.

          This is so important for families. How many of us know adults who are
          carrying baggage all their lives from a parent's mistake in this
          regard? All attention is focused on one child (or parent!) to the
          detriment of the rest of the family. Or all attention is focused on a
          child and it ruins the marriage. St. Benedict is very orthodox here:
          he calls us to heroic efforts, but not to stupidity, which would
          damage the rest of the family.

          OK, usually you cannot permanently "excommunicate" one of your
          children, that doesn't apply. But what does apply is that you can
          (even must, for the good of the rest of the group,) stop making
          that child or spouse or sibling or co-worker the determining, pivotal
          point in a dysfunctional three ring circus.

          Bosses, superiors, teachers and parents, anyone in authority can make
          the whole group suffer by mismanaging a troubled person. The untreated
          problem harries everyone and much of the blame for that rests with the
          one in a position to intervene. This is one of the very hard things the
          Holy Rule asks, to truly balance relationships that are often charged
          with all kinds of intense emotions.

          There are limits to our love for each sheep. Why? Because there are
          other sheep to be loved, too. The responsibility is spread over all.
          Yes, the shepherd may leave the 99 *for a while* to hunt for the lost
          one, but the rest of the flock may never be abandoned wholesale. A very
          hard saying, but, as St. Benedict so often is, right on the money!

          Love and prayers,
          Jerome, OSB
          jeromeleo@...
          http://www.stmarysmonastery.org
          Petersham, MA

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